Relationships Made Easy

“What the hell is counter-dependency?” That was literally my response when I was asked to cover this topic for the podcast. In my over 35 years in the field, I’d never heard the term but, once I started my deep dive into learning everything about it, I realized that I had to do this episode to explain what it is and how it relates to codependency and narcissism. So, get yourself a cup of coffee an...

Do you get anxious or envious when you hear about your colleague’s fabulous vacation? Are you constantly overcommitting? Or maybe you get off social media feeling depressed? You, my friend, are suffering from FOMO: the fear of missing out! Today I’m going to show you how it’s not your fault that you’re on the FOMO train (your brain made you do it) and my top ways to get off that train and start li...

It seems like the definition of friends and family would be “people who have your back, no matter what.” Sadly, that’s not often how it feels. Today you’ll learn the 4 reasons friends and family are unsupportive and my top 5 tips for handling them like a pro so you can walk away feeling calm and confident. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/unsupportive-friends-and-family-the-5-things-you-wan...

Are you dealing with negative self-talk? Is your inner voice an a-hole? Do you routinely say things to yourself like: “Why can’t you ever speak up for yourself?” “Yeah, the boss said I did a great job on that project, but she was just being nice” or “What’s wrong with me?” Today you’ll learn why you’ve got that jerk in your head and my top 3 ways to shut them up! AND I’ve got a free gift for you t...

An emotional affair can be even more damaging to a relationship than a physical one. There’s only so much emotional bandwidth each of us has every day and if your partner is expending that precious energy outside your relationship, that’s going to create disconnection and hurt. Today I’m teaching you the difference between an emotional affair and friendship, the 4 things you should definitely avoi...

What can or should you be doing if your partner is making threats and telling you they’re unhappy? Today I’m going to teach you the 4 things to look out for that might mean your partner is serious and not just making a threat. And then we’re diving deep into the 3 things you need to know, and the 3 things you can do, to turn your relationship around. I’ve also got one of my amazing gifts for you t...

Self-sabotage can show up in any relationship: with our partner, boss, friend or, the one that hurts the most, in our relationship with ourselves! When you self-sabotage you’re holding yourself back from the person you want to be. Today I’m going to teach you why you self-sabotage, the surprising ways it can show up that you didn’t even realize and my 4-step process for stopping the sabotage and c...

Superman did it, but you can’t. The past is unchangeable. Period. End of story. The could’ve and should’ve clearly doesn’t help, but we do it anyway. What’s up with this destructive pattern and how do we change it? Today, I’m going to walk you through my 3-step process to stop regretting an unhappy past and start living in a happy now. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/regret-sucks-the-3-ste...

Today I’m going to take you through the 5 most common ways caring too much about what other people think shows up in your life and my top 5 strategies for dealing with each type of situation. By the end of this podcast you’ll have real ways to move from caring so much what others think, to caring first and foremost what you think! Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-caring-so-much-...

Grief and loss aren’t just about someone dying. Sometimes you’ll experience these feelings due to something out of your control like being fired or someone breaking up with you. Other times, you’ll experience these feelings even when you were the one in control. You might have voluntarily moved from your home or state, been the one doing the breaking up, decided to stop drinking and you can still...

You can’t stop thinking about him. She’s on your mind day and night. You’re trying to distract yourself, but all you can think about is them! Trying to move on after a divorce or break up can leave you feeling anxious, frustrated, and even ashamed of yourself. Today I’m going to tell you the surprising real reason it’s so tough to move on (so you can stop being so hard on yourself) and then (as al...

If I could boil down everything I’ve learned in the last 30 years to have great communication in both your business and personal life, it would be what I’m teaching you today. These 3 things are the reason you’ve tried communication tools before and they haven’t worked. It’s because you’ve got to establish these 3 pillars first, and then you can create connection and understanding in all your rela...

