Not Us Podcast

It started with a Pride post and a few hateful comments. It became a much bigger conversation about why people behave so differently online than they do in real life. Angela and Sam explore keyboard warriors, digital footprints, accountability, curiosity and why what we post online often reveals more about us than we'd like to admit. Because perhaps the internet didn't make people cruel. M...

After four Pride Month conversations, Angela and Sam ask the question that sits beneath them all: Why should any of this matter if you're not part of the LGBTQIA+ community? The answer becomes a conversation about history, complacency, curiosity and why protecting someone else's rights may be the best way to protect your own. This isn't a discussion about politics. It's about what...

Everyone wants somewhere they can stop performing and simply be themselves. Nicole Alexander joins Angela and Sam to talk about Pride Shelter Trust, but what unfolds is a much deeper conversation about rejection, identity, boundaries and the quiet human need to belong. From losing your voice to finding purpose, from surviving to feeling safe again, this episode is less about having the answers and...

The L is visible. But is it understood? For Pride Month, Sam and Angela talk about lesbian visibility, the weight of the word “lesbian,” and the assumptions people still make about women who love women. From childhood memories and old stereotypes to queer identity, fluidity, relationship roles and the phrase “Love is Love,” this is a funny, personal and sometimes uncomfortable conversation about b...

How do you find your true self when the world tells you to change or stay hidden? In this raw, celebratory Pride Month episode of the Not Us podcast, sisters Angela and Samantha sit down with award-winning West End and South African musical theatre legends (and husbands!) Robert Finlayson and Earl Gregory. Together, they pull back the curtain on the glamorous stage lights to discuss the messy, bea...

Pride didn't start as a party. It started as a protest. This week on Not Us Podcast, sisters Angela and Samantha share their personal experiences as members of the LGBTQIA+ community while exploring the history of Pride, the Stonewall uprising, coming out, discrimination, allyship, and why LGBTQ+ rights remain fragile even in countries that appear progressive. From growing up in South Africa t...

The FIFA World Cup is almost here… and apparently our family relationships are once again hanging by a thread. This week on Not Us Podcast, we’re talking football rivalries, national loyalty, World Cup obsession, sports culture, and the deeply irrational emotional damage caused by supporting the wrong team. Angela backs Brazil and England. Samantha supports Germany with the emotional commitment of...

What happens when the safe career you spent years building suddenly feels completely wrong? Or worse… what if it never really fit you in the first place? This week on Not Us Podcast, we’re joined by London-based mixed-media artist Nikki Edwards to talk about burnout, bad fits, creative identity, and the long, messy road back to herself. Before becoming a full-time artist, Nikki worked in top adver...

Why does saying no feel so loaded? This week, we talk about the power of a clean no : the kind that does not come with a 20-minute explanation, three days of guilt, or a fake yes that turns into resentment. We unpack people-pleasing, overcommitting, boundaries, women being conditioned to make others comfortable, and the difference between saying yes from truth versus saying yes because you are sca...

This week, we’re talking about motherhood. Not just the obvious version. Not just birth, babies, and biology. We’re talking about the bigger question: what makes someone a mother? Neither of us has human children, but this conversation gets personal fast. We talk about wanting babies, not wanting babies, fertility treatment, adoption, fur babies, same-sex parenting, single mothers, and the women w...

Is it a midlife crisis… or is life finally asking you to stop pretending? This week, we’re talking about midlife unraveling : the moment old roles, old armor, and old ways of coping stop working. We get into Brené Brown’s take on midlife, the difference between crisis and unraveling, why self-acceptance matters more than external validation, and why change can feel like being dragged through a sho...

Sometimes the hardest choices are not about what is wrong. They are about what no longer fits. This week, we’re talking about outgrowing parts of your life : friendships, relationships, work, routines, old patterns, and even versions of yourself. We get into: why some endings are soft and others are full drama the guilt that comes with choosing yourself staying too long because you don’t want to h...

We talk a lot about glow ups. Looking better. Doing more. Fixing the outside. But what happens when the inside doesn’t match? In this episode, we break down glow up vs glow down through real life. Not trends. Not TikTok. Real conversations about: energy and how it shows up physically beauty standards and aging Botox, natural looks, and personal choice corporate life, stress, and everyday pressure...

