Authentic

I’m in a season of patience right now.  Not the soft, gentle kind that feels like a warm hug—but the gritty, uncomfortable kind that stretches you in all directions while whispering, “You asked for this.” Because I did. I asked for a soul level-up. I said yes to deeper alignment, more truth, more clarity.  And now I’m in the thick of it.  Not doing the work— being worked on. There’s a quietness to...

I found something the other day—a letter buried in the pages of my 2020 journal. A letter from my future self —2023 Kat—written to 2020 Kat. And reading it now, with the perspective I have today, it hit me in a way I didn’t expect. At the time, I was deep in my own push-and-pull with faith and action. Some days, I’d sit back and wait for the universe to do its thing , expecting clarity to just arr...

There’s something incredibly powerful about choosing yourself—not from fear, not from old wounds, but from deep, grounded self-worth. And today’s guest, KG, embodies that in every way. If you’ve read Authentic: Coming Home to Your True Self , you’ll remember KG’s story—where she was, what she was navigating, and the work we did together to help her see her patterns, her ego, and what was running t...

Lately, my head and my chest have been in a full-blown tug-of-war. So much for my word of the year— unwavered . If anything, my ego’s been working overtime to shake me. Every morning, before I even opened my eyes properly, I’d wake up with a pit in my stomach, my chest tight with anxiety. My body was telling me something, but instead of listening, I got annoyed. Frustrated. Tried to push it away,...

Podcast Episode: Michelle’s Journey – From Fear to Freedom There’s a moment in life where you realize—you’re either going to keep living the same story, or you’re going to change it. Michelle, who you might remember as Jacqui from my book, was stuck in a life that wasn’t hers. She was scared of life, scared of what would happen if she actually listened to what she wanted and scared of what would h...

Two years ago, my client Lynn was living a life that looked successful on the outside but felt completely out of alignment on the inside. She was the ultimate people-pleaser and hyper-achiever, saying yes to everything and everyone, pushing herself to meet expectations that weren’t even hers. She had spent so long putting everyone else’s needs ahead of her own that she didn’t even know what her ne...

One year married. One whole, wild, beautiful, messy, heart-opening year. If you’d asked either of us years ago if we’d ever find a love like this, we’d have laughed—or maybe cried. Because before we found each other, we were convinced it wasn’t possible. Steve was gutted in 2016. The kind of heartbreak that cracks you open and makes you swear, never again . So he dated. A lot. But he kept women at...

In this week’s podcast episode, I’m pumped to bring Megan on for a chat—a legend whose story I shared in my book. Megan’s journey struck a chord with so many of you, and today, she’s here to share where she’s at now after making one hell of a bold and brave move to align her life with her authentic self. If you’ve read her story, you’ll remember Megan was stuck in the thick of it—pregnant with her...

This week, Steve and I are sharing the realness of something that’s happening in our lives right now. We’re both deeply plugged into the business area of our wheel of life—so much so that other areas, like our relationship, are starting to feel the pinch. Don’t get me wrong, we’re all for diving into work when it calls, but when it comes at the cost of connection and ease in your relationship, it’...

Authenticity isn’t about trying to be authentic. It’s not something you force or perform. It’s who you are when you’re in your most natural, relaxed state—when you’re not overthinking how you come across or questioning if you’re enough. But let’s be honest—most of us aren’t living from that place. Instead, we’re driven by a constant undercurrent of “I’m not enough as I am.” That belief creeps into...

In this episode, Steve and I are in a real-life scenario that could’ve turned into a full-blown issue—if we didn’t have the tools we do. And honestly? The “problem” wasn’t even real. It was one I’d made up in my head. Here’s how it went down: I was feeling off with Steve. Frustrated, withholding love, and just carrying this low-level resentment. Add in a bit of LOL - I hadn’t actually communicated...

