Fierce Marriage

Divorce affects the majority of married couples today—some 75% of couples have one or both spouses who come from a divorced or blended family. This week we discussed a few of the unspoken but very common ways that divorce affects individuals and the marriages they occupy. Selena shared some of her personal experience and reflected on recent reading she's done on the subject. ALSO... we made a pret...

Matt Hammitt had performed his hit song, “Lead Me,” almost a thousand times. And every time he sang, the lyrics echoed the voices of his own family. His marriage was strained. His kids were growing up without him. Matt’s good intentions could no longer sustain his family; he needed to be a man of action. Yet even as he told his Sanctus Real bandmates that he was leaving the band to invest in his f...

Matt Hammitt had performed his hit song, “Lead Me,” almost a thousand times. And every time he sang, the lyrics echoed the voices of his own family. His marriage was strained. His kids were growing up without him. Matt’s good intentions could no longer sustain his family; he needed to be a man of action. Yet even as he told his Sanctus Real bandmates that he was leaving the band to invest in his f...

Many find themselves in one of two camps on this topic: "avoid opposite-sex friends like the plague" or "don't be a prude". We think there's a third way—one that's biblical and wise. In this episode, Ryan and Selena will discuss this controversial topic while sharing their own experiences and biblical understanding of how we “can have the wisdom to know and enjoy the blessing of friendship in a wa...

Many find themselves in one of two camps on this topic: "avoid opposite-sex friends like the plague" or "don't be a prude". We think there's a third way—one that's biblical and wise. In this episode, Ryan and Selena will discuss this controversial topic while sharing their own experiences and biblical understanding of how we “can have the wisdom to know and enjoy the blessing of friendship in a wa...

Not going to lie, we've been going through it. So this week, we've opted to give our amazing listeners a Frederick family update and point you to some tangible resources to help your marriage. We hope it all makes sense, and we thank you for your patience, prayers, and support. Stay fierce! Here are the links to the episodes we mentioned: An Ethic of Protecting Your Family, Marriage, and Home (The...

Not going to lie, we've been going through it. So this week, we've opted to give our amazing listeners a Frederick family update and point you to some tangible resources to help your marriage. We hope it all makes sense, and we thank you for your patience, prayers, and support. Stay fierce! Here are the links to the episodes we mentioned: An Ethic of Protecting Your Family, Marriage, and Home (The...

One of the first pieces of advice we as newlyweds was to never use sex as a weapon. What we've come to realize, however, is that sometimes it should be... just not how you might think. Listen in as we discuss Paul's words on the topic. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early epis...

One of the first pieces of advice we as newlyweds was to never use sex as a weapon. What we've come to realize, however, is that sometimes it should be... just not how you might think. Listen in as we discuss Paul's words on the topic. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early epis...

Everyone knows marriage has incredible highs and very frustrating (and difficult) lows. In today's episode, we shared how we've been in a prolonged "funk" lately but have found a path forward through prayer. Listen in as we discuss the miracle of prayer for believers and practical ways you can make praying a part of your ongoing battle strategy in your fight for a God-honoring, flourishing marriag...

Everyone knows marriage has incredible highs and very frustrating (and difficult) lows. In today's episode, we shared how we've been in a prolonged "funk" lately but have found a path forward through prayer. Listen in as we discuss the miracle of prayer for believers and practical ways you can make praying a part of your ongoing battle strategy in your fight for a God-honoring, flourishing marriag...

Let's get practical. In this episode we discussed five phrases you can say to each other every day that will ensure the "structural trends" in your marriage are for the better. While each of these phrases will sound common, as we discovered, each one represents a profound underlying belief you hold (or don't hold) about God, yourselves, and your marriage. We hope this episode blesses you! Thanks f...

Let's get practical. In this episode we discussed five phrases you can say to each other every day that will ensure the "structural trends" in your marriage are for the better. While each of these phrases will sound common, as we discovered, each one represents a profound underlying belief you hold (or don't hold) about God, yourselves, and your marriage. We hope this episode blesses you! Thanks f...

Striving to enter rest sounds counterintuitive. Funny enough, that language comes directly from Scripture (Hebrews 4). In today's episode, we discussed the biblical idea of Sabbath and what it means for Christian homes today—and how you, as a married couple, can "strive to enter rest" the way the bible commands. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com...

Striving to enter rest sounds counterintuitive. Funny enough, that language comes directly from Scripture (Hebrews 4). In today's episode, we discussed the biblical idea of Sabbath and what it means for Christian homes today—and how you, as a married couple, can "strive to enter rest" the way the bible commands. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com...

You've probably heard pastors warn against physical lust a time or two. But have you considered "emotional lust"? What about emotional lust (and physical lust for that matter) as an unhealthy avenue for escapism? In this week's podcast episode, we discussed emotional lust at length while also examining what we're calling the "Pretend Cycle", or the cycles of escapism. We enjoyed this conversation...

You've probably heard pastors warn against physical lust a time or two. But have you considered "emotional lust"? What about emotional lust (and physical lust for that matter) as an unhealthy avenue for escapism? In this week's podcast episode, we discussed emotional lust at length while also examining what we're calling the "Pretend Cycle", or the cycles of escapism. We enjoyed this conversation...

There is nothing in this life that will transform your heart (and marriage) like thoroughly reading and obeying God's Word (the Bible). In today's episode we discussed our recent journey into a new type of "bulk" scripture reading and shared ways it's already transformed our hearts. Of course, we don't have it all figured out, but we hope that by sharing our journey you might be spurred along in y...

There is nothing in this life that will transform your heart (and marriage) like thoroughly reading and obeying God's Word (the Bible). In today's episode we discussed our recent journey into a new type of "bulk" scripture reading and shared ways it's already transformed our hearts. Of course, we don't have it all figured out, but we hope that by sharing our journey you might be spurred along in y...

What if we told you that marriage matters more than we realized? What if we told you that whenever you fight for your marriage, you're engaging in cosmic warfare. In this episode, we looked at the magnitude of marriage and looked at three specific battlefronts where we wage the warfare of marriage. We hope this episode blesses and emboldens you! Thanks for listening to the Fierce Marriage Podcast!...

What if we told you that marriage matters more than we realized? What if we told you that whenever you fight for your marriage, you're engaging in cosmic warfare. In this episode, we looked at the magnitude of marriage and looked at three specific battlefronts where we wage the warfare of marriage. We hope this episode blesses and emboldens you! Thanks for listening to the Fierce Marriage Podcast!...

There are times in every marriage where you reach a full stop in your communication. Things ice over and you can't find a way forward. Before too long, your marriage drops to sub-zero temperatures and you're fighting for your survival. In this week's episode, we talked about the nature of communication (what it accomplishes and how) and discussed tangible ways to fight through arctic tundras of ve...

There are times in every marriage where you reach a full stop in your communication. Things ice over and you can't find a way forward. Before too long, your marriage drops to sub-zero temperatures and you're fighting for your survival. In this week's episode, we talked about the nature of communication (what it accomplishes and how) and discussed tangible ways to fight through arctic tundras of ve...

Are you in a codependent relationship? How would you know if you were? In today's episode, we asked questions to help couples identify signs of codependency in their marriage. We then looked at the forms and functions of codependent relationships before contrasting them with the healthier alternative: biblical interdependence. We learned a ton and we trust you will too! This four part series has b...

Are you in a codependent relationship? How would you know if you were? In today's episode, we asked questions to help couples identify signs of codependency in their marriage. We then looked at the forms and functions of codependent relationships before contrasting them with the healthier alternative: biblical interdependence. We learned a ton and we trust you will too! This four part series has b...