Stop Overthinking

Let's talk about sex... love and relationships. In this (spicy) episode we discuss how our desires (not only in sex, but in life) are like beacons for our life. We don't always have to answer the call of the desire- yet we get to choose what to do with it. But there's a lot of power in knowing what you want. These are messages for you about what lights you up at your very core. Stephan...

In this solo episode, Kristen reflects on her recent vacation and the importance of managing expectations when interacting with others. She shares two stories from her trip that highlight the impact of expectations on our experiences, interactions and relationships. Kristen reflects on the need to be conscious of our own expectations and check for realistic v idealistic thoughts. She also offers l...

Let's talk about real, sustainable self care. In this episode we discuss what is practical self-care (not spa days or bubble baths). Daniela shares her Exhausted to Empowered process that invoves intentional: mindset, time planning and self care. Daniela Wolfe, LMSW helps stressed and burnt-out professionals ditch the guilt and overwhelm; productively manage daily tasks with ease, and have the...

For women, our 28-day cycle and hormone fluctuations influence everything from energy levels, metabolism, productivity, hunger levels, ability to workout, and social desires. Traditional "health" culture can perpetuate the perfectionist mindset because we feel we have to be the same, do the same, each and every day. However, when we optimize our hormone cycle and learn how to truly nouri...

Life is throwing me some curveballs that is an (unwelcome) reminder that life and growing is a journey. These past months I have been revisiting topics and situtions I worked through in the past and I thought I was "done." Not so much. Also, the second half of the episode I share a quick way to check in with your core values and priorities so you can add more of them to your life. Learn...

Jealousy is an emotion pushed away and not often discussed. But, its real. It doesn't feel good. It can strain or ruin relationships - so we dive into how to overcome it, build confidence and actually improve your relationships. This episode includes: The differences between envy and jealousy Signals of jealousy (Protection, Projection & Competion) Building trust in partnerships Not reacti...

Let them... Let others be, do, act, think, feel- all on their own. When we release the illusion of control over other people, it’s really not about the other people it’s about us.  I know I’m in a better place when I’m not trying to figure out what in the world is going on in the brains of other people and trying to anticipate their wants and their needs and what they’re going to say, and then try...

Erica Curry and I discuss how perfectionists and overachievers can learn to live presently through skills to cultivate an open mind based on tools from Radically Open Dialectial Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT). You will also hear about three states of mind- fixed, flexible, and fatalistic. Listen in to learn why its beneficial to be more flexible and strategies you can implement right now. Erica Curry,...

If you’re a people-pleaser or overthinker it’s likely your relationship to control needs some attention. Most likely it’s backwards: you probably expend too much time & energy trying to control other people, and too little energy taking responsibility for yourself. As (recovering) people pleasers, perfectionists or over-thinkers we have to learn what is in our control and what is not.  Because...

It's common to overthink decisions and choices- especially if you are letting others' needs, wants and feelings guide you. In this episode we discuss how Perfectionsists, People Pleasers and Over Performers approach decisions, common pitfalls and how to reframe the internal conversation to make empowered decisions more easily. Sweta Chawla PharmD, MS is a Former Professor of Pharmacy and C...

Do you have a fantasy of a different life you could or might have lived? Maybe it’s moving to a different city, staying in a marriage, or having children, and those experiences aren’t going to happen. Are you grieving that version of your life? Listen to this episode as I'm discussing how we feel and think when we’re fantasizing about the lives that we know we won’t ever have. I offer what it...

This episode is a deep dive into the spectrum of burnout. We discuss hustle culture, the comparison traps that drive us to believe we aren't doing enough or we aren't good enough... which create internal stories of shame and low self worth. If you have felt overwhelmed, tired, not good enough, or that you should be "more," this episode is for you! Kyira Wackett is a licensed ment...

