Dating Déjà vu

In this episode, Christina unpacks the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we change ourselves to be loved, wanted, or accepted. Are you healing and growing because you want to or are you unconsciously shifting to become more palatable for your partner? She dives into the difference between self-evolution and self-abandonment, explains the psychology behind shape-shifting in dating, and offers powerfu...

Love Island fans, let's talk! In this episode of Dating Déjà Vu, Christina dives deep into the messy (and frankly, uncomfortable) dynamic between Huda and Jeremiah from Love Island USA. Christina dissects what love addiction looks like in real-time, the psychological games at play, and how emotional manipulation, insecurity, and trauma bonding can destroy even the most passionate connections....

Is your relationship starting to feel more like cohabitating than connecting? In this episode of Dating Deja Vu , therapist and relationship expert Christina Hathaway dives deep into the quiet crisis so many couples face: the shift from romantic partners to roommates. She breaks down why this happens, how to spot the signs of hidden loneliness in your relationship, and most importantly—what to do...

In this episode, Christina gets brutally honest about what it actually takes to move on after a breakup without ghosting your feelings or glamorizing your ex. From the grief of “the future that never happened” to the shame spiral of the inner critic, Christina breaks down the real psychology behind heartbreak and why feeling your emotions is the most radical thing you can do. Whether you’re fresh...

Is your love language still stuck in the 90s? In this episode, Christina breaks down the five original love languages and gives them the 2025 upgrade they desperately needed. We’re talking less about flowers and sweet texts, and more about safety, consent, intentionality, and presence. Christina shares personal stories and real-life examples to help you recognize how these love languages show up i...

Could the role you played in your family growing up be sabotaging your relationships today? In today’s episode, Christina unpacks the hidden dynamics of family roles—those subconscious identities many of us assume in childhood to navigate dysfunction. These roles might’ve once helped us survive, but they often sabotage our adult relationships and self-worth. Whether you’re navigating healing, pare...

Not all therapy is created equal, especially when it comes to love, dating, and relationships. In this episode, Christina explores the most important red flags to watch for in dating and relationship therapists so you can protect your emotional well-being and get the support you deserve. Whether you're navigating a breakup, building better relationship patterns, or healing from past trauma, yo...

Is your new relationship post-breakup helping you heal—or hiding your hurt? In this episode, Christina dives deep into one of the most common (and confusing) post-breakup questions: is this new partner a rebound or a reset? Whether you're dating for healing, distraction, or connection, your post-breakup decisions shape your future relationships. Christina helps you reflect on your emotional re...

Can you be career-driven and still embody femininity in relationships? In this episode, Christina dives deep into the double bind faced by high-achieving women in the dating world. She unpacks how ambition, control, and performance can sabotage romantic connections, and how embracing softness doesn’t mean sacrificing power. This episode is a must-listen for all the ambitious, goal-oriented women w...

Are they gaslighting you or are you just misusing the term? In this episode, Christina breaks down two of the most misunderstood (and overused) buzzwords in modern dating: gaslighting and narcissism. With compassion and clarity, she explains how labeling every ex or situationship with these terms can be damaging. Not just to them, but to your own healing. Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call wit...

In this episode, Christina dives deep into the complex world of hookup culture, exposing the emotional toll behind the promise of "no strings attached" encounters. Episode highlights:🩵 Why casual sex might be leaving you feeling emptier than empowered🩵 How early exposure to sex can distort your relationship expectations🩵 The critical difference between being desired and being truly seen Let's c...

What really keeps a relationship strong? Spoiler: It’s not vacations, proposals, or grand romantic gestures. In this episode, Christina reveals the one thing that research shows sustains love in the long run: bids for connection. Listen now to learn what it means and how to recognize and respond to these small but powerful interactions that build lasting intimacy—and how ignoring them might be qui...

Let's dive deep into the subtle yet powerful ways conditional love shows up in modern dating and how it may be sabotaging your relationships without you even knowing it. From “perfect girl” syndrome to confusing anxiety with chemistry, she breaks down how many of us learned early on that love must be earned, and how that belief plays out on Bumble, in our DMs, and even in long-term partnership...

