Raw Conversations with Corinne Blum

We all have the victim archetype within us but sometimes we can get over identified or over attached to it. It’s the part that says, “Why me?” “Life is unfair” “Good things happen to other people, bad things always happen to me” “I’ll never get what I want.” The victim feels helpless and hopeless and therefore doesn’t work to change things. When dealing with the victim, we have to call upon other...

We might focus a lot on doing the inner work: working through our patterns of behaviour, discovering our wounds, what our needs are, how to cultivate emotional intelligence etc. But if we don’t look at how consciousness plays into all of this, it’s kind of like studying fish in the ocean and ignoring the fact that they live in water. We are consciousness. Consciousness is in all things. It is what...

What I’ve learned over the past few decades, is that the only way to really come home to ourselves is to first walk through our fear. We must not only face it, but embrace it in order to move through into the deeper aspects of ourselves and return home to the lap of love and who we truly are as our Authentic Self. Fear makes us uncomfortable, it’s scary, painful even, but it is the door we must wa...

All change requires transition but we often tend to skip over the transition, or at the very least, move through it unaware. Because sometimes transition is uncomfortable. But transition is a wonderful invitation to be in the present moment. It’s a great opportunity for us to slow down, reflect, process and let go of our past, so that we can move into the future (or the next now moment) with prese...

There’s a process to awakening. First we must find the courage to look at the shadow within and around us, and the shadow is simply the parts that we don’t want to look at. The parts we deny, reject, abandon and hide away. But the shadow is the doorway, the portal, to our liberation and peace. Once we move through our shadow, all our fears, pain, wounding, and learn to love it all—learn to love ev...

Anything that we do entails a certain level of risk. There’s a risk in falling in love, moving to a different part of the world, starting a new job. The risk is stepping into the unknown, not knowing the outcome. The illusion is that we can control the outcome. That we can control others. But we don’t have control of anything, really, other than the way we choose to respond to our experience. When...

Nothing changes when we are in a state of resistance and yet sometimes we have to go through the resistance state to clarify what it is that we want to change. But in order for change to occur, we must stop resisting what is. We have to allow, accept and feel into what is happening right here, right now. Only then can we make a choice as to how we want to respond to our current reality. We have to...

We all have needs but many of them are unconscious, stemming from childhood, and we play them out through our ‘reactive’ behaviour in relationship. Needs are just a feeling that we require in a particular moment and situation. Unmet needs are a feeling we needed that we didn’t receive (most especially in childhood). The need could be for safety, validation, love, assurance, connection, truth worth...

If we believe that there are parts of us that are good and parts of us that are bad, if we believe that certain emotions are positive and therefore ok to feel and others are negative and therefore should be gotten rid of, we are living in duality within ourselves. When we’re in duality, we see things in black and white, good and bad, right and wrong and inevitably what that produces, is judgment....

Life isn’t linear, but cyclical and sometimes squiggly. It isn’t a constant forward and upward moving line, either. It ebbs and flows. It travels across various terrains. Sometimes it’s easeful and we’re riding a nice, long wave to the shore, and in other moments it’s tempestuous. Cultivating resilience and endurance is learning how to dance with life. Knowing that we’re in partnership with life,...

Self-trust is not something that happens over night, most especially in a society that doesn’t encourage us to listen to our true selves. It is something that is cultivated over time. First we have to get to know our true Self, which lies beneath all the false layers of who we think we should be for others. Next, we have to show up with presence and kindness with enough consistency that we begin t...

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ― Rumi No matter what it is that we’re seeking in life, be it love, work, home, we often expend so much energy trying to “find” it. In the process of “looking,” we get tired, we lose hope, faith and the belief that what we’re seeking, we’ll find. In this episode I offer...

Stress, anxiety, worry, fear, all have a way of taking up a lot of our time and vitality if we let them. But we often try to “deal” with these by masking the symptoms. We’re a Bandaid culture that doesn’t often like to take the time to go a little deeper into the core of WHY we feel stressed, anxious, worried or scared. In this episode I talk about how stress plays out in our lives, how we tend to...