There are many ways to deal with feeling frustrated. For some that looks like resisting or avoiding situations, or procrastination, or giving up or getting angry. Kristen recently reflected on her own tolerance for frustration and failure, especially as it relates to perfectionist tendencies and modeling those skills for her kids. Listen in to determine your level of frustration tolerance and how...

Your money story is created from your family, your experiences and even your gender. AND- your current money story may need to evolve so you can live the way you want to live. Your money mindset may be stuck, holding you back and not aligned with your values and priorities. Listen in as Lindsey and Kristen discuss how you can make positive changes to your money story. Lindsey Konchar is a financia...

Are you calling it a boundary, but really just avoiding a person or situation? This episode describes three ways people often deal with challenging people or situations. First- I’ve just decided I don’t want this person in my life. Second, I want this person in my life, I want to be able to interact with this person, but I need boundaries for myself. The third is one is to just avoid people/situat...

Cooking and eating are daily tasks-- but not always enjoyable for all, and can even be stressful for some (Me!) In this episode, we chat about a 4 step meal planning process to be more intentional and have less stress with meal prepping, planning and cooking. We also dive into incorporating more plants into your meals-- even with other picky eaters. Kathy Davis is a plant-based lifestyle and minds...

Family relationships, Friendships, Acquaintanceships and Romantic relationships... What’s true about all of these different types of relationships is that the majority of it is happening internally in our minds.   What kind of relationship you have is based on your thinking, and how you interpret another’s words or actions.     Listen in to how your thinking impacts the quality of your relationshi...

Unconditional love is telling someone the truth and loving them no matter how they respond and loving yourself no matter how you respond. People pleasing is lying to yourself, being inauthentic and/or lying to other people-- and that is not love. Listen for more on how to distinguish between love and people pleasing and how to reduce the people pleasing tendencies and have more love in your life....

Feeling love, like other feelings is an inside job. It's about YOU. It's also a skillset and a choice to choose to feel love, regardless of what others are saying or doing. Why would you choose unconditional love? Because YOU want to feel love inside of you. I invite you to listen with an open mind as I talk about those loving feelings and how you can bring more love into your life- regard...

Getting sufficient, quality sleep is essential for all us. It improves emotional intellegence, decreases anxiety and helps you function better all around. In this episode Dr. Catherine Darley talks about simple and proven strategies to help you and your loved ones get better sleep... including setting boundaries for yourself. Dr. Catherine Darley is the expert in natural sleep medicine. Having tre...

High achievers, people pleasers and perfectionists are often looking for others to notice, appreicate and validate their words and actions. When that doesn't happen, or doesn't happen as often as you would like, it's common to feel unnoticed, unappreciated, frustrated or even resentful. This episode will help you find ways to feel appreciated-- regardless of others. (Hint: Your feeling...

There is so much goodness packed into this episode! Codependency is a term that is used a frequently-- but what is it really? In this episode Courtney and I talk about the the intersection of people pleasing and codependency behaviors, how your own emotional regulation is critical to a strong relationship, attachment styles, communication patterns, setting and maintaining boundaries and more. This...

Did you grow up hearing (or saying) "don't make mommy mad," or "you made me so sad?" Or some phrase where someone else made you feel a certain way. It's pretty common-- but it's not true and not helpful. Your feelings come from how you interepret words and actions and the same is true for others. You are responsible for how you are feeling-- and that's a good th...

Your life is uniquely yours-- so your work/life balance will not be the same as others', and it will change depending on your season of life. In this podcast Kristen shares seven tips to create and maintain balance that is uniquely yours. Access a values exercise here: ⁠https://bit.ly/kocoachingvalues⁠ Episode 21:  The Power of Living Your Values ⁠https://www.coachwithkristen.com/podcast/episo...

When it’s time to choose a resolution that will actually work, we need to use our values & priorities to guide that process.  This is likely different from what you have tried before because normally we think of what we need to do better or how we need to be better and usually that means we’re actually navigating from lack,  guilt or shame. When your goals and resolutions align with your value...