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What is breathwork and how can it help you outgrow porn? Burke Atkerson masterfully explains the value of breathwork by drawing from Christian spirituality, neuroscience, and powerful personal experiences.  If you stay until the end, you'll learn an extremely effective breathing technique called the physiological sigh. I loved this episode and I know you will, too. Burke Atkerson is the found...

In this episode, Burke Atkerson tells his story. You'll hear how he sexualized the need to be seen, safe, and soothed—and nearly burned down his marriage. In the ashes, Burke finally found the community that he didn't realize he needed. Fire Nights is his response to the loneliness epidemic plaguing men. Burke Atkerson is the founder of Fire Nights and Men Fully Alive . He is an author,...

Learn twenty ways running or walking can help you outgrow porn. I’m super passionate about this! Join Husband Material on Strava for encouragement and motivation to exercise: https://strava.app.link/Se2l3eYhuTb You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day. Sign up now at husbandmateri...

What does it mean to objectify yourself? Sam Jolman explains objectification, why and how we objectify ourselves, and what healing and repentance can look like.  Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find...

What is problematic sexual behavior (PSB)? Bill Herring, creator of the PSB Framework, explains the history behind this important concept—and how it can help men outgrowing porn. Bill Herring (LCSW, CSAT) is a psychotherapist who has influenced the development of sex addiction theory and practice over the past 30 years. In 2019, Bill received the annual "Carnes Award" from the Society fo...

What is enmeshment? How and why does mother enmeshment set men up to struggle with porn? In this episode, you'll learn ten sexual symptoms of enmeshment and how to outgrow it. Resources mentioned in this episode (including paid links): Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners , by Ken Adams (book) When He's Married To Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hea...

Hear Ken Freire's story of healing from childhood sexual abuse, achieving lasting freedom from porn, and finding joy and purpose in Christ. Ken Freire owns Scriptures.blog and hosts the Shame(less) Podcast . Ken has been helping Christian men break free from addiction and reclaim their purpose for the last 15 years. Through his own journey of overcoming abuse, shame, and embracing God’s grace...

What determines marital satisfaction more than sex or money? What if "compromise" actually makes things worse? How do you create a marriage you love? Sheila Wray Gregoire unpacks the results of her latest research with thousands of married couples, calling out harmful evangelical teachings and sharing a surprising new data on what it takes to build the marriage you want. Buy Sheila'...

What's your plan for outgrowing porn? The Five Circles tool will help you define what freedom looks like, why it matters, and how to set yourself up for success. Download the Five Circles Of Freedom worksheet at husbandmaterial.com/freedom   Mentioned in this episode: Tools For Healing: The Three Circles (blog) Staci Sprout (creator of the Five Circles Model) How To Reframe A Porn Relapse (po...

How can men protect women instead of complying with sexism and abuse? Dr. Andrew Bauman shares the results of his research with over 2,800 Christian women, and what men need to hear in order to advocate for change in our churches and communities. Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is the founder and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC) and has served as a mental heal...

Am I abusive? How can I acknowledge the truth without beating myself up? What makes a good and safe man? Dr. Andrew Bauman explains two ways to be abusive, the difference between humility and self-hatred, and how to express clean anger and fight fair. Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is the founder and director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC) and has served as a mental...

When I watch porn, when I relapse, when I wander, when I make mistakes... in the middle of my sin, how does God really feel about me? Resources mentioned in this episode: Inheritance: Message by Graham Cooke (video) God Has A Name , by John Mark Comer (book; paid link) How Jesus Reverses The Curse (podcast) Here are a few of the Bible passages we talked about: Matthew 3:13-4:11 John 15:9 Romans 5:...

What are the building blocks of a healthy relationship? In this episode, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith reveal the "Intimacy Pyramid" of what is required for trust and intimacy—especially for couples healing from sexual betrayal. Get wisdom from two people who rebuilt their marriage after porn almost destroyed it. Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are clinicians, speakers, and authors of the bo...

Why do I feel so disconnected from other people...and myself? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci unpacks the reasons why many men struggle to emotionally connect. You'll learn about the talker, the fixer, the thinker, the nice guy, "Mr. Right," the runner, the distractor, and the flopper. Mark your calendar for Drew and Eddie's upcoming workshop: Emotional Connection Worksho...

When did you first hear the word "sex" or "porn" or "masturbation"? The first time you ever hear a word has a disproportionate impact. This is called the power of first mention, and it is an extremely important principle for sex education. Related resources and episodes:  TheSexTalk.com (online course for parents) Having The Talks: A Guided Conversation Game On Sexual...

Most of us were never taught how to be vulnerable when we’re sexually struggling. In this episode, Henry Brown shares a simple framework called “scratches, scabs, and scars” to help you decide what to share, when to share, how much to share, and who to trust.  Henry Brown is the Director Of Operations & Support at Husband Material. He is nationally certified as a Life Coach, Recovery Coach, an...

What if Every Man’s Battle is wrong? In this episode, I share how I recently chose to “bounce my eyes” (as Every Man’s Battle teaches) and why I later regretted it. You’ll learn 3 reasons why bouncing your eyes is problematic—and what you can do instead when you see a sexually attractive person or picture.  Related Episodes: When You Get An Erection... What To Do When You See Attractive People Out...

What is sextortion, and how can we guard against it? Chris McKenna shares the dark reality of sextortion, why men (especially young men) are most vulnerable to being sextorted, and what we can do to prevent it. For more information, read this article: What Is Sextortion?  A Prevention And Response Guide For Families Chris McKenna is the founder of Protect Young Eyes. He is a leading digital safety...

What does your wife need when you relapse into porn, unwanted sexual behavior, and breaking her trust? Tammy Gustafson explains what is going on inside your wife when you relapse, how you can helpful rather than hurtful, and why it's wise for your wife to have a relapse safety plan. Tammy Gustafson is the founder of the Betrayal Healing Conference . This free conference is for all women who h...

In this live demo, Doug Carpenter guides Rick Carlson in healing childhood trauma through psychodrama. This episode is an example of Work It Out Wednesday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this weekend at joinHMA.com . Related episodes: Experience Healing Through Psychodrama A Story Of Healing Through Psychodrama Dr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist and foundi...

Learn how external & internal family systems have shaped your sexuality—and what's happening inside you when you feel the pull of pornography. This episode was recorded at "HMA In A Day" as a preview of the Husband Material Academy video course. Watch the video here . You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire H...

In this episode, Drew Boa helps Jordan Castille process a sexual fantasy about a guy in a locker room. This is a demonstration of Fantasy Friday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this week at joinHMA.com . Drew Boa is the founder of Husband Material. He is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional, Inner Child Recovery Specialist, Brainspotting Practitioner, and Certified...

Learn how to face your sexual fantasies and process the particularity of what sexually arouses you. This episode was recorded at "HMA In A Day" as a preview of the Husband Material Academy video course. You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11! This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day. Sign up now at husbandmate...

75% of Christian men and 40% of Christian women watch porn on a regular basis, but only 21% wish they didn't. Nick Stumbo shares these stats and other major findings of Beyond The Porn Phenomenon, a new research report produced by Barna and Pure Desire Ministries. Nick Stumbo is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and host of the Pure Desire Podcast. He's also the author of...

You have a story. Your sexuality has a story. Adam Young explains why and how to engage your sexual story: desires and disappointments, arousal, emotions, shame, abuse, and your war with hope. Adam also gives us a preview of the workshop he will lead at The Porn Free Man Conference on "Engaging God About Your Story." This episode is incredible! Adam Young is a therapist who focuses on tr...