Coparent Academy Podcast

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube. Having tough conversations with your coparent can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions run high or past conflict clouds your judgment. In this video a family law attorney and a therapist talk about practical, compassionate strategies to help coparents with difficult discussions. Whether you're deciding on daycare, addressing new roma...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/JZg4RHaNxd4 There’s a widely misunderstood belief that children can choose which coparent to live with once they turn 12. But the reality is far more complex—and emotionally loaded—for both kids and parents. In this video we unpack the legal truth, emotional toll, and long-term consequences of involving children in custody deci...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:   Mindfulness is a powerful tool for navigating high-conflict coparenting dynamics. In this episode, we talk with Karen Kranbuehl — a licensed clinical social worker and attorney — about how mindfulness can help coparents move from automatic, stress-driven reactions to more intentional and productive communication. Learn how slowing down, being...

Let us hear from you! Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-miVOo1A5Nw Discipline done wrong can destroy your relationship with your child—and even land you in court. In this episode, we break down 8 common discipline mistakes that cost parents not only thousands in legal fees but also the trust of their children and coparents. Whether you're going through a custody battle, coparenti...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on Youtube Struggling with a high-conflict coparent? You’re not alone. But while conflict in coparenting might be unavoidable it doesn't have to be destructive — to you or your kids. In this episode, we’ll break down a powerful mindset shift to help you stay grounded during frustrating moments. Using the common (and infuriating) example of your coparen...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/wtOVdWh5RLQ Are you tired of unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings with your coparent? Mindreading can be a major relationship killer, including your coparenting relationship. In this episode, we talk about 8 key reasons why you should never try to mindread your coparent. From avoiding miscommunication to promoting a heal...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/u2y48WhgMdI Is the Right of First Refusal good for your parenting plan—or a source of unnecessary conflict? In this episode, we break down the controversial clause known as the Right of First Refusal in custody agreements. You'll learn: What the Right of First Refusal actually is When it works—and when it causes more harm...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/lqVKHHxQQaY Unnecessary communication is one of the worst unforced errors in coparenting. Learn what necessary coparenting communication actually looks like, how to avoid emotional traps, and how to stay focused on your child’s best interests. You’ll learn: ✅ The difference between helpful and necessary communication ✅ How to...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube   This week a tornado hit our home. And I got COVID. I was reminded how fragile our window of tolerance can be when life throws everything at us all at once. This week I found myself way outside of my own window of tolerance. In this episode I talk about what that looked like and how I found my way back. In this episode, I talk about: The emotion...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on Youtube:  https://youtu.be/qRtXCKc3qOI Are you struggling to connect with your child during emotional meltdowns? Feel like nothing you say helps them calm down or understand what went wrong? In this video, we break down the powerful 4 Rs method — Regulate, Relate, Reason, Restore — based on the work of Dr. Bruce Perry (3 Rs) and trauma-informed parenting...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/XYotWpy3HW4 Why do kids suddenly explode with emotion—or completely shut down? In this episode, we look at how Dr. Dan Siegel’s Window of Tolerance model helps us understand emotional regulation in children. Learn: - What causes kids to "flip their lid" - How to spot hyper- and hypo-arousal - Practical tools to bring...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:   https://youtu.be/QuwvHKor6L0?si=zvsuBaVrrZ86Q8GB Are you struggling to connect with your child after a divorce or separation? Do you feel like parenting issues may lead to problems in your coparenting relationship? In this episode, we discuss a powerful, trauma-informed approach to connection called PACE (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, an...

Let us hear from you! Coparenting is challenging, but what truly matters for your child's well-being? In this video, we break down Dr. Emery’s adaptation of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs for children in two homes. We’ll discuss what matters more than simply having two parents and how you can create the best possible environment for your child—even after separation or divorce. 🔹 Learn why one g...

Let us hear from you! Have you ever reacted to your child in a way that surprised you? Do you sometimes feel frustrated with how you parent? The answer might lie in something deeply ingrained—your internal working model . In this video, we explore: 🔹 What an internal working model is and how it’s formed 🔹 How your childhood experiences influence your parenting style 🔹 The difference between sec...

Let us hear from you! Have you ever wondered about kids whose behaviors don't neatly fit into traditional attachment theory categories? Those are the "unclassifiable" children first observed by Mary Ainsworth during her "Strange Situation" tests. This video looks at how these unclassifiable reactions led researcher Mary Main to identify a new attachment style known as &quo...

Let us hear from you! Have you ever wondered how your child truly sees you—not just on the surface, but deep down? The way you interact with them forms their inner working model —a blueprint that shapes their future relationships, self-worth, and emotional well-being. In this video, we break down: ✅ How early experiences shape attachment and trust ✅ The impact of secure vs. insecure attachment s...

Let us hear from you! Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/YwBdKE9cSOU Do you ever worry about whether your child feels secure with you—or with your coparent? You're not alone. While there isn’t a simple questionnaire to measure a child's sense of security, attachment theory provides valuable insights into how children form relationships with their caregivers. In this episode...

Let us hear from you! Attachment isn’t just about emotions—it’s a survival strategy wired into our DNA. From the moment we’re born, we rely on our caregivers to shape how we connect with the world. But how does this work? And what happens when those connections break down? * Watch this episode on YouTube ( https://youtu.be/7ecu1EYplTU?si=Qvaw4zrCHd4xYpri )  In this episode, we discuss:  Why attach...

Let us hear from you! Your baby’s brain develops at an astonishing rate during the first two years of life, and two powerful forces are at play: genetics and experiences. We discuss how these factors work together to shape your baby’s brain architecture and how toxic stress can disrupt this delicate process. Learn the science behind brain development and find out why to protect your baby from the...

Let us hear from you! This is Episode 2 in our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series.  In this episode we dig into the epigenetic effects of stressors on children during pregnancy.  We discuss:  The Diathesis-Stress Model Epigenetics Prenatal Brain Development Prenatal Programming (aka DOHad or the Barker Hypothesis) Examples including the epigenetic effects of the: Descendants of Holocaus...

Let us hear from you! This is Episode 1 of our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series. In this episode we give an overview of how the emotional brain develops, based on the work of Dr. Allan Schore. Next week, we'll get into the details of how the brain develops and what brain scans of mothers and their infants interacting can teach us about attachment. This week we introduce our new s...

Let us hear from you! This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids.  This series is designed to help you better understand your child’s emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure. The series focuses on two key themes: The Science of Emotional Development – We’ll explore how a child’s brain develops, from bef...

Let us hear from you! This week is the last in our holiday replay series.  Next week, I'll introduce our new series on the development of children's emotional brain, attachment, and what that all means for coparents.  The replay this week is part 2 of our conversation with Brad Baldridge. Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding pla...

Let us hear from you! This week we begin a replay of our two-episode conversation with Brad Baldridge. Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding planning and the chief podcaster of Taming The High Cost Of College.  He provides customized planning using the latest financial aid, tax, cash flow and academic strategies. In this conversation, we d...

Let us hear from you! This week we conclude the replay of our conversation with Licensed Professional Counselor Jaime Vogt about Extended Forensic Evaluations (EFE). In this episode, Jaime discusses in detail the process she uses to conduct an EFE. Jaime is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Oklahoma. She has conducted over 3,000 forensic interviews of children for frontline investi...