Insight Maximizers

Ever wish you had a script for setting boundaries? Something more than just " I'm done " or " Please stop "? Well, grab your metaphorical megaphone and join Suze and Jenni as they walk (and maybe sprint) through a powerful 7-step process for setting boundaries that's clear, kind, and totally doable. Spoiler alert: It starts with a feeling... and ends with walking out if needed. 🛑 Whether you're b...

Suze and Jenni unpack the loaded word selfish —especially when it comes to women and caretakers. Have you ever been told you're selfish just for setting a boundary or doing something for yourself? You're not alone. We talk about the guilt that can come with self-care, how that message got planted in us, and why taking care of yourself isn't just okay—it's necessary. Healthy selfishness is a real t...

Suze and Jenni get real about self-esteem—what it is, how we lose it, and how we can build it back up. Ever catch yourself being way too hard on… you ? Yeah, us too. We talk about the importance of checking in with ourselves, forgiving mistakes, and treating ourselves like someone we actually like. Spoiler alert! One key part of that is self-connection.    Suze Gadol Anderson lives in Eugene, Oreg...

  So many types of "endence": independence, dependence, codependence, and now interdependence! In our lives, there is a continuum of these ways of being in a relationship, where we are dependent as children, and maybe much later in our lives, with a majority of our lives hopefully in the interdependence zone. What is interdependence? Listen to Suze and Jenni discuss what they know about it and how...

Have you ever felt that pressure of potential conflict with someone you love? They want or need something, and you do too, yet those wants and needs are in direct conflict with each other! How do we decide what to do in those types of situations? Suze and Jenni discuss their experiences with these scenarios, and how they navigate it, imparting listeners with some thoughts to help them navigate thi...

  The term codependency was commonly used in the 80s, and it has faded over time. But does that mean that being codependent is gone? How do we even know if we're being codependent? Depending on the person and the situation, doing for others what they should do for themselves can be considered codependent. Allowing others to have consequences for their choices and actions is the answer, even if tha...

Aren't we all supposed to help each other? Most of us are taught that to be helpful is to be loving. How do we know when we help too much? And how do we know when helping someone else actually hurts them or even us? Have you ever helped someone without them even asking? Not helping someone for many is counterintuitive, yet what is actually needed. Listen to this episode to get some tools on how to...

It's weird to think that we don't always know what we're thinking deep down. What's even stranger is how our unconscious core beliefs can affect every part of us, internally and externally!   There are keys to gaining insight into unconscious beliefs. There is such power in becoming aware of a lens that colors our view of the world because then we change that core belief! As the belief changes, so...

Have you ever thought of how much energy it takes to be resentful? And all the emotions that are connected with resentment--the shock, hurt, shame, guilt, and many other feelings that are so draining! It may seem harder to face what's going on in our relationship with someone else in the moment, and it's easier to allow the situation to fester, allowing resentment to be created and grow. We can ac...

Have you ever wondered the difference between venting, complaining, or gossiping? Have you ever noticed how much energy you waste with those habits? The hazard of those behaviors is that they can lead to resentment, which is a waste of our time and energy! How do we let go of negativity and find possibilities? Listen and find out! Suze Gadol Anderson lives in Eugene, Oregon. She is a Licensed Clin...

Do you ever struggle with change? Do you find yourself digging in your heels when change is something you don't want? Just know that you are not alone! Listen to this episode to gain some insight into coping with change! Suze Gadol Anderson lives in Eugene, Oregon. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker practicing in Texas and Oregon. Request a free consult to work with Suze at https://www.authe...

Jenni and Suze come to the end of season four with a message to not get stuck in the triggers and to use the PAUSE as our emergency or first responder plan. Owning triggers and not blaming others is a boundary mindset that enables us to gain insight. This insight can be used to psychologically prepare ourselves for similar events in the future.   They encourage everyone to ask "How" questions to g...

