The Slumflower Hour

Are you harbouring a man child in your home and calling him a husband? Is your mother-in-law the persistent third wheel in your marriage? Does that man seem to forever be 'unable' to clean up after himself? In this episode, join Chidera as we tackle the curious case of the man child! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep...

Are women conflating oversharing with bonding? Does telling men every single thing strengthen the relationship? Is your husband truly being transparent with you? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks all the reasons you need to be less 'transparent' with men - and why honesty constantly being expected of women, is part of the grooming process. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for acces...

Has he pulled the rug from under you? Did you see it coming but you tried to tell yourself otherwise? Is it time for you to start being the dumper to see what that power feels like? In this episode, join Chidera as she embraces the so-called 'toxicity' of dumping men first - and why it's important for women to be the villain once in a while... Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to...

Can femininity be considered toxic? Should women have bigger egos? Do women have a victim mentality? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ways that femininity can be used against us, and why women need to see beyond what has been taught to us, in order to identify potentially abusive relationships. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page...

Do white women have a different version of feminism? (Yes) Is feminism serving us or holding us back when it comes to dating men? Are white women enablers of patriarchy? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why Black women and women of colour cannot rely on white feminism...and why there are different socioeconomic ramifications Black women face when we split bills with men. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Do you tend to feel bad when a man begs and grovels? Are you against holding grudges? Should we give men more chances? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you of all the reasons men don't deserve more chances, no matter how 'sorry' they are! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as an...

Does rejection make you spiral? Should women stop being old-fashioned and just make the first move on a man? Should we reject men before they reject us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the power of rejection - and how women can use it more to our advantage! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy,...

Is it too late to find 'the one'? What does it really mean when men call a woman 'expired'? Are men worth longing for? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you that it is not too late to start living for yourself - and why not finding 'the one' might just be your biggest blessing! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to ke...

Have you ever considered or questioned the politics behind your romantic desires? Is a man's attraction to you political? Do our dating preferences change with our politics? In this episode, join Chidera as she recounts her racist experiences working in the strip club, and what dating politically means to her. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on...

Do you see marriage for the negotiated contract that it is, or do you see marriage as a purely spiritual union, devoid of any power dynamics or transactions? Does the idea of marriage being compared to s*x work offend you, or do you see the ways women are expected to perform sexual and domestic labour as a 'duty'? Do married women actually benefit from marriage? In a rather contentious and controv...

What's all the hype surrounding dating younger men? Are older men a better option? Should there be an age limit for age gap relationships? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses her preference - and why neither option is necessarily 'easier'. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering you...

Are you trapped in a redundant loop of making the same mistake? Does your impulsivity betray you? Are you finally ready to leave your destructive life behind? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the pitfalls of repeating the same mistakes women often make - and why feminism might be adding to your problems here. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episode...

Are you off to see that man? Do you feel tempted to make it easier for him? Is your gut reliable enough for you to be dating right now? In this episode, join Chidera as she lovingly warns you about what to be vigilant of in this desperate dating market! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering yo...

Is he stingy or does he just not like you? What happens if you have kids with a stingy man? Should we cheat on stingy men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why we should all expect more from men - and why stingy men deserve to be lonely. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering...

Do you miss him? Has the amnesia suddenly hit you and now you can't remember why you cut him off to begin with? Are you tempted to go back? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the reasons we end up caving when we think we miss these dudes. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering you...

Was that horrible relationship worth it because you were able to write some songs about it? Do you believe you have to put yourself through pain in order to feel creative? Did that heartbreak really need to happen or are you using art as an excuse to justify being around men who don't deserve you? In today's episode, join Chidera as she (lovingly) drags the musician girlies! Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠...

Are you too easily attached to men? Are we 'manifesting' bad treatment from men by expecting it of them? Is your rejection sensitivity making you unnecessarily empathetic to men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why healthy detachment from men will save your life. Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that...

Is there really such thing as 'terrible husband but a good father'? Should we starve men of sex to solve their entitlement issues? Will men ever become the 'good people' we fantasise about them becoming? In this episode, join Chidera as she normalises hating men back. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses male sexual violence against women Join my ⁠⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing epi...

Should we be less approving of men's flirty advances, even if they are being cute? Are we making the male loneliness epidemic harder on men by being less understanding of their sexual needs? And have we explored what might actually happen if we raise the bar for men to meet us? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she justifies why she believes we need to make ourselves more romantically scarce...

What do you stand to lose by being the woman he can afford? Do men appreciate women more when our standards are lower? Or are we just overthinking this whole thing?! In this episode, join Chidera for a rather hilarious and spicy chat. ;) Join my ⁠⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Ge...

Are attractive men worth all the hassle? Do good-looking men deserve to be humbled? Is it a safer bet to date an 'ugly' man? In this episode, join Chidera for a rather juicy chat! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER⁠⁠  Learn...

Are desperate women sinking the ship for the rest of us? Can men tell when you're male-centred? Are low-effort dates even worth it in the name of being a 'cool and easy' girl? In this episode, join Chidera as she highlights the dangers of male-centred women...and what we can all do to redirect the focus to ourselves! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whe...

Are you still clinging onto the hope that one day, men will finally be who we want them to be? Is feminism doing what we need it to do? Are YOU brainwashed? The Slumflower explores it all in this episode! Join my ⁠⁠patreon⁠⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book ⁠⁠POCKET POWER FRO...

Does being too empathetic make men see you as pathetic? Could there be a pattern of your behaviour that predatory men are drawn to? Are you prepared for a world where the men you're dating are leaning closer towards red pill ideologies? In this episode, join Chidera as she raises the alarm on how close the predator is in proximity to all of us! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episod...

Do 'homewreckers' really exist? Would you date your friend's ex? Should you forgive your husband for cheating? Hmmm...in today's episode, join Chidera as she debunks this 'homewrecker' phrase once and for - and shines the light on where it belongs: MARRIED MEN! Join my ⁠patreon⁠ for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your d...