How often do you find yourself pretending? You might not be conscious of it but we often don’t share how we really are, not only with others but sometimes, more importantly, with ourselves. We’ll distract ourselves from the discomfort, we’ll push down the pain, we’ll avoid the sadness…but there’s no ‘away.’ There is only repression and at one point or another, we will have to face what’s inside of...

*Correction: around 30 minutes what I meant to say is:” never has it felt bad to put my ego to the side and apologise when I was wrong. When I found humility and maturity. I think my brain thought I said it out loud but I don’t think the words came out that way! 😊. A lot of our suffering comes from the over identification with our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. We believe we ARE them…but we’r...

I believe that the more we get to know ourselves, the more liberation, happiness, fulfilment and peace we create for ourselves. When I was introduced to the Enneagram in my early/mid twenties, it gave me a context to understand myself more. I felt so relieved in a way, thinking, “Oh wow, I’m not the only one that feels this way?!” But more so, it helped me understand the underbelly of who I am. Ho...

Dating isn’t so easy these days for singles. Some of you might be from a generation that you remember what dating was like before smart phones and dating apps; it could only happen organically. Some of you might be from a generation where you’ve never met someone in an organic way but only through apps. It’s a strange time for dating for everyone. But no matter which way you choose to date, how to...

This is really only the beginning of a much vaster conversation. Really, I’d like to speak more to women and men directly, and gather their stories and share more based on what I learn from them. Already I’ve had men especially, reaching out wanting to share their thoughts and experiences. Both women and men alike, have their plight. And I believe much of it comes down to an unhealthy society that...

Yesterday I hit the wall and I felt vulnerable for it. I had a good cry. Today I’m sharing a little about hitting the wall. About not knowing or of knowing that somehow “here” doesn’t feel right, but I can’t yet see where “there” is and how to get there. I don’t have answers but all I can say is that many, if not all of us, are undergoing great transition and the dragging on of it is frustrating....

There is an illusion that comes through wanting to control others or the environment around us. What I mean by that is, we believe that if we can control someone or something else around us, that we’ll feel safe. But safety can’t be conditional and dependent on something outside of us because the reality is we don’t have control of anyone or anything outsides of ourselves. We only have control ove...

Confidence isn’t something you acquire from the outside. Confidence naturally comes when you become comfortable within yourself, and in order to feel comfortable within yourself, you have to get comfy with the parts that make you feel uncomfortable. That’s a mouthful! You can say affirmations, sure. You can do things that make you feel good, sure. Ultimately though, confidence arises when we’ve le...

What is intimacy? What does it require? Why are we afraid of it? Why is intimacy so important? Intimacy is all about heart and it requires us to reside in our heart so that we can connect to others. But our hearts are both powerful and tender so there is great vulnerability and even risk that comes with intimacy. Ultimately, intimacy begins with being intimate with ourselves and being intimate wit...

You’re not a project because you’re not broken and therefore there’s nothing to fix, or even accomplish. I wish I could give you a step 1,2,3 on how to do this life business, but if it were that linear, life would come with a manual. For me, this work isn’t about “doing,” at least it doesn’t start from there. It’s about “being.” How are we “being” with ourselves. Are we being kind or mean? Are we...

The main things that keep us from feeling liberated within ourselves are: our story, judgment and expectations. There will always be an element of struggle and suffering in life, but there’s no need for the unnecessary suffering that comes through all the ways in which we keep ourselves small, put ourselves down or feel like we’re failing at life. One of the greatest intentions I hold in my work,...

Sometimes we simply don’t have the capacity to meet someone’s needs and vice-versa. When we do the inner work, we begin to see life and others through a clear, more neutral lens. Our perspective is less tinted and tainted by our own wounds, triggers and unmet needs. When we’ve healed our wounds and tended to our triggers and know how to show up for ourselves with acceptance, love and care, we can...