The Decided Mind

Hurt people, hurt people. We’ve all heard this statement, but what if they don’t know that they are hurt? What if they have an Unhealed Identity that he’s kept them functioning on survival mode? What if you have an Unhealed Identity that has kept you stuck all these years? Stuck in the same cycle, the same season, with the same experiences. In today’s Podcast I share the meaning behind an Unhealed...

Time is something all living and breathing things have in common. We all have 24 hours in a day, and what we do with that time is what separates us from pack. Time either promotes you or exposes you. Time is fleeting, it waits for no man, so we have to use it to our advantage. Whatever you are working on in the dark will come to the light when the pressure hits. What are you doing with your time?...

Things are going to happen to you in this life. You will experience pain, hurt and joy. The things that happen to you is just that, things that happen to you. Happiness is a choice! Scar tissue is proof that you’ve healed from something. Yes! A scar is proof that you survived! Now what residue is still left? What things do you still have to heal from? You can use the things you’ve been through to...

Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. So many people are in a routine that they are afraid to change. People have experienced hurt, deception, infidelity, and they still stay stuck. What keeps you stuck is your view of YOU. Do you believe in yourself? Do you think you can change? Well to leave a bad situation whether it’s a job, relationship, friendship, or an environm...

Have you paid attention to the results that you are seeing in your life? Did you know that your thoughts are the cause and your results are the effect? I know that sounds crazy but it’s true. What is your major focuses on your state of mind. What thoughts occupy your mind constantly? How is your view of your life? In today’s podcast I focus in on your frame of mind and how to recognize patterns of...

Where does your identity come from? Did you know it’s shaped by the people you surround yourself with, your environment, and the challenges your face? What is your identity telling you about yourself? People identify themselves by past failures. Not understanding that failure doesn’t define you. Failure shapes you. Your identity may have become your reality because you accepted a label that isn’t...

Have you paid attention to what you see around you? What you are you seeing in your reality? Did you know that what you see and the results you are getting is proof. What proof? Proof of the things that you apply or the things that you don’t apply. Your behavior is proof of the labels you’ve accepted as true or proof that you’re still carrying bitterness. Bitterness is a wound that hasn’t healed....

How many seasons in your life seem to be on repeat? That’s a great indicator that you’ve been making the same decisions. Those choices stem from how you think and what you think about YOU. The longer you view yourself a certain way, means the longer you will view yourself that exact way. Healing is a huge part of change. People are afraid to sit still long enough to deal with the pain of change. O...

There is a time to laugh. There is a time to cry. Have you ever heard of a time to separate? In some seasons, in order for growth to happen, you have to separate from things and people that have become anchors. You may have to separate from some behaviors, beliefs, and patterns that have held you back. In today’s Podcast I speak on these things and the importance of recognizing when you need to en...

Did you know that you have a part of you that is comfortable with who you’ve always been? A part of you that despises change and would rather remain the same. There is also a version of you that you default to when things get tough. Between the two, time passes, opportunities are missed, and you wake up stuck in a season that you are tired of repeating. In today’s Podcast I share some things to he...

When is the last time you’ve sat alone with yourself. I am talking about in the silence by yourself with no distractions? Are you happy with where you are in life? Are you happy with yourself? A great way to check in with You and see how you are doing is to look at your reflection. Yup! That person looking back at you in the mirror when you’re all alone. What do you think when you see your reflect...

You only have one life to live. So many people go to their graves and their lives were unfulfilled. Here’s why. So many people are so concerned about other people’s opinions. Why? Who knows why. Its stems from fear. Fear of what? Disappointing other people. That fear drives them their whole life unless they interrupt that pattern. No eggshells is you staying true to your character no matter what e...

For things in your life to change, you’ve got to change things in your life. Sounds simple but it’s hard to implement. Why? Change is hard. The end of something is the beginning of something else. Most people won’t give up their old life for a new one. No matter how hard their current life is. Change is going to cost you period. It will cost you your old life to get to the new life. In today’s Pod...

Have you ever asked yourself why you believe what you believe about yourself? Typically a belief doesn’t become a belief until you accept it as truth. Once accepted that belief takes root and affects the way you live your life. There is a little voice that’s constantly talking to you, constantly trying to keep you safe, stuck, and comfortable. In today’s Podcast, I share some key things to help ta...

Have you gone through something tough, made it through, and came out better from it? How many boundaries do you have in your life right now? Are those boundaries there to keep you from going back to a life you escaped from? In this life we will experience pain. It’s inevitable. Pain is temporary! The choices we make because of that pain are permanent. In today’s Podcast I share some things that wi...

A new year brings new energy and a hopeful spirit, until it doesn’t. Why do people fizzle out and run back to comfort? Why do people choose the same vices knowing that they will end up in the same place or somewhere worse? It’s because they haven’t fought the old them long enough for the new them to show up. In today’s Podcast I discuss topics that shed some light on why letting go of the old you...

How often do you reflect back on your moves? I call reflecting: Data Collection. We are collecting data from this past year. What friendships do you need to keep? What friendships do you need to cut? What boundaries do you need to set up? How did your year look, and would you want to repeat it? At the end of each year people reflect back and start making choices as to what they want to change. In...

How many storms have broken you? I mean truly knocked you on your butt and kept you down. Did you get back up to fight again? Did you know that if you determine what the purpose of the storm is, the effects of the storm changes. So you assign meaning to the storm. In today’s Podcast I share an idea that will help you to reflect and to grow. A year passes by so quick. Today we are deciding to wake...

With the new year fast approaching, this is the time people reflect on their lives and on their direction. This is when we realize how fast a year flies by. Have you reflected on your year? How many conversations did you need to avoid? What should you have said no to? What have you decided that you need to change? If nothing changes then nothing changes. In today’s Podcast I share some tips to hel...

Have you put some thought into why you are doing what you are doing? What if you just give up? And then what? What if you keep allowing that vice to defeat you? And then what? What if you don’t take control of your life? And then what? We can go so far down the negative rabbit hole that your life will not end up in a good place. In today’s Podcast I help you tune into the and then what mindset, an...

How many times have you been bullied in your life? Did you know that you have an invisible bully guiding your moves right now? Yes, your BS is literally guiding you to make the same decisions over and over again. Your Belief System! A belief doesnt become a belief until you’ve accepted something as true! In today’s Podcast I discuss different bullies that may be guiding you and you didn’t even kno...

Seasons come and seasons go. The same season repeats itself unless there is growth. That’s correct. Your season will repeat itself on a loop until you take lessons and grow. You don’t just go through seasons, you have to also grow through seasons. People get stuck in different seasons of their lives. They lose the will to thrive and pick up the belief that they cannot grow anymore. They pick up th...

How many times have you come through for you? Do you know when you do not follow through on your word you are building little habits of failure. Those little habits open the door to how you view yourself. And how you view yourself is how you will behave. Self Leadership is predicated on you doing things that you said you were going to do. Self Leadership begins in the dark, when no one is looking....

Do you find yourself cheering for others as they win? Do you have this little voice telling you that a better life is out of reach? Has there ever been a time in your life that you quit before you even started? There is this thing called background noise. This noise is constantly playing in the background telling you things that aren’t true. This background noise constantly fills your mind with th...

Have you taken the time to heal from your past? What does healing look like? It’s the ability to articulate why you behaved in a certain way. If you aren’t healed then your behavior could be justification. You could be moving in a way to justify a past hurt, or a past disappointment that you never healed from. In today’s Podcast I go over a few ways to help you understand past behaviors and I also...