Alrighty, I’m sharing three simple but powerful questions that can create real clarity and momentum in your life: What do you want to start doing? What do you want to stop doing? What do you want to keep doing? These questions are beautifully straightforward, yet the answers they bring up can be deeply insightful. They give you a chance to reflect on what’s truly working for you, what’s not, and w...

In our final episode for 2024, Steve and I sat down for what has become a cherished tradition: our annual Partner Reflections . This is a practice we hold close to our hearts because it’s about more than just looking back on the year—it’s about truly seeing each other. During this time, we reflect on what we’ve observed in the other person throughout the year. We share where we saw them grow, the...

In this episode, I’m sharing my theme for 2024: Plentiful . When this word came to me, it felt expansive, almost too big for the version of me who was used to letting things in just a little at a time. But I knew it was the one. Plentiful —existing in or yielding great quantities, abundant—moved through my life in ways my little ego self couldn’t predict but my soul knew what was needed.  This the...

In this episode of Ask Kat & Steve , we addressed a question from one of our listeners, Carole, about finding a mature man—something I know so many people can relate to. Steve shared some real gold from his dating experiences, talking about how he learned to be more intentional in how he approached dating. Early on, he realised the importance of vetting people better: asking deeper questions,...

In this episode, I’m sharing an update on my perimenopause journey, thanks to a member of my community asking the question. It's been a chapter of life that has been anything but predictable. Working with Dr. Kirstey Holland has been a game-changer. We discovered that my progesterone levels were low, which caused my estrogen levels to spike. The result? Mood swings that left me feeling comple...

In this episode of *Ask Kat & Steve* , we answered a listener’s question about navigating the complexities of blended families. She asked how to handle the difficult, messy moments and how to eventually feel like she fits in as part of a real and authentic family. This is a question that hits home for us because we’ve lived it, and we know how challenging those “ick” moments can feel when ever...

In this episode, I share about a recent rupture between Mia, my bonus daughter, and me. It wasn’t a blow-up or anything dramatic, but it was one of those subtle disconnects that can quietly erode a relationship if left unchecked. She’d been popping in every day before and after school when she was with her mum, and while I love her , I found myself withdrawing—not because I didn’t want her around,...

In this episode, Steve and I are breaking down the decision we made to sleep separately, which, at first, was just about his snoring. It was disrupting our nights, leaving me on edge, waiting to see if I'd get a full night's sleep or end up dragging myself through the next day. But as we moved into this new setup, we realised it was about much more than just noise. The truth is, we both...

Today’s episode speaks to those quiet, insistent yearnings in our hearts—the ones we often overlook or silence because they seem too risky, or even impossible. These yearnings are like markers, guiding us toward authentic living, toward a life and self that truly feel like “home.” Yet, too often, old pains and familiar wounds override these inner pulls. We get trapped in predictable patterns, repe...

So, here's the thing. We all make promises, right? Promises to ourselves about showing up, doing the things we say matter to us, and yet sometimes—especially when we’re tired, grumpy, or just not feeling it—we slack off. I had one of those mornings. Crap sleep, not in the mood, and all I wanted to do was skip my 3-good-minute practice. I almost didn’t do it. But in those three minutes—literal...

In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why it’s so damn important to recognise and respect them. Life isn’t meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. It’s about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purp...

In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why it’s so damn important to recognize and respect them. Life isn’t meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. It’s about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purp...

Steve and I had one of those weeks where we both found ourselves caught up in focusing on what wasn’t going right, what was missing, or what we thought we should be doing better. It happens, right? You get into a headspace where you’re just seeing everything through this lens of ‘not enough.’ And when you’re in that space, it’s not just you who feels it; it impacts the whole dynamic. We were both...

I want to share some real-life updates with you – the and-ness of life. My life right now is amazing. My book is out there, I’m working with incredible clients, and I feel deeply aligned with my purpose. But here’s the thing – alongside all of that, my old patterns still show up. Those sneaky thoughts that want to pull me back into old ways of thinking, like doubting myself, or feeling like I need...