From a Girl's Girl

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Of course someone would want me. Look at what I’ve accomplished.” ? We’re often encouraged to become more beautiful, more successful, more educated, more independent and more accomplished. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting any of those things. But what happens when the things that build our confidence start becoming evidence that we are worthy of love?...

We have boyfriend lists. Husband lists. Deal-breakers. Non-negotiables. But have you ever stopped to think about what you actually want in a friend? As we get older, making friends becomes more complicated. Proximity and shared interests might have been enough when we were younger, but adult friendships often require something deeper. In this episode, I talk about being more intentional about the...

Have you looked at your vision board recently and realised your life looks nothing like your vision board? Somewhere between January and now life happened. It didn't check your calendar, ask if you have capacity, or wait until you had accomplished your goals. It just happened. Same. In this episode, we’re talking about how to stop seeing delayed dreams as failure, how to re-strategise after life t...

Have you ever met someone who felt amazing simply because they did everything your ex didn’t? Maybe they communicate better. Maybe they’re more affectionate. Maybe they’re emotionally available. Suddenly, it feels like you’ve finally found “the one.” But what if what you’re feeling isn’t compatibility… it’s relief? In this episode, I talk about how the pain from our previous relationships can quie...

Society makes many women feel as though being a lover girl is something to be ashamed of. We're told wanting love is a distraction. That yearning for connection makes us naive. And after heartbreak, we're often encouraged to become detached, nonchalant, and emotionally unavailable in the name of self-preservation. In this episode I talk about embracing your quality of being a lover girl and not se...

In this episode, I talk about how healing culture can sometimes make us feel like we need to become “better” before we deserve love. Many of us start healing after heartbreak, disappointment, or unhealthy relationships, but somewhere along the way, healing can quietly become tied to the hope of finally being chosen correctly. We begin believing that if we heal enough, love will finally stay. If we...

In today’s episode of From a Girl’s Girl, I talk about space in relationships and why hearing the words “I need space” can feel so triggering and anxiety-inducing for so many people. I explore the difference between healthy and unhealthy space, how people process conflict differently, and why understanding your conflict language is just as important as understanding your love language. This episod...

There is a thin line between knowing your worth and having standards, and a lot of us blur that line without even realising it. In this episode, I unpack the difference between standards, expectations, and entitlement, especially in the talking stage. We explore how the way we communicate our desires can completely change how they are received, and why some standards are rooted in self-worth...whi...

We always hear people talk about a "type"...but what if what you've been calling your type isn't actually your type at all? In this episode, I unpack the difference between attraction and alignment, and how your dating patterns might be rooted in familiarity rather than intention. I talk about why physical attraction alone isn't enough, how self-awareness shapes your standards, and why discernment...

In this episode, I explore the concept of self-fulfilling prophecies in relationships and how the stories we carry about ourselves in love can shape our dating experiences. Long before we meet someone, many of us already have an internal narrative about who we are in relationships. Some people believe they’re never the one who gets chosen, others fear that commitment will cost them their independe...

Have you ever looked at another woman’s relationship and instantly thought, “She’s settling,” yet struggled to see the same patterns in your own life? In this episode I explore the uncomfortable gap between what we know and what we actually do in love. I talk attachment, hope, romantic delusion, the “future version” of him you’re dating, and why chaos can feel like chemistry. If you’ve ever convin...

We’re often told that when something painful happens, we must immediately find meaning. To stay positive. To believe everything happens for a reason. But what if asking “why me?” isn’t a lack of faith...what if it’s honesty? In this episode, I open up about my recent painful health journey and the emotional toll of uncertainty. I talk about illness, unanswered questions, and the quiet pressure to...

Happy New Year, guys! In this episode I talk about old patterns, why they resurface, why you keep dating the same person, just different body and name, how these moments test our growth, and what healing really looks like in real life. I share my personal experiences with emotionally unavailable men, anxious attachment, and the moment I finally understood that attraction does not equal alignment....

December romance is often romanticised as fun and flirtatious, but for many, the festive season comes with anxiety, disappointment, ghosting, and hard relationship truths. In this episode I unpack the realities of December romance: the unspoken rules, the festive personas we adopt, and why so many connections formed in December struggle to survive January. From premediated flings driven by fear of...

We all know December has its own romantic ecosystem...LOL Some people disappear from their relationships Some get ghosted Others prefer flings over anything serious Some actually find love in December Before I record the next episode on December Romance , I want to hear your do's and don'ts, your experiences, lessons, chaos, December drama, wisdom about December relationships and festive flings. I...

It's December! A whole lifestyle in South Africa, but before the vibes sweep us away, let's talk about why your 2026 goals should be set before January. In this episode, I talk about why the best time to set your goals isn't January, it's right now. December comes with vibes, chaos, bonuses, and a whole lifestyle of its own, but it's also the month where we lose momentum without even realising it....

Too many women give up their dreams, lower their standards, or lose themselves trying to be chosen by men. In this episode, I talk about the importance of building your identity, your dreams, and your foundation before you build with a man. From societal pressure to timelines, to women abandoning their goals for relationships, I explore why prioritising yourself isn't selfish, but necessary. I div...

We often talk about knowing our worth in romantic relationships, setting boundaries, walking away from mistreatment, and refusing to shrink ourselves just to be loved. But what happens when we forget to carry the same self-worth into our friendships? In this episode, I explore 'selective people pleasing' - when you've healed enough to have boundaries in relationships but still struggle to choose y...

Have you ever entertained someone you knew you weren't compatible with, just because it felt good to be wanted? Especially after a dry season where no one was pursuing or chasing you? In this episode, I unpack the intoxicating feeling of being desired and how the need for attention can lead us into place holder relationships. I talk about why attention feels like validation, how it can blur our ju...

Remember when you were a little girl, and there was a woman you admired, maybe she lived in your neighbourhood, or maybe you saw her on TV. You admired her style, her career, the way she carried herself, and the life she created for herself. Looking at her, you saw a glimpse of your own future. Do you remember her, the woman of your dreams? Society often tells us a woman's true success is measured...

When someone ghosts you, walks away, or doesn't fight to keep you in their life, it's easy to feel like you've taken a loss. You start questioning your worth, wondering what's wrong with you, and comparing yourself to people whose partners "fought for them". But the here's the truth: their lack of effort is not a reflection of your value. In this episode, I break down why not being fought for does...

Are emotional needs important in a relationship? In this episode I explore what emotional safety means, how it impacts intimacy, femininity, and self-worth. If you've ever felt unseen, unheard, or like you're walking on eggshells with your partner, this episode will help you understand why.

Hi guys! I know I have been MIA for a while. Life got hectic with a new job and a big move, but I'm back. In this episode I talk about how many of us were forced to choose ourselves, not out of self-love, but because the people we chose or wanted didn't choose us back. When you are discarded or replaced, choosing yourself can feel more like survival than self-worth, and that can keep you stuck in...

In this episode, I delve into how emotional pain, particularly after a breakup, can reshape our behaviour and sense of self. From drinking to distract ourselves, to changing our appearance, or chasing the same person in a different body, heartbreak can push us into survival patterns that often masquerade as personality. I explore the danger of romanticising the past, and how hope can quietly hold...

At what point do boundaries and standards turn into high defensive walls stopping you from forming romantic connections you desire? In this episode, I explore how boundaries can morph into barricades and high defensive walls that keep out the love we desire, making us emotionally unreachable and unable to recognise genuine love. Maybe, being single for a long time isn't about luck -maybe you're ju...