Not Us Podcast

Angela and Samantha have dressed themselves as terrifying dolls for Halloween. Naturally, things get a little out of hand. From elaborate costumes and questionable party outfits to the power of clothing and why we should never stop playing, the sisters explore what dressing up allows us to do that everyday life sometimes doesn't. There's also a haunted elephant, a house full of creepy chil...

When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer, your world changes too. But while everyone is focused on the person fighting the disease, what happens to the people standing beside them? Michael and Claudia had spent almost their entire adult lives together. When Claudia was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive cancer, their world became one of difficult decisions, medical appointments, changing p...

This week, Angela and Samantha welcome Jocelyn Broderick, relationship coach and certified conscious uncoupling coach, for a conversation that gets far messier than anyone's idea of an amicable breakup. After 23 years together, Jocelyn and her partner went their separate ways. But through conscious uncoupling, she discovered something uncomfortable: some of the behaviours she'd blamed on h...

One year. 45 episodes. And somehow, we're still talking to each other. 😂 When we started Not Us Podcast, we weren't entirely sure what we were doing — or how long we'd keep doing it. A year later, we're looking back at the conversations, guests, laughs and occasional disagreements that got us here. From our nervous first recording to finding our voices (and figuring out just how m...

Angela gets a week with more time to herself and something slightly annoying happens. She feels really good. She's back at the gym. She's swimming. She's steaming. She's doing the things she used to naturally make time for when she was single — and it raises a fairly obvious question: If we already know what makes us feel better, why do we stop doing it? Angela and Samantha compare...

Everyone wants an honest relationship. Until the truth is something we'd rather not hear. Do you need to know how many people your partner has slept with? What they say to their friends? Who they're attracted to? What's on their phone? And if they make a mistake, do you always want them to confess? Angela and Samantha start with a seemingly simple rule — don't lie to me — and very...

Some connections are easy to explain. Others we simply feel. With animal communicator and death doula Capella Riley, Angela and Samantha step into the possibility that the boundaries we place between ourselves, animals, nature — even life and death — may not be quite as solid as we imagine. It leads them back to their own inexplicable moments: animals who arrived when they were needed, things they...

Angela has always been the girly girl. Long blonde hair, lashes, dresses, romantic leads. Samantha has muscles, lives happily in cargo pants and will correct you fairly quickly if you confuse assertive with butch. Both women consider themselves feminine. So why is it so easy for someone looking at them to decide that one is somehow more feminine than the other? And then the conversation gets more...

A celebrity dies and millions of people who never met them can feel genuine loss. Angela gets it. Samantha is more likely to Google what happened and then move on, which naturally leads to Angela calling her a block of ice. But why do we care? The sisters talk about parasocial relationships, Princess Diana, Nelson Mandela and the strange experience of grieving someone who had no idea you existed....

Angela thinks Samantha is a witch. Samantha wants evidence. That simple conversation opens the door to a much bigger discussion about labels, history, religion and why women who didn't conform have so often been misunderstood. Maybe witches were never the real story. Maybe the labels were.

Menopause isn't simply something to get through. It's an opportunity to become intentional about the next stage of your life. Angela and Samantha explore what they've learned about perimenopause and menopause, from HRT and testosterone to resistance training, nutrition and why women deserve better information about this life stage. More importantly, they discuss how the choices we make...

Trad wives may have started the conversation, but this episode asks a much bigger question. How do ideas become normalised? Angela and Samantha explore where tradition ends and control begins, discussing women's rights, political messaging, social media, religion, equality and why protecting the freedom to choose matters more than ever. This isn't a debate about baking bread or staying hom...

The World Cup may be decided on the pitch, but that is rarely where all the memorable stories happen. Angela and Sam look back at the teams, players, supporters and unexpected moments that shaped the 2026 tournament. From South Africa’s progress and Scotland’s travelling party to celebrity cutaways, hydration breaks, social-media crushes and the treatment of football legends such as Cristiano Rona...

