Breaking the Silence

Grab your coffee and settle in, because Raynea and Kelli are pulling questions straight from the jar — and nothing’s off-limits! From hilarious childhood memories to the faith-filled moments that shaped them, this episode is a rollercoaster of laughter, vulnerability, and heart. It’s real, it’s raw, and it’s exactly what Breaking the Silence is all about — finding connection, healing, and a whole...

It’s just me this week—and I’m spilling the tea from my younger years that I’ve never shared before. Let’s just say… if you’ve ever wondered how your attachment style might’ve shaped your love life, this one’s going to hit home. I’m diving into the ways I sabotaged a relationship without even realizing it—and the powerful lessons that surfaced once I understood why . 💭 We’re wrapping up our deep...

When someone sees us up close, the mirror doesn’t lie. Relationships have a way of exposing the hurts we’ve hidden and the patterns we’d rather ignore. In this episode, we’ll step into those uncomfortable reflections—why they surface, what they’re trying to teach us, and how facing them can become the doorway to deeper healing and truer connection. Books on Attachment: Attached by Dr. Amir Levine...

In this episode Kelli and I talk about the surgery I’m having today. We also share about the hard but beautiful truth that sometimes we simply can’t do it all on our own. I open up about those first days after Dave died, when I knew I couldn’t raise four kids without a village. Admitting I needed help was one of the most humbling moments of my life, but also where I saw God’s faithfulness the clea...

This week’s episode took a surprise turn. Kelli and I had a different episode planned, but life had other ideas. Instead, we found ourselves talking through some of the really raw and challenging moments of being a mom—the ones that can feel heavy and lonely. 💛 To every mom out there carrying so much: we see you, we get it, and you are not alone. And because sometimes the only way through the har...

We’re continuing the conversation from last week about how fearful and dismissive avoidants use deactivating strategies when closeness starts to feel overwhelming. For avoidants, caring too much or fearing rejection often triggers the instinct to pull back—because distance feels safer than vulnerability. In this episode, Raynea and Kelli walk through 21 different ways avoidants create space in rel...

Have you ever been in a relationship where everything feels amazing one day… and then suddenly, the other person goes quiet, distant, or even picks a fight out of nowhere? Yeah, that’s what we’re talking about today. In this episode, Kelli and I dive into the world of avoidant deactivation —what happens when fearful and dismissive avoidants start pulling back in relationships. We share: The real r...

If you could sit down with your younger self, what would you say? In this episode, Kelli and I each share some powerful pieces of wisdom we wish we had known 10 years ago. From lessons learned through pain to truths that set us free, we open up about the insights that shaped our journeys. We end with an invitation for you to reflect on your own “lesson learned” and how it might guide your path for...

Kelli and I had such a real conversation today about that little dash between the day we’re born and the day we leave this earth. That dash is our one life—what are we doing with it? We talk about being intentional with our time and our words, treasuring the moments with the people we love, and making sure no one ever has to wonder how we feel. It’s about living full out, being bold, and not wasti...

Your identity isn’t up for debate — it’s already been spoken over you by God. But if we’re honest, the voices of others can feel louder than His sometimes. In today’s episode, we’ll dive into why we care so much about what people think, how to untangle our worth from approval, and how the Let Them mindset can help us walk in freedom. If you’re ready to stop shrinking to fit into other people’s box...

What do you do when the last child leaves the house—and the quiet sets in? And what if you're still raising kids, but you've already walked five out the door? In this heartfelt episode, Kelli shares what it’s been like watching her stepdaughter—the last to leave—step into adulthood, officially making her a new member of the empty nest club. I (Raynea) reflect on the journey of launching five grown...

What does it actually look like to feel  secure  in love, in friendship, in parenting—even in your relationship with God? After talking through the different attachment wounds, today we’re shifting the focus to something so many of us are craving:  secure attachment . In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking: 💡 What secure attachment is (and what it  isn’t ) 🧠 The mindset and nervous system of...