  As Jenni and Suze worked out the Maxer Method, looking at a personal problematic pattern, they acknowledged that feeling activated or triggered is an ongoing part of the human experience. Continuing their work on acceptance has helped to reveal alternatives to dealing with situations in their lives. Pausing, when activated, still proves helpful in assisting them to feel better about how they nav...

The past is the past, right? Not according to Jenni and Suze! In the continued effort to gain insight and use it for better interactions internally and with others, Suze and Jenni discuss how insights from the past can help us plan for the future. They remind us that ignoring the past can potentially cause issues internally and with others. It can also lead to repeating impulsive reactions over an...

Suze and Jenni continue their exploration into how to create acceptance for challenging things in life. They reviewed their thoughts about acceptance, including the fact that this topic was never taught to them when they were growing up. Actually, quite the opposite was something they experienced in their families! Jenni generously shared her example of applying the Serenity Prayer to a recent sit...

  What would life be like for us if we decided to accept things just as they are? Jenni and Suze know that they weren't taught by their parents about acceptance because it was seen as a weakness. It was only through all their psychological work as adults did they learned what acceptance is and the power of it.  Listen as they discuss the benefits of acceptance and consider doing the Maxer Method f...

Now that Jenni and Suze have said the "F" word, they review what forgiveness means and what it isn't. They remind us of the hazards of resentment and its darkness. They question why to even forgive in the first place, and thankfully there are benefits such as peacefulness, better health, compassion, self-confidence, and more! To continue encouraging their listeners to do the Maxer Methods, they di...

Here comes a really challenging topic: forgiveness! Suze and Jenni look at what forgiveness isn't and what gets in the way of forgiving, including looking at resentment. In their usual fashion, Jenni and Suze look to Merriam-Webster's current and 1828 to define forgiveness. They learned about the 9 steps of forgiveness from Dr. Frederic Luskin of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, which they have a...

Jenni and Suze review what they know about the impact that emotions and thoughts have on each other. Suze added information about the correlation between the intensity of emotion and how that impacts thoughts, behavior, and how we feel in our bodies. To help visualize what she discussed, Suze created a handout for y'all to download for FREE at www.insightmaximizers.com/handouts !  Suze and Jenni b...

Jenni and Suze decide to dive in a little deeper into the connection between thoughts and feelings. They look at how our beliefs are created, starting in our early childhood. Beliefs, as they learned, affect how we feel about past experiences. That's the creation of "old stuff."   Fast forward to today, and we have something happen that feels familiar or similar to that past experience. We have em...

After reminding themselves of what they were focusing on with feelings stacking, building tolerance to emotions, feelings flooding and emotional hangovers, Jen and Suze discussed the insight they gained from doing the most recent Maxer Method.   They shared experiences in which they noticed how they reacted to their initial emotions, particularly regarding interactions with others in their lives....

How do we experience our emotions? Jenni and Suze have discussed how we experience our feelings in our bodies. Now they discuss things that can happen with our emotions by how we deal with them. Have you had more than one emotion about a specific situation? That's what most of us experience. Having an emotion as a result of an emotion is a different story. What about the flight, fight, or freeze r...

Jenni and Suze review consciousness, using mindfulness and biofeedback to access information internally to understand how they were reacting to challenging and enjoyable events in their lives. They utilize their new tool, the Self-Awareness Worksheet located at www.insightmaximizers.com/handouts , both realizing that the more detail they wrote out, the better they understood themselves.  They hope...

Jenni and Suze delve into the components of self-awareness, exploring what it means to be conscious and aware. They remind us that insight comes from awareness, particularly of what we experience in our bodies, the emotions we have, the thoughts we create, and the actions we take or think about taking. How do we become self-aware? Mindfulness is discussed, and a reminder that biofeedback helps us...

  Suze and Jenni reconnect to continue their investigation into triggers and activators. They remind themselves and their listeners how we tend to look at triggers as being negative, originating with the Merriam-Webster dictionary and in our internal safety system in our brains.  They decided to look for positive triggers in their lives, and boy, did they find them! It was refreshing to hear that...