If not now, then when...? (The Midlife Experiment)

In this week's voice note, I share more about my Instagram experiment, and the pressure I put on myself to say something wise and profound. Often visibility brings up more than you expected. It's a little messy and quite emotional. But I guess that’s part of the journey. Come follow me on Instagram (@iamsonjamckaiser) for the behind-the-scenes of this experiment, including what getting out...

This was supposed to be the final episode of Season 3, but I feel like I still have so much I want to say. So I'll probably be back next week… As we head into the final quarter of 2026, I've been thinking about what it means to step into what's next when the old version of you no longer fits. Nine months have passed. Something's ready to be born, and that means getting out of your...

You know all those social media posts you save to revisit at sometime in the future then you completely forget about them? Are you doing the same thing with your dreams?  A few weeks ago I spoke to a group of aspiring podcasters, and our conversation got me thinking about how often we wait for the right time or the right resources. Like there's going to be some magical moment when you finally...

In this week’s conversation, I’m joined by Nicole Klassen, who made a move from Muizenberg to McGregor after feeling a deep call to return to her maternal ancestral lands. She had no idea what would unfold. She trusted what she was sensing and followed it anyway. A year later, that decision has led to Beauty School, a community-based project working with young womxn, nature, traditional knowledge...

There’s been grief, overwhelm, exhaustion and a whole lot of holding it together, but we made it through Eclipse season!  I’ve been noticing how easily joy gets pushed to the bottom of the list. So in this week’s voice note, I’m talking about why I’ve started thinking of JOY as a revolution, what dancing every day for the past couple of months has taught me, and why I’ve created the Joy Movement i...

Today is the last day of Leo Szn, and I’ve been dancing for 15 minutes every day for 52 days!!  In this week's voice note, I'm reflecting on what taking a longer daily dance break has taught me about willingness, uncertainty and my connection to my Future Self. And how, on the night of the solar eclipse, I woke up with 2 words ringing very clearly in my head - forgive yourself. I share the practic...

It’s eclipse season! And in this week's voice note, I share why I want this podcast to become a space for real, raw vulnerability. A place where I can navigate my next evolution in real time. Unfiltered, and maybe even a little unhinged. Social media can feel so performative. We're surrounded by highlight reels and people who seem to have everything figured out. I'm no longer intereste...

Coming to you from my bed for this week's voicenote. I'm recovering from a flu bug, so no notes or talking points this week. Yep, I've gone rogue… I found myself in conversation with my future self, who told me that sharing my experience is enough. So this is a riff about birthday month reflections and the impatience of wanting a breakthrough. Apparently not every episode needs deep meaning or pro...

"Repair is possible!"  In this beautiful conversation with multidisciplinary artist Yvette Hess, we explore what happens when the life you've carefully built no longer feels like it fits. We talk about letting go of the "good girl", finding your way back to yourself, creativity as a path to healing, belonging, courage, and learning to trust the unknown. Yvette also shares t...

How much of your life are you putting on hold? In this week's voice note, I'm reflecting on courage, getting out of our own way, and why so many of us keep postponing the lives we're longing to live. We all have stories we tell ourselves about someday . Are you still waiting for someday before you take that step, start that thing, or trust yourself? Today is someday . And the waiting is YOU gettin...

Nervous system regulation has become one of those phrases we hear everywhere, yet so few of us actually understand what it means. In this week's episode, Aimee Isaacs joins me to unpack what nervous system regulation really is, why so many women in midlife feel stuck in survival mode, and how our hormonal changes can make everything feel even more intense. We also explore why perimenopause can...

Can you believe the first half of 2026 is done!? I love me some affirmations. I love writing them in my journal and saying them out loud... But sometimes I tend to do them haphazardly. This month I'm committing to doing them every day. How about you?  In case you needed a reminder, you have the power to change the trajectory of your life. This week's episode is a reset of sorts. Press play...

Welcome to Season 3! In today's yummy voice-note-style episode I share what's been coming up for me as I step into my next evolution. I talk about the messy middle of becoming, the parts of the journey we don't always share online, and why I'm done with the performative highlight reel that is social media. This season is about real conversations, real challenges, and creating a space where we can...

