Building Resilience

This is an exciting episode for us, because it was based on a book that we refer to all the time—it can make such a big difference in understanding and dealing with relationships of all kinds: with your partner, your kids, your friends, your neighbors...pretty much anyone you meet! The book is The Four Tendencies , by Gretchen Rubin, the author of the well-known book, The Happiness Project . She s...

Since 2020 rolled around, there has been a lot of talk about the concept of "languishing". If you haven't heard about it before, it's a state where you're tired and overwhelmed, but you kind of want to do things. You're lacking energy, enthusiasm, and motivation. You're not completely depressed because you do believe that things will eventually get better. "Languishing" was coined by Dr. Corey Key...

Since experts have been establishing such strong connections between the gut and the brain, it makes sense we wanted to have today's guest on our show! We're lucky enough to be joined by Hollie Chrome of Hollie Chrome Holistic Wellness. Hollie specializes in supporting women in feeling empowered about their Health and Wellness through creating and achieving their own unique Wellness Vision. Hollie...

We've all felt overwhelmed before when we have a lot going on at once in our lives. Thoughts like "I'll never get this done" and "I don't have time to do this" get stuck in our minds. These thoughts create a storm of irritation, frustration, and other emotions, which create the situation of overwhelm. Fortunately, overwhelm isn't something that happens to us—it's a state that we actually create wi...

Sometimes the word "stress" can be used to describe things that are going on inside of us, like our thoughts. Many times, we say our stress is caused by our family, work, school, health, commute, money, COVID (among many, many other things). But what if we were to tell you that your stress is actually caused by none of the above? These stressors are not the cause of your stress. And as long as you...

We're pleased to have our very first guest on this episode of Building Resilience, and it's a big one for us! Dr. Eric Gentry of the Forward Facing Institute is an internationally recognized leader in the study and treatment of traumatic stress and compassion fatigue. He has trained over 100,000 health professionals over the past 20 years, and we're two great big fans of his! Dr. Gentry joins...

Do you like peaches? Believe it or not, there are people who do not like peaches. You can be the juiciest, most beautiful peach, but there is always someone who's not going to like peaches. But do we worry about it? Who's at fault, if somebody doesn't like peaches, do we blame the peach? There are plenty of peaches and plenty of apples to go around, so be who you want to be! This week, we talk abo...

"You can search the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than yourself. And that person is not to be found." - Buddha Research shows that self-compassionate people tend to be more caring, supportive and compassionate towards others. What does that mean? It means that being kind to yourself is actually an act of kindness to those around you! Want to learn how...

How many times do we say "I feel anxious", but we're not really sure why? Anxiety is an emotion, but it also has a physical component, the stress component, which is the fight or flight stress response. The brain gets alerted that you were under a threat. You feel the emotion of anxiety and then your body goes into the fight or flight response. Our body is reacting as if there's danger—but the dan...

Mindset. We've all heard the word, especially in a self improvement setting. But what does it really mean? A mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notions held by one person or a group of people. It arises out of a person's worldview or their philosophy of life. Boiled down—it's basically the way we think.  Our mindset is an amazing thing, because it shapes the reality of everything we...

The inner critic. The super ego. The Mean Girls. The concept has many nicknames but they're all the same thing—that inner voice we hear criticising us whenever we try to change. We're imagining we're hearing their voice in our minds, but their opinions are also imaginary. Who are these mean girls? What do they want? How can we use their chatter to our advantage? And what does all this have to do w...

Where does love come from? Most people would say, it comes from my significant other, my kids, my dog, my family, my friends—movies or commercials or cards lead us to believe that love comes from somebody else. This week, we're here to tell you love is not what you think! Because we know that any feeling is created by a thought, and feelings are created by thoughts, we create our love. As always,...