This week, we’re talking about what we’re currently consuming with our eyes and ears, what we’re watching, reading, listening to, and scrolling through. What starts as a chat about MAFS Australia , books, documentaries, and favorite shows quickly turns into something deeper: how content affects our mood, our relationships, our thinking, and even how we see ourselves. We get into: reality TV as a t...

This week, we’re talking about being tamed . Not in a dramatic movie way. In the everyday way. The slow, subtle, constant conditioning that teaches us to be quieter, nicer, smaller, more acceptable, and less fully ourselves. We get into creativity, good girl syndrome, truth telling, aging, body shame, social rules, and what it means to reconnect with the wild, honest, expressive parts of who we ar...

This week, we’re talking about choice… and what happens when it’s no longer theoretical . After a real-life event challenged our own beliefs, we found ourselves asking: Is choice ever truly personal? Why do we feel so certain… until it’s close to home? Where do autonomy, responsibility, and impact on others collide? From life and death decisions to everyday judgments, this conversation moves throu...

In this episode of Not Us Podcast , we’re talking about anxiety, perimenopause, and menopause and why so many women are struggling in silence. If you’ve ever felt like your body changed before your mind could catch up, or like your usual coping tools suddenly stopped working, this conversation is for you. We talk about what anxiety feels like in the body, panic attacks, hormonal shifts, medication...

In this episode, Angela and Samantha reflect on their 21-Day Receiving Challenge and the surprisingly intense reality of “being open.” They talk about the difference between receiving help and asking for it, why busyness can become armor, and how worthiness and specificity shape what we allow into our lives. You’ll hear: Why receiving isn’t one-size-fits-all The vulnerability of eye contact, askin...

One year post-breakup, Samantha steps into the hot seat as we explore modern dating - from Tinder and Bumble to sexuality filters, red flags, first-date dynamics, and the real question underneath it all: "Are you dating to be chosen… or are you choosing?" Together with co-host Angela and our resident family Yente, Brett, we talk about: • Healing before dating • Casual vs intentional dati...

He trained to be a pastor. He wore the purity ring. He left the church. And he came out. This week on Not Us , we sit down with filmmaker and author Brett Michael Innis to talk about faith deconstruction, coming out as an adult, rebuilding identity, and what courage actually feels like when your old life no longer fits. We unpack: – Leaving Christianity – Purity culture and shame – Creative self-c...

Is Valentine’s Day romantic… or just a marketing scheme with overpriced roses and forced romance? This week, we’re calling it Love Day and talking about what love looks like when you’re not interested in performative gestures, public displays, or “romcom copy-paste” effort. We cover love languages (flowers vs quality time), why heartbreak changes your relationship with love, and the real question:...

In this episode, we talk about labels and identity and why it’s so easy for other people’s opinions to become the story you live under. From sexuality and assumptions (“the lesbian neighbour”) to career labels and being called “aggressive,” we explore how identity shifts across seasons of life and how labels can either help us belong or box us in. This isn’t a lecture. It’s a real sister-to-sister...

January has people asking the same brutal question: “Can I really do another year like last year?” In this episode, Angela & Sam talk about the frustration of returning to work after the holidays, the emotional hangover of empty promises, and the quiet pressure to make a career decision fast. They introduce a practical framework: Stay, Shape, or Exit Stay: What am I learning and building right...

January is weird. The festive lights disappear overnight, your energy is low, and somehow the world expects you to be refreshed, focused, and ready to plan your entire year by Wednesday. In this episode, Angela & Samantha talk about the January slump , the reality behind Blue Monday , and why winter is meant to be a slower, more inward season. They share practical ways to reset gently without...

Happy 2026 and welcome back to Not Us Podcast. In this first episode after the holiday break, sisters Angela & Sam debrief the ultimate festive-season experiment: two weeks under one roof with Angela’s brother (the brother she grew up with), her partner Nathan, two dogs, and one highly strategic cat. It was joyful, chaotic, hilarious, deeply human… and surprisingly energising. They unpack what...