Full Moon Blessings and happy May! This episode lands on the Full Moon in Scorpio, so if things have been feeling intense, you're not imagining it. As we close out Season 2, I'm going a little deeper into why you may be getting on your own way, and how to move through it. Because it's definitely not lack of trying but possibly your need for approval that's keeping you in the same l...

In this week's episode I really want to know how you're doing. Can you believe we’re 4 months into the year already!? Remember that promise you made to yourself at the beginning of this year? Have you started acting on it or is it still living in your head?  This is not about wishing things could be different but actually changing things by taking action. And it doesn't have to be huge...

Most of us have been at war with our bodies for years. And while the body positivity movement invites us to love our bodies as they are, that can feel like such a big leap, especially in midlife, when everything is changing in ways nobody fully warned us about. In this episode, on this new moon day, I'm asking the question, "what if, instead of going straight to love, we started with frie...

I did something brave this week. In this episode, I share what happened when I said yes to an opportunity, even though it didn't look the way I wanted it to. Even though I was scared. If you've been asking for change, this is your reminder that it won't always arrive in a comfortable package. And you won’t always feel ready. Be courageous anyway! Coz if not now, then when…? And if you...

Today I’m in conversation with Ingrid Irma Jones​ , writer, storyteller, and ​m​y Afrikaans teacher at high school​, which makes this conversation even more special. We dive into the identity shifts that come with midlife​,​ the roles we outgrow, the ones we lose, and the quiet question many women find themselves asking, ' who am I now?' We speak about grief, loneliness, and the uncertaint...

So many of us were taught how to be ​"good girls​". You know, don​'t be too much​, don​'t be too loud​, keep the peace​, and so on, and so on... And somewhere along the way, we learnt to abandon parts of ourselves in order to be liked, accepted, and safe. In this episode, ​I share my own journey as a recovering good girl​, the patterns I​'m unlearning, the ways I​’ve held myself back, and what get...

In part two of my conversation with GP and womxn's health specialist  ⁠⁠ Dr. Fumi Kokoali ⁠⁠ , we turn toward a conversation that I believe isn't being had enough, menopause and womxn of colour. We speak about how menopause shows up differently, cultural expectations, silence, shame, and why this conversation matters more than ever, especially here in South Africa. Because the more we talk about i...

Menopause is a natural part of midlife, yet so many womxn feel confused, overwhelmed, or completely unprepared when the transition begins. In this episode, I'm joined by GP and womxn's health specialist  Dr. Fumi Kokoali  for an honest conversation about what's really happening in our bodies during perimenopause and menopause. We talk about the symptoms many womxn don't realise are connected to me...

In this episode I share why the podcast is now called If not now, then when?, a question that has quietly become my theme for the year and a mantra that keeps nudging me toward the life, voice, and work that's asking to come through. This conversation is about evolution. About listening to the inner whisper that says it's time. And about getting TF out of your own way so you can step into...

We're smack-bang in the middle of Eclipse season and Mercury is retrograde... On that note, my business turns 9 on 3/3. Nine! And I'm definitely not the same womxn I was when I started.   In this episode, I'm sharing the 5 intentional shifts I'm making this year to support my next evolution, without hustling harder. I speak about: – Separating my identity from my business​ ​ – Getting real support...

Happy Lunar New Year, and Eclipse season! We're officially in The Year of the Fire Horse and this year I'm committed to getting TF out of my own way. I'm stepping into my next evolution and I want you to join me.  Becoming You - the next evolution⁠ , my signature group coaching programme starts on 2 March. It's a safe, supportive space for midlife womxn who are ready to stop getting in their own w...

Season 2 is officially here! And it didn’t happen the way I planned. I’ve been procrastinating launching Season 2 coz life...  But earlier this week I woke up with a nudge. I’ve been receiving such beautiful feedback about the Future-Self meditation I guided inside my recent Vision Board Experience, BEING, and I thought, why not share it here? Why not let this be the first episode of Season 2? So...