Have you ever been in a relationship that looked great on the outside—but felt empty on the inside? In this episode, Christina dives into the quiet emotional detachment that happens long before a breakup. She explores why people start withholding sex, affection, or even updates about their lives—not as a form of punishment, but as a protective response when emotional needs are repeatedly unmet. Us...

Let's dive into the psychology and spirituality of manifestation. But this isn’t your typical “script it and sip your green juice” advice. Christina blends therapeutic insight with real-life strategies for healing your nervous system, rewiring your beliefs, and becoming emotionally available to yourself first. Whether you're tired of breadcrumbing, ghosting, or repeating dating patterns, t...

Ever been praised for being “the total package”— beautiful, successful, easygoing—only to be ghosted the moment you show emotion or vulnerability? In this powerful episode, Christina Hathaway, marriage and family therapist and dating expert, breaks down the Dream Girl Wound— the pattern where high-achieving women are idolized for being perfect but abandoned when they act human. If you’ve felt like...

Before you redownload dating apps or—worse—text your ex, ask yourself the question most people skip: "Am I truly ready to date again?" In this episode, we're going to talk about the often-ignored signs you're not ready to date—and what real readiness actually looks like. This isn't about blaming or shaming. It's about protecting your peace, rebuilding your foundation, and...

In this no-fluff, truth-bomb-packed episode, Christina dives into why some women keep attracting emotionally unavailable men and what it actually means to be a high-value woman. If you’ve ever been ghosted, breadcrumbed, or left wondering why he won’t commit, this one’s for you. Christina unpacks the difference between the “pick me” mindset and the self-rooted, magnetic energy of a whole-value wom...

Is “perfect compatibility” keeping you single? In this episode, Christina dives into the myth of the "perfect partner" and why chasing a fantasy version of love may be sabotaging your chances of real connection. Christina shares personal stories, client examples, and professional insight to help you shift your mindset from unrealistic expectations to meaningful compatibility. Whether you're hyperc...

Let's talk about the unconscious patterns that might be sabotaging your relationships in today's episode. It’s not about shame, it’s about ownership. From unspoken expectations to emotional hijacking and trauma-driven “gut feelings,” Christina walks you through the real reasons love might keep slipping through your fingers, and how to finally break the cycle. If you’ve ever said “they just...

Have you ever found yourself mid-fight about something small like the dishes, the thermostat, or a passing tone... wondering, how did we even get here? In this raw and revealing episode of Dating Déjà Vu, Christina breaks down the REAL reason you keep looping through the same arguments. Spoiler: it’s not about the damn dishes. We’re talking: Why your emotional cup is already full and what’s really...

In today’s episode, we’re flipping the script, we’re not talking about red flags. We’re talking GREEN FLAGS! The subtle, powerful signs of emotional safety, regulation, and genuine connection that most people overlook in favor of sparkly chaos. (Yes, chaos and chemistry are not the same thing.) This episode will have you rethinking every “boring” date you ever ghosted. Because real love isn’t abou...

You’ve heard the clichés: “Once a cheater, always a cheater” or “They just wanted sex.” But what if that’s not the full story? In this episode, Christina goes deep into the real reasons people cheat—from unresolved trauma and emotional neglect to ego crises, conflict avoidance, and unmet needs. Whether you’ve been betrayed, have cheated, or simply want to understand infidelity through a more human...

You say you have high standards. But is it really self-respect or self-sabotage in disguise? In this episode, you’ll learn how to tell the difference between standards that protect your peace and walls that block your connection. Christina dives into the origin of emotional walls, how hyper-independence masks emotional wounds, and how to open up to love without losing yourself. If you're constantl...

Are you falling for potential instead of choosing a partner who’s ready to show up for love today? In this episode, Christina breaks down the hidden truth behind dating "fixer uppers." From childhood caretaking roles to modern-day overfunctioning, she reveals why some of us feel most alive in relationships where we are needed... but not necessarily valued. You’ll learn: ✨ Why chemistry...