The Self Help Antidote

Send a text Can understanding the principles and practices of psychology and philosophy create a powerful fusion to guide you towards the achievement of your wellbeing and fitness goals?    In this transformative episode we embark on a journey of self-discovery, drawing from the groundbreaking concepts of Sophie Thomas's book "Fitlosophy" and the wisdom of some of the greatest philo...

Send a text In this episode we delve into the fascinating intersection of coaching, psychology and real-life stories of how holding the space of belief for someone can plant the seeds of triumph over adversity.  We also explore how belief can powerfully impact achievement, as evidenced by the groundbreaking Jacobson and Rosenthal study.   The belief that we have in ourselves and others offers us i...

Send a text It's all my fault!  That statement seems a bit harsh.  It might even sounds a bit like blame and self-loathing; neither of which is productive, and can even be quite destructive in the long run.   However, that's not what me and Tiff mean.  In this episode, we are talking about responsibility, or the ability to respond to life's challenges, regardless of who or what is t...

Send a text What is the gap between what we think we know, and what we actually know?  Most subject matter expertise requires a recognition as well as an appreciation of nuance.  In a world where the measure and complexity of information is constantly increasing, we are increasingly (and understandably) filtering the world  through our subjective opinions and cognitive biases.  One such bias is kn...

Send a text "In times of change, learners inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists." - (Eric Hoffer) It's not what you know in life, it's what you love.  We are all innately curious about what we love.  Knowing what that is for you will ignite a passion in you, to continually learn about it; and a passi...

Send a text No one likes rejection.  Some of us fear it more than others.  At times, it can paralyze us.  However, the reality is that in order to do anything meaningful, experience growth promoting opportunities or achieve anything requiring collaboration, which is nearly everything, we need to risk the possibility that we will be rejected.   There are many strategies on how to overcome the fear...

Send a text We are all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't.  We are terrorized and flattened by trivialities, we are eaten up by nothing."   Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Send a text Time, it's all we really have and it's running out every single moment. Yet we treat it like an endless resource, which it is until it isn't. And none of us really know when that might be. It could be years. Or it could be today? A bit grim, we know.   None of this is news to us, we all know it and we reference it in all of the cliches, but do we really live our lives wi...

Send a text In this episode my guest, Dr. Avnesh Ratnanesan and I talk about all things bliss.  If you ask people what they want most in life, after discussing things like where they want to live, how they want to look, places they want to visit, their ideal family and career goals, most will say it all comes down to happiness.  But happiness can be elusive because it’s often fleeting.  You meet s...

Send a text If you’re not in a cult, are you being influenced by groups, perhaps on social media that operate as one?  The more disturbing questions is, would you know? My guest for this episode says that “you never know that you are in a cult, you only know you were in one.”  Wikipedia describes a cult as a term used for “a relatively small group which is typically led by a charismatic and self-a...

Send a text We all want love.  We want to be loved and to love others in return.  It's arguable our deepest desire.  Clearly, it doesn't always work out quite the way we wish it would.  When it doesn't, what gets in the way? In this episode Tiff and I explore perhaps one of the most mysterious questions, what is love and how do we navigate it?   What influences our attachment tenden...

Send a text In this episode my guest is Lee Davy.  The conversation started off around the definition of the definition of breathwork, as well as the how and why to do it.  Then, the conversation went deep into what we believe is the true meaning of freedom.  Are we free?  If, not what are the mindsets, principles and practices that can liberate us physically, emotionally, and mentally?   Lee Davy...

Send a text There’s more information and awareness today about neurodivergence than at any other time in history.  While that decreases the stigma around being different and increases the resources available post-diagnosis, there’s still quite a bit of confusion, misinformation, and social misconceptions about people whose brains work a bit differently. While we don’t always have influence over wh...

Send a text We have all had situations where we wanted something and went for it.  Far more often than not, there were multiple moments along that journey that felt challenging, perhaps discouraging, even insurmountable.  Yet, we persevered and succeeded despite of our doubts and difficulties.  Looking back, it's likely that our decision to stay the course helped us grow into the person we ar...

Send a text It's fair to say Tiffanee has a hell of a passion for engaging in meaningful conversations, which is why, when the world as we knew it shut down in 2020, she grabbed the opportunity with both hands to dive into the conversational deep-end and launch her podcast, Roll With the Punches.    With the uncertainty of the pandemic, she wanted to invest her time into something that couldn...

Send a text Staying focused and positive in a negative world filled with unproductive distractions is no doubt challenging.  Yet, it's critical for our mental, emotional, social and even physical wellbeing.   There are tools we can use to change our mindset and cultivate feelings of gratitude, both of which are useful.  However, what happens when our positivity negatively impacts our resilien...

Send a text If you are a trainer, coach or are considering working with one, chances are you’ll find this episode to be packed with value.   My guest is a therapist, coach, podcast host and presenter for the National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM).  In my conversation with Angie Miller we discuss what coaching is (and what it’s not), why it works, and how to effectively apply different  coachin...

Send a text The most common advice in dealing with negative people is don't surround yourself with them!   Ok, fair enough.  But what happens when these are people you can't avoid, like co-workers?  Or, what if this is someone you care deeply about, like a close friend or family member?   Can we have a positive influence on them?  Should we even try?  And if so, how do we go about it, wh...

Send a text Who are you, really?  Most of us think we know ourselves fairly well.  Yet, many of us can’t help but feel something is missing.  Despite spending months, years, and even decades on our own personal development we find ourselves somewhat stuck.    In his book “Awaken to Your True Self”, author Andrew Daniel offers us a different view on transformation, embodiment, healing and shadow wo...

Send a text Having a growth mindset is important.  It's something we hear all the time.  It's something that most of us would agree with.  But what exactly is a growth mindset actually?   In her book "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success", author Carol Deck explains the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.  She illustrates the meaning and application of a...

Send a text It seems like most of us have dysfunctional families in one way or another.   However, there's a clear difference between experiencing challenges in our childhood, or growing up in an idiosyncratic family environment, and suffering serious trauma at the hands of people who have hurt you.  What's even worse in when the people who have wounded you the deepest were supposed to l...

Send a text If you want to succeed, get rid of all your friends.  The truly successful person values his or her own company and needs no one but themselves.  Average people, especially your friends will only hold you back with their disloyalty and mediocrity.   In this episode Tiff and I explore this topic, along with other insane bullshit advocated in certain self-help circles.   Granted, not eve...

Send a text Resilience.  We all want more of it.  We've all likely run low on stat times throughout these past couple of years.  And we're being told to develop it from each and every angle.   In this episode Tiff and I have a conversation around what we consider to be the facts and fallacies when it comes to resilience.  We talk about trauma, healing, memories, forgiveness and exposure....

Send a text As far as Tiffanee is concerned, that would be an emphatic yes on the chocolate.   In this episode we banter (surprise) around our own personal experiences with intermittent fasting, and the benefits of making micro changes in our behaviors.   We also talk about about forcing creativity, productivity and change vs. allowing it to happen.  Is there a difference in not only the experienc...

Send a text This week we are back with part 2 of our discussion on Bronnie Ware's beautiful book "The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying", which are: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.  I wi...