Not So Sexy

Have you ever been cheated on, or had someone cheat on you? This week's episode we explored a topic that affects so many relationships, cheating. We brought Jada and Lisa into the studio and asked them do they do it? Cheating that is. Turns they're cheater cheater pumpkin eaters.  Look, if cheating is one of those deal breaker things for you this would be a great episode to listen to. We discover...

This week we brought in Justin and Lisa to talk about friend fucking or as we politely refer to it "Shitting where you eat". We also challenge that notion that friend fucking is bad thing. We learn that having boundaries is important, that treating each other like humans is important, and that indeed sex can be dangerous.  This episode was particularly insightful because one of us is learning to n...

We really do want to know. And so we went and got some answers.  We sat down with DJ Godiva and Sid this week asking them a pretty basic question - what makes them cum... and we learned a lot about BDSM, sloppy blowies, and ourselves. It was super fun to work on this episode because who doesn't want to know more about he messy and sloppy things that "get us there".  As always you can connect with...

Sex, what is it? Does it know things?   This is our 10th episode! What!   Seeing as this is a special occasion we brought Beth and Bryan into the studio and they helped us define what sex is. Turns out sex is a lot of different things. It's a skill, a paradigm, a societal construct created by the patriarchy to keep women down.  Sex is a lot of things. We also talk about some best practices around...

This week we had some technical issues and our episode 9 was completely wiped. We at Not So Sexy™ are sorry to our amazing guests who gave us their time.    We are also sorry to anyone who listens to this podcast regularly. You'll have to wait until next week.     

We learn that you can shave your butthole and that when you live with someone you have to be yourself all the time. Your SO (Significant Other) will, at some point, walk in on you pooping - get over it.  We learn that you deserve to be happy with people you're with.  And finally we learn that boys get to be boys and girls get to wait for boys to figure themselves out - except for the notebook that...

We've been thinking a lot about dating here at not so sexy. As one of us is single, I know, we mention that a lot. But it's something that's on our minds. We've been thinking a lot about the perceptions we have before we go on a date with someone. How we look at them and how they look at us. So we decided to explore this topic. Over three episodes we are going to get the voices of men, women, and...

We all have a moment where we realize we're sexual creatures. Sometimes we realize we like girls, sometimes boys, sometimes butt stuff.  Often our sexual awakening's show us a whole new perspective about ourselves and the world.  This episode we learn that our awakening's have changed who we are, that we deserve good partners, and that our buttholes are no longer off limits. 

Look. Porn is weird and terrible and wonderful. It also has many uses. Sometimes I like to get off on my own and sometimes I like to get off with a partner with it on in the background. It's there when I need it.  Thanks porn! 

Asking for sex can be hard. It can be weird and there isn't really a road map for it. This week we bring on Nicole and Rafe to talk about asking for sex. It turns out that it's not as easy as we thought. Also communication. Shocker!  

How many times have you worried about what you like? Ever asked to be dominated? Want someone just to say "I love you?" This week's episode we bring on Kit, FOR THE FIRST TIME, and Jodi to talk about their perspectives on  getting weird,  which hey IT'S NOT THAT WEIRD.  We also talk about being over weight and finding love. Turns out we just need to love our bodies.   

Today's episode is about Body Shame. We brought Frank, Seth, and Analicia into the studio to talk about how we feel about our bodies.  Look, we only get one body we might as well love it. Additionally, it can be funny standing in our underwear in front of people. As always we want you to have that sweet, nasty, and safe sex. So here are some helpful resources to help you do that.  So our first sex...

We bring in Logan, Melissa, and Katie into the studio to talk about consent. It's such a massive topic. We find out that consent is like a layer cake. A sexy layer cake? No, a regular ol get permission before you stick your finger into the cake cake. Also magic.