Have you ever been in a relationship where someone constantly criticizes you? Maybe they say you're not tall enough, thin enough, smart enough or sexy enough. Even when you do succeed, that person doesn't seem to acknowledge it or share your joy. Sometimes that voice grows louder and louder, because someone else's voice joins theirs: ours. This week, Heather and Leah talk about confidence: what ar...

Before you go running and thinking "Post-traumatic growth? That's so not for me." —this information is actually really valuable. As we've talked about numerous times before, trauma in all its glorious forms is something that we are all going to be confronted with either personally or we're going to witness a loved one, experiencing something. Sometimes these traumas can turn into something difficu...

Contrary to how it might feel, we get to decide how we act. If someone says something offensive to us, we can choose to end the conversation. We can choose to never talk to that person again. What we can't do is control what they think, feel, or do. On today's episode, we discuss how we can take advantage of the choices we do have, even when it seems like we might not have many options....

We used to think you can't teach an old dog new tricks. However, we now know that, while children are able to heal from their injuries and learn things much faster than adults, we also have the ability to intentionally change our brain. Join Heather and Leah this week as we talk about neuroplasticity. What is it? What do we know about it? And how can using it to our advantage literally let us phys...

As we've discussed, your mind is a powerful thing—but so is your mouth (or rather, what comes out of it). Words matter, and our own mind is listening to the words we say whether we realize it or not. Join us on this week's episode as we discuss how the language we use is more powerful than we think, how "have to" and "should" are more damaging than we think, and how Yoda basically has all this fig...

This is the second part to our episode on feelings! Join us as we spend some time talking about how to allow, how to process, and how to digest emotion. This is truly the way we gain authority over emotions in order to move forward in life. There's no way around a negative emotion as they say, the only way around is through which means we need to learn to process them. It's a skill that we have to...

Not feeling your feelings keeps you safe. That works in the short term, but when we run from them, sometimes it can make things much harder in the long term. Join Heather and Leah in this week's episode, which is the first of two about feelings. What are they? Why is facing them important? And how can we 'hack' our reactions to help us weather life's challenges? Find us on our website  or&nbs...

A thought download (or put not-so eloquently, a thought dump) is one of those tools that we truly believe in because we use it a lot! Writing things down, whether it be a stream of consciousness or intentionally separating the good from the bad, allows your brain to slow down. Join Heather and Leah this week as they discuss how writing your thoughts can help you control what you think, discover wh...

If you asked everybody what their life's goal is, many people would say "to be happy". But what does "being happy" mean? Does that mean you're happy forever? If you're not happy, have you failed? As weird as it sounds, trying to be happy all the time puts a lot of pressure on us. That pressure can cause anxiety, which can make us less happy (do you see where we're going with this?). Join Heather a...

The Equation of Life is a framework based on multiple different philosophies and psychological discoveries which we can use to help reveal things to ourselves, about ourselves. It's elegant in its simplicity but covers a wide range of topics (are you intrigued yet?!). Join Heather and Leah this week as they explore the Equation of Life. What is it? How do we use it? How can it help us get to know...

Our human brains are very complex and we're still trying to figure them out. Different parts are good at some tasks, and not so good at others. However, if we can learn to tap into the more rational parts of our brain, we can gain control and access comfort, peace and joy. In this episode, we talk about "fight, flight, or freeze" responses—sometimes helpful in the short term, but detrimental for t...

So many decisions we make put us at a crossroads. The good news? Since we're humans, we have the final say! This week we talk about the duality of our brain, the thoughts we have, and what we can do to name (and tame) those voices within our heads! Listen to Tim Urbana's TED talk here. Find us on our website  or  join our Facebook group . We'll see you there! Hosted on Acast. See acast.c...

And now, for the title of this podcast: resilience. It's the basis for making your life not just about making it through the day, but about self improvement. Join us on this special episode where we discuss resilience. What is it? How can we develop it in ourselves? And what's the point? Find us on our website  or  join our Facebook group . We'll see you there! Hosted on Acast. See acast...