It doesn’t matter if it’s your partner, friend or a work colleague -- it’s so easy to get defensive and butt-hurt when they’re coming at you with something they’re upset about. When you get into a fear-based emotion yourself, you end up with a conversation that spirals down and you both walk away feeling misunderstood, unhappy and disconnected. What’s the answer? You can listen without getting hur...

Self-care is, above all else, paying attention to how you feel! You can exercise all day and get a mani/pedi every week but if you’re not feeling happier or calmer overall, what’s the point? All the physical self-care in the world won’t get you where you’re trying to go if you ignore your emotional self-care. If you’ve been struggling with figuring out how to create effective self-care, today'...

Do you know someone who prioritizes their own needs over yours, with no apology? Maybe you feel like you can’t get their attention or feel like a priority? Do you often walk on eggshells around this person because they’re easily offended, and God forbid you give them feedback or criticism because they blow up? Or maybe you know someone who is always acting like the victim and blaming you when thin...

When you fall in love with someone you get more than just that person because they come with a whole community of friends and family. If you’re lucky, you find that these are all your people too. However, in many cases, you find yourself surrounded by people you don’t like and wouldn’t choose to spend time with if it weren’t for your partner. Today I’m coming at you with the top 6 things you want...

I get asked a lot how to deal with judgmental and critical people. This is an issue for just about everyone, so today I’m coming at you with the 2 reasons people act this way and then my top 4 strategies for finding peace and calm, no matter what they say. Get my book on Audible: Be Happily Married: Even if Your Partner Won't Do a Thing: https://www.audible.com/pd/Be-Happily-Married-Audiobook/...

Join me and NY Times Best Selling author, BJ Fogg, who talks about his amazing book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. Today you're going to learn the simple but effective tools to change some small things and get huge results. You won't need to make any New Years' resolutions because you'll already by already practicing great new habits by the time you ring in...

The holidays are a time when many people throw their rules aside and end up with lots of overdoing: too much food, too much booze or drugs, putting money on credit cards for gifts and travel and trying to cram more into your days than the space-time continuum allows. Layer on top of that all the COVID hell and you’ve easily got a recipe for feeling like crap come January 2nd. I’m here to be your c...

Figuring out how to deal with someone who’s struggling with drugs and alcohol is a topic for any time of year, but if someone you know seems to have a problem, the upcoming holidays are often a time when it’s going to really be highlighted. As a recovering drug addict myself, this is a topic near and dear to my heart. Today I’m giving you everything you need to know to approach any person who’s st...

Today I’m talking about the five ways your family is likely going to drive you crazy this holiday season along with my top five tips for battling back so you can have a joyful, sane and connecting holiday season. And the best news? I’m not going to tell you you have to be grateful or appreciate anyone! Full shownotes (plus "I Feel Exercise"): https://abbymedcalf.com/family-driving-you-craz...

Feeling lonely sucks! If you’re listening, it means you’ve likely experienced the pain of feeling lonely or isolated at some point in your life. Social connection is imperative for humans. It improves our mental well-being and our physical health. Studies have even shown that a lack of social connection can be more detrimental to your health than smoking or obesity! Well, today is all about answer...

Here we are in our last week of Goodbye Negative Thinking Month! For the last 2 weeks, I’ve been laying out the pillars of the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity: First, we discussed the importance of starting each day with positive momentum. Then last week I taught you the second pillar which was all about calibrating and being the dominant vibration in the room. Today, we’re going to discuss the...

When it comes to positive thinking you’ve likely got two big problems that I’m going to help you solve today: 1) You’re in a negative space too often and that’s affecting your relationships. Maybe your negative thinking has you feeling depressed, anxious, impatient or easily frustrated. This, of course, impacts everything from your communication to your connection in all your relationships. 2) You...

Do you have negative thoughts that you just can’t seem to stop thinking? If you’ve tried tools to stop negative thoughts and you haven’t been successful, then this episode is for you. The issue is that you’ve been going about stopping negative thoughts the wrong way. Namely, you wait until you have them, and then you try to stop them. There’s something I call the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity...