The Slumflower Hour

Do you see marriage for the negotiated contract that it is, or do you see marriage as a purely spiritual union, devoid of any power dynamics or transactions? Does the idea of marriage being compared to s*x work offend you, or do you see the ways women are expected to perform sexual and domestic labour as a 'duty'? Do married women actually benefit from marriage? In a rather contentious and controv...

What's all the hype surrounding dating younger men? Are older men a better option? Should there be an age limit for age gap relationships? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses her preference - and why neither option is necessarily 'easier'. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering you...

Are you trapped in a redundant loop of making the same mistake? Does your impulsivity betray you? Are you finally ready to leave your destructive life behind? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the pitfalls of repeating the same mistakes women often make - and why feminism might be adding to your problems here. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episode...

Are you off to see that man? Do you feel tempted to make it easier for him? Is your gut reliable enough for you to be dating right now? In this episode, join Chidera as she lovingly warns you about what to be vigilant of in this desperate dating market! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering yo...

Is he stingy or does he just not like you? What happens if you have kids with a stingy man? Should we cheat on stingy men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why we should all expect more from men - and why stingy men deserve to be lonely. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering...

Do you miss him? Has the amnesia suddenly hit you and now you can't remember why you cut him off to begin with? Are you tempted to go back? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the reasons we end up caving when we think we miss these dudes. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering you...

Was that horrible relationship worth it because you were able to write some songs about it? Do you believe you have to put yourself through pain in order to feel creative? Did that heartbreak really need to happen or are you using art as an excuse to justify being around men who don't deserve you? In today's episode, join Chidera as she (lovingly) drags the musician girlies! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠...

Are you too easily attached to men? Are we 'manifesting' bad treatment from men by expecting it of them? Is your rejection sensitivity making you unnecessarily empathetic to men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why healthy detachment from men will save your life. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that...

Is there really such thing as 'terrible husband but a good father'? Should we starve men of sex to solve their entitlement issues? Will men ever become the 'good people' we fantasise about them becoming? In this episode, join Chidera as she normalises hating men back. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses male sexual violence against women Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing epi...

Should we be less approving of men's flirty advances, even if they are being cute? Are we making the male loneliness epidemic harder on men by being less understanding of their sexual needs? And have we explored what might actually happen if we raise the bar for men to meet us? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she justifies why she believes we need to make ourselves more romantically scarce...

What do you stand to lose by being the woman he can afford? Do men appreciate women more when our standards are lower? Or are we just overthinking this whole thing?! In this episode, join Chidera for a rather hilarious and spicy chat. ;) Join my ⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Ge...

Are attractive men worth all the hassle? Do good-looking men deserve to be humbled? Is it a safer bet to date an 'ugly' man? In this episode, join Chidera for a rather juicy chat! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠  Learn...

Are desperate women sinking the ship for the rest of us? Can men tell when you're male-centred? Are low-effort dates even worth it in the name of being a 'cool and easy' girl? In this episode, join Chidera as she highlights the dangers of male-centred women...and what we can all do to redirect the focus to ourselves! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whe...

Are you still clinging onto the hope that one day, men will finally be who we want them to be? Is feminism doing what we need it to do? Are YOU brainwashed? The Slumflower explores it all in this episode! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠POCKET POWER FRO...

Does being too empathetic make men see you as pathetic? Could there be a pattern of your behaviour that predatory men are drawn to? Are you prepared for a world where the men you're dating are leaning closer towards red pill ideologies? In this episode, join Chidera as she raises the alarm on how close the predator is in proximity to all of us! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episod...

Do 'homewreckers' really exist? Would you date your friend's ex? Should you forgive your husband for cheating? Hmmm...in today's episode, join Chidera as she debunks this 'homewrecker' phrase once and for - and shines the light on where it belongs: MARRIED MEN! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your d...

Is sex really casual? This is the question being pondered upon in this episode. Join The Slumflower as she toys with the debate of whether a woman can truly benefit from 'no strings attached' sex! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMF...

Do you find yourself having to keep repeating your requests to the man in your life? Do people keep telling you that you need to 'communicate' if you want a healthy relationship (even though the person you're communicating to is not listening)? Have you found yourself feeling fatigued in your relationship? This episode is specifically for the women who are trapped in the communication loop. There'...

Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you believe that love conquers all? Do you live in the hope that one day, you'll fall in love and things will fall into place as they were always meant to? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she debunks the concept of being a 'hopeless romantic', while she exposes the true intentions of men who call themselves that! Join my patreon for access to more revealing...

Do you feel guilty about using men in a world where men created a system where women will always be commodified? Have you found yourself feeling tongue-tied when wanting to ask a man for help? Should men be of service to us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why we should put these men to work! ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to kee...

Do you struggle with premature attachment to men? Do you fear you'll never stop being a lover girl? Is it really the man you're attached to or are you attached to the idea of being desired? In this episode, join Chidera as she helps you banish the demonic spirit of unnecessary attachment to straight men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or l...

Is that man using you as an ego boost? Is he really 'just shy' or is he waiting for you to chase him? Do men deserve our friendship? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the ways men steal our energy for their own empowerment... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions!...

Is your loneliness starting to become obvious? Do you secretly fear that you're not going to find your person? Are you losing hope? It's okay! Let's chill out, take a deep breath and reground ourselves. In this episode, join Chidera as she talks you through your FOMO and debunks your fears. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy,...

Are you a strong woman who takes pride in being independent? Do you secretly wish you knew how to receive support without 'losing' your strength? Do men praise you for being 'strong'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why being strong doesn't mean you have to struggle! Besides, what's the man there for? Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on w...

Has your poor coochie management led to your demise? Are you in denial about the ripple effect your sexual decisions have on the quality of your life? Are men onto something when they tell us sleeping with them makes us 'impure'? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ramifications of being sexually careless - and why we all ought to step up the pussy security IMMEDIATELY! Join my patr...