Have you ever felt torn between craving closeness and wanting to run the moment someone gets too close? Or maybe you’ve loved someone who’s hot and cold—chasing connection one minute and pulling away the next? In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking the  fearful avoidant attachment style , where the need for connection and the fear of being hurt exist side by side. We’re diving into: ⚡ How fea...

Do you ever feel like you're  too much  in relationships? Like you're constantly overthinking, needing reassurance, or afraid someone might leave—even if they haven’t said a word? If that sounds familiar, you might be navigating  anxious attachment . In today’s episode, Kelli and I are pulling back the curtain on this deeply emotional and often misunderstood attachment style. We’re talking about:...

Why do some people seem so emotionally distant—even in relationships they care deeply about? In this episode, Kelli and I are talking all about the  dismissive avoidant attachment style —what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes our closest relationships. Whether you've been on the receiving end of someone's emotional walls, or you're realizing you  might  be t...

If you're new around here—welcome! In this episode, Kelli flips the script and asks me the questions, so you can get to know the heart behind  Breaking the Silence.  From the grief that shaped me, to how I found healing, to why I started this podcast and what drives my work today—we’re pulling back the curtain. This conversation is honest, fun, and full of little pieces of my story that I hope...

In this honest, heart-to-heart conversation, Kelli and I open up about something so many of us wrestle with—the urge to run when relationships start to feel too close. We talk about the stories we’ve told ourselves for years… like  “I’m too much,”   “I’m not worthy,”  or  “I’'m unloveable.” From attachment styles to the beliefs that quietly shape how we show up (or shut down), we explore what’s un...

This week’s episode is a special one—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. I’m not doing this alone anymore. Today, I’m introducing you to someone who’s been behind the scenes in my story for years: my best friend, my safe space, and now… my co-host. Kelli and I have walked through deep grief, big transitions, healing, and lots of laughter—and now we’re bringing our friendship to the mic. We’re sha...

This one’s real and raw, friend. I sat down with tears in my eyes and a heart wide open, processing my deep desire to be a constant, steady, safe place for the people I love—just like God has been for me. What if we could be that anchor for others in the middle of their chaos… not trying to fix them, but simply being present? In this episode, I explore about what it looks like to love others —stea...

Today, I’m sitting with my sweet friend Laura, who’s walking through something no one is ever truly prepared for. Just three months ago, her husband went to heaven after some major life changes. After 28 years of marriage, she never expected to carry the title “widow.” In this honest and tender conversation, Laura shares what it’s been like to lose the love of her life—and how she’s learning to ta...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Gina Nichols — certified life coach, dynamic speaker, and the visionary founder of  Divorce: Redefined . After walking through the heartache of three divorces and raising a beautifully blended family, Gina made a powerful decision: her story wouldn’t end in pain. Instead, she transformed it into purpose. Now, she helps high-achieving women stop letting divorce def...

What do you do when life shatters around you? When the very people who were supposed to love and protect you are the ones who cause the deepest wounds? In this powerful episode of  Breaking the Silence , I sit down with Dana Hildebrand, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Transformational Faith-Based Life Coach, who knows firsthand what it means to feel abandoned, broken, and lost. After endurin...

There were days I questioned why—why I had to walk through loss, why the road felt so heavy, why life had to change in ways I never wanted. Maybe you’ve felt that too. But here’s what I know now: God has placed me, and you, exactly where we’re meant to be. Even in the pain, even in the uncertainty, there is purpose. You are a light in someone’s darkness. Your story, your presence, your voice—it ma...

After a few months away, I’m back—and I have so much to share. In this episode, I open up some about the hard season I’ve been walking through, the time I took to pray, and the unexpected beauty that has emerged even in the midst of it all. Sometimes, stepping back is exactly what we need to move forward. Join me as I share my heart, life updates, and the lessons I’ve learned along the way.

As we wrap up 2024, I’m taking a step back from the podcast for the remainder of the year. This break is a time to reflect, recharge, and prepare for what’s to come. I’ll be back in 2025, though I’m not quite sure of the exact date yet. Thank you for being part of this journey, and I can’t wait to connect with you again in the new year. Wishing you a Merry Christmas, a Happy New Year, and a season...