Stop Overthinking

What does it really mean to feel your feelings? What happens to your emotions if they aren't fully processed and they remain stuck in your body? In this episode I talk with Jill Howell, a somatic practitioner and emotional health coach. While we both coach on feelings, we go about it differently. Listen as Jill and I talk about how stored emotions may result in a dysregulated nervous system, w...

For overthinkinkers, people pleasers and perfectionists the Holiday Season can be a minefield to navigate. There are others involved, things to do and so many expectations. Listen in to learn how to examine your expectations and whether those are helpful thoughts or are creating even more drama and stress for yourself. Please join me for a free webinar: Navigating the Holidays with Calm, Confidenc...

Life is 50/50- a mix of good and bad. Yet, we often think we're doing something wrong if it's not a majority of good and happy. Let's talk about the reality of the human experience and how to balance the "positive" AND "negative" feelings in your benefit. Please join me for a live webinar on Monday, December 11 at 7 PM CST: Navigating the Holidays with Calm, Confide...

When other people need to change... What do you do when other people need to change- but they aren't doing it? You can: -get angry and yell at them -nag and whine -talk about them to other people -blame them for your feelings OR you can use the control and influence you do have for a more productive, long term resolution. Need a mini Mindset Reset for the Holidays? Special Offer: www.coachwith...

Learn what life coaching with me is like first hand! Today Emily talks about her mindset transformation including what coaching sessions was like, what tools and skills are the most helpful and how she uses coaching in her daily life. And, just in time for the holiday season, Emily talks about an activity that helps her enjoy family get togethers and holiday gatherings so much more than in the pas...

Emotional intellignce is the ability to understand and regulate your emotions, which we talk about regularly on this podcast. This week I dive into what this looks like in your career, as a leader, and how to harness EQ skills at work to be your best self. This episode is an interview with Sarah Fecht, a leadership coach, speaker, consultant and trainer. Sarah's shares valuable insight on emot...

Not all pain is processed and felt the same. Pain is a negative emotion we want to be able to feel. It's part of the spectrum of human experiences.  Feeling pain honors us and others. It is the opposite of love, belonging, connection, and acceptance, which we also want to feel and so there is a balance. However, suffering is something we create with anger, shame, resistance, self loathing.  Ot...

We make thousands of decisions every single day. Some are more important, some are made with lots of forethought, others are more reactionary... or even emotional. It's not a bad thing to have emotions factor into your decison making-- but do you even realize you are making an emotional decision? And, which emotion is guiding you? For many women- decisions are made based on whether or not they...

It's easy to get sucked into a lacking mindset. Sneaky thoughts like, "If I just..." or "If only... then I could be happy" have ripple effects in your life and reduce your joy and ability to live in the present moment. While this episode pertains to all-- it's a must listen for high achievers and recovering perfectionists who minimize their achievements and are constant...

You have likely felt frustrated in your life... Frustration stems from unmet expectations and is a fairly common feeling for my clients and listeners. In this episode I discuss how to reframe your current situation and expectations to better lead to your desired outcome. Listen in for 5 Things to Do when you are feeling frustrated to help process the feeling, understand your motives and still reac...

This episode is a conversation with Chris Peterson, aka The Parenting Professor, who is a Love and Logic Faciliator based in western Wisconsin. Listen as we discuss how your mindset impacts your parenting style, how Love and Logic strategies overlap with coaching strategies regarding empathy, letting go of control and delaying actions when emotions are high. Chris Peterson is a husband, a father a...

Sometimes you do need to process or analyzing information and situations- so how do you know when it's overthinking? Listen to this week's episode to learn what to do with all the info and data that you are exposed to, as well as methods to know if you are overthinking or being productive. This episode also gives you two ways to stop overthinking and reset your brain. Learn more about coac...

Do you have an interal mean girl? Is there negative chatter in your mind when things don't go your way? When there is something you want to do- and you are being mean to yourself, all the energy and effort gets sucked up by the criticism, blame, shame, or guilt– rather then dealing with the issue. In this episode you'll learn to identify and shut down your inner bully so you can handle try...

Believing new thoughts is critical and the core of the work I do. Learn why simply thinking positive or reciting affirmations often doesn't work for most people. I'm sharing a powerful tool that I use with clients to change negative, untrue or unhelpful thoughts to thoughts that will help you grow and make lasting changes. Learn more about coaching with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.coachwithkristen.co...

Avoiding discomfort completely simply isn't possible. Yet, so many people avoid conversations, decisions or taking action because doing something differently means experiencing some new or unknown discomfort. What is often discounted or forgotten completely is the discomfort already being experienced from wanting a change. Listen to this episode to learn how you can choose to experience the un...

It happens.. there will inevitably be people you don't like in the world. So what do you do about it? I'm sharing how we often make this situation more difficult for ourselves with more negative emotion than necessary. Listen to this episode to learn how to manange your thinking and not feel guilty or believe there's a problem with you for not liking the other person. Referenced topics...

When you identify what you value– and live life, make decisions and take actions from those values and priorities- you will create a life that is valuable to you.  That you enjoy.  That you want.  That makes you feel good.   Because if you aren’t living into your values and priorities you likely aren’t feeling fulfilled, satisfied and energized about your life.   Listen to this episode to learn wh...

So often we look to other people, blame the situation, or do things that don't actually deal with the problem. It may feel easier that way- as you are avoiding the dealing with the real issue. The real issue is your thoughts and trying to avoiding certain feelings. Learn more about coaching with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.coachwithkristen.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/coachwithkrist...

Our world is busy and we are inundated with information, things to do, places to go, schedules to manage. And hello overthinking brains that worry about how to keep other people happy, what might happen in the future and going over what you wish you would have said in the conversation with partner two days ago. And it does take some effort so today I’m going to share with you 3 strategies you can...

When people display passive aggressive behaviors it’s often because it’s been unacceptable to express certain kinds of feelings- like anger, resentment, frustration. They may have had a parent or adult who didn’t hear their needs or their needs didn’t count. Passive aggression is a learned pattern of being unassertive as a coping strategy for not being able to express your own feelings. As females...

The concept of generous assumptions has been popularized by Dr. Brene Brown. Generous assumptions force us to recognize and make allowances for the unknown circumstances of others. According to Brown, the assumption of positive intent “means that we will extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.”So here’s the question: Do you believe other pe...

How much time and energy are you using obsessing over what other people are thinking, what their words could mean, what the actions could mean? It's so common to be thinking about what we can say or do to make the other person say or do certain things... most people don't even realize how unhelpful the practice is. Listen to learn when thinking about others' thinking may be helpful and...

It's a more recent idea that your job needs to be fun or fulfilling, that you should enjoy the people you're with, have the right amount of time off, flexible enough for a family, paid you your worth…   It all sounds good.. but where did it all come from and how do your ideas about work impact how much you do or don't enjoy your day to day? Whether you love your job or just tolerate it...

Most of us are not changeable in our thoughts.  We are rigid, attached to our thinking. Mental flexibility is the capacity, skill of training your brain to be open to thoughts, ideas and perspectives. Like most things in life, this is easier said than done. What generally happens is a new thought is introduced - cognitive dissonance.   This is mental tension caused by conflict of two different ide...

How often do you look at someone else's behavior and think, "If I were them, I'd do it differently?" It's common to use yourself, your beliefs, your perspective as the reference point to judge others' behaviors. Listen to this episode to learn why this may not be helpful and how shifting your thinking can improve communication and relationships. Learn more about coaching...