It started with a Pride post and a few hateful comments. It became a much bigger conversation about why people behave so differently online than they do in real life. Angela and Sam explore keyboard warriors, digital footprints, accountability, curiosity and why what we post online often reveals more about us than we'd like to admit. Because perhaps the internet didn't make people cruel. M...

After four Pride Month conversations, Angela and Sam ask the question that sits beneath them all: Why should any of this matter if you're not part of the LGBTQIA+ community? The answer becomes a conversation about history, complacency, curiosity and why protecting someone else's rights may be the best way to protect your own. This isn't a discussion about politics. It's about what...

Everyone wants somewhere they can stop performing and simply be themselves. Nicole Alexander joins Angela and Sam to talk about Pride Shelter Trust, but what unfolds is a much deeper conversation about rejection, identity, boundaries and the quiet human need to belong. From losing your voice to finding purpose, from surviving to feeling safe again, this episode is less about having the answers and...

The L is visible. But is it understood? For Pride Month, Sam and Angela talk about lesbian visibility, the weight of the word “lesbian,” and the assumptions people still make about women who love women. From childhood memories and old stereotypes to queer identity, fluidity, relationship roles and the phrase “Love is Love,” this is a funny, personal and sometimes uncomfortable conversation about b...

How do you find your true self when the world tells you to change or stay hidden? In this raw, celebratory Pride Month episode of the Not Us podcast, sisters Angela and Samantha sit down with award-winning West End and South African musical theatre legends (and husbands!) Robert Finlayson and Earl Gregory. Together, they pull back the curtain on the glamorous stage lights to discuss the messy, bea...

Pride didn't start as a party. It started as a protest. This week on Not Us Podcast, sisters Angela and Samantha share their personal experiences as members of the LGBTQIA+ community while exploring the history of Pride, the Stonewall uprising, coming out, discrimination, allyship, and why LGBTQ+ rights remain fragile even in countries that appear progressive. From growing up in South Africa t...

The FIFA World Cup is almost here… and apparently our family relationships are once again hanging by a thread. This week on Not Us Podcast, we’re talking football rivalries, national loyalty, World Cup obsession, sports culture, and the deeply irrational emotional damage caused by supporting the wrong team. Angela backs Brazil and England. Samantha supports Germany with the emotional commitment of...

What happens when the safe career you spent years building suddenly feels completely wrong? Or worse… what if it never really fit you in the first place? This week on Not Us Podcast, we’re joined by London-based mixed-media artist Nikki Edwards to talk about burnout, bad fits, creative identity, and the long, messy road back to herself. Before becoming a full-time artist, Nikki worked in top adver...

Why does saying no feel so loaded? This week, we talk about the power of a clean no : the kind that does not come with a 20-minute explanation, three days of guilt, or a fake yes that turns into resentment. We unpack people-pleasing, overcommitting, boundaries, women being conditioned to make others comfortable, and the difference between saying yes from truth versus saying yes because you are sca...

This week, we’re talking about motherhood. Not just the obvious version. Not just birth, babies, and biology. We’re talking about the bigger question: what makes someone a mother? Neither of us has human children, but this conversation gets personal fast. We talk about wanting babies, not wanting babies, fertility treatment, adoption, fur babies, same-sex parenting, single mothers, and the women w...

Is it a midlife crisis… or is life finally asking you to stop pretending? This week, we’re talking about midlife unraveling : the moment old roles, old armor, and old ways of coping stop working. We get into Brené Brown’s take on midlife, the difference between crisis and unraveling, why self-acceptance matters more than external validation, and why change can feel like being dragged through a sho...

Sometimes the hardest choices are not about what is wrong. They are about what no longer fits. This week, we’re talking about outgrowing parts of your life : friendships, relationships, work, routines, old patterns, and even versions of yourself. We get into: why some endings are soft and others are full drama the guilt that comes with choosing yourself staying too long because you don’t want to h...