Conversations with a Narcissist

Recorded March 18, 2025 It is what it is.

Recorded March 18, 2025 “I’d rather be dead than afraid.” Martin Luther King Jr. Grounded in reality, I see shades of humanity; may our hearts, minds, and bodies heal for this is the greatest work of all.

We live. We learn. We grow. 

Coming March 14, 2025

Recorded January 30, 2025 I am well acquainted with the grief process, and this is my day of acceptance. My mind is relentless, not to fix him, but for my journey and breaking the cycles of abuse in my family.  We cannot heal that which we cannot label or identify. I needed to understand why we had these experiences for my own healing, protection, and education of my children. This recording gave...

Recorded June 6, 2024 I’m not even sure who he is at this point. I was shocked by his lack of memory, clarity of memory, and “new awareness.” He changed the game, but I couldn’t see it yet.

Recorded May 18, 2024 I don’t believe that reactive or justified abuse is acceptable, it’s understandable but not acceptable. I have been working to respond rather than react for over 20 years. I f’ing tried. I tried so hard. The only thing I knew to do is quit talking.

Recorded April 13, 2024 Covert behavior is so difficult to identify. Every conversation is essentially the same. More apologies. More promises that never happen.

Recorded March 16, 2024 Nothing is easy.

Recorded March 14, 2024 This would’ve been our 20th wedding anniversary. March 15, the next day was our one year divorce anniversary. The pettiness… wow. Picking a fight with his daughter. She ignores him. In our home, everyone is responsible for their own laundry. Instigators be instigating. Lol!

Recorded January 18, 2024 Quite frankly, I don’t care is someone doesn’t have empathy, just be honest, don’t play stupid games, and handle your responsibilities. We have children. I wasn’t trying to have a relationship. I was trying to provide for our family. We all interact with narcissists, and most of the time it’s not a problem but he would actively destroy anything I created, UNLESS he was at...

Recorded October 12, 2023 Our vibe or energy is contagious. We become what we are around or we become very self-aware and learn to play the game. We travel the spiritual journey alone. In the aloneness, we find ourselves. Narcissists find a void. Both are on an internal spiritual journey, but only one can see a world or people outside themselves.  If you deeply care about people, spaces, and injus...

Recorded September 20, 2023 OMG. JUST ASK A FCKING QUESTION. This cycle is so painful. He would express care and ask questions, to get me to open up. Then, at my most vulnerable moment, he attacks. He has read dozens of books on communication and self-help but only got worse. *My understanding of narcissism in this recording is not correct. Narcissists have two types of desires, goals, or supply....

Recorded September 18, 2023 I don’t even remember what happened. I’ve had this conversation too many times. It’s stupid. Yeah, I said it.

Recorded September 16, 2023 Yuck, I’m playing the game. Too careful. Mother. Too patient. Teacher. A month prior, my oldest daughter and I were stopped in traffic and rear ended at a fairly high speed. We were very fortunate to not have major injuries however the doctor appointments were a full time job for about three months and the settlement took over a year to finalize. Being injured meant I w...

Fear is such a weird emotion. The more we fear something the more likely it is to happen… ironic. Myself and all five children are skilled carpenters. One by one each one of us have refused to work with him. It was our children that continuously warned me that something was going wrong, I listened and did the research.

Recorded August 30, 2023 My existence is evidence of the irony of faith; a knowing that surpasses understanding. From my earliest memories, I’ve known God. In many regards, my faith has made me fearless, which makes me a magnet for sinister delight. Discernment is the ability to judge well, but society has taught us not to judge. For women this belief is deadly. Being fearless without discernment...

Recorded August 15, 2023 Over the years, he has been to so many specialists trying to figure out what’s happening with his brain, memory, and comprehension. Brain scans, chiropractors, allergy specialists, a few random therapists, no one had answers. The accidents, misunderstandings, lost money and other important items, and mistakes were so common, I couldn’t clean up messes fast enough. Not a mo...

Recorded September 7, 2021 We had been through so much together, my mother’s death, the anti-trafficking movement, our son’s life-threatening illness, and a hurricane. We clung to each other and had survived the darkness, but when things were slightly more stable… he leaves. I felt like it was my fault. I brought up my pain too much, but the pain never stopped. I was relieved he was leaving, yet t...

Recorded August 7, 2021 He created opportunities to hurt me deeply; spending weeks or months, bringing me flowers, and writing love notes. He never really wanted sex, but almost always sexual. In 19 years, neither of us cheated. I thought that was a good thing, but I now realize it was a sign of a much bigger issue. When I would share something with him or be vulnerable, he would use that as an op...

Recorded July 31, 2021 This. Is. Where. Things. Get. Wild. I went public with my story of being a trafficking survivor and former *adult* worker in 2009. In 2020, I published a book exposing the anti-trafficking movement and my experiences. Since 2009, I have lived with the stigma associated with being in the adult industry, AND my ex’s favorite fantasy was doing p*rn. This left the question, why...

Recorded July 21, 2021 I didn’t like how he talked to me. He didn’t like me. I believe that sums it up. Lol!

Recorded July 1, 2021 After 16 moves in 2020, we finally had stable housing. The isolation was growing worse and I was no longer pretending to be okay.

Recorded August 12, 2020. This episode makes me nauseous. I was so naïve. After this recording, we started a daily video series called Just Look At It. The show lasted less than 20 days. I took the kids and left, closing the doors to our business and our only stream of income. Leaving him, destroyed our brand and trust with our audience BUT I could not go on. The kids and I were having medical iss...

Recorded July 12, 2020. I could not understand how he could not see everything I was doing to keep our household and business operating. My prior career was consulting, speaking, and writing; he was joining me in a new venture. I had charts and graphs to explain our leadership, relationship, and cycles, but the acceptable standard constantly shifted. I work too much. I don't work enough. We never...