Same But Different

Most people find their Enneagram type by taking a quiz and hoping for the best. Quizzes run somewhere between 60 and 70% inaccurate. Starting with the wrong type costs you. Every bit of inner work you do, every pattern you examine, is pointed at someone who is not quite you. A self-discovery process that guides you inward. The Enneagram is a tool. The Self-Typing Toolkit is a kit full of tools to...

This is a deep dive on Enneagram Type One. Not the surface level version you have heard a hundred times. We are going into the psychology, the wiring, what is actually happening underneath, and the parts of being a One that almost nobody talks about out loud. In this episode: How Type One is different from Six, Three, and Eight, and the clearest way to tell them apart Where the anger lives, why it...

This is a deep dive on Enneagram Type Three. We are going into the psychological structure underneath the performance, the shape-shifting that even Threes do not always recognize they are doing, and the question that lives underneath everything. In this episode: The clearest way to tell Three apart from One, Eight, and Two The defense mechanism that makes the performance so convincing, even to the...

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Five. Not the stereotyped withdrawn, emotionally disconnected version that gets thrown around. We are going into the actual inner world of a Five, which happens to be one of the most extraordinary places on the entire Enneagram. In this episode: The clearest way to tell Five apart from Four, Nine, and One Why Fives are not emotionally disconnected, and why t...

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Four. Not the stereotyped moody, sensitive, dramatic version that gets handed to Fours over and over. We are going into the wound, the gift, the depth, and the specific way Fours experience the world that almost no one else can access. In this episode: The clearest way to tell Four apart from Nine, One, and Two Where the belief that something is missing actu...

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Six. And the first thing I want to say is that Sixes are not just anxious people. That framing does such a disservice to this type that I hear from Sixes regularly saying they feel completely misrepresented by it. We are going into what is actually happening underneath, and why this type is so much more layered than most resources make it look. In this episo...

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Eights. I open by talking about what it looks like to be an Eight and how that is not the same for everyone. The same energy that gets a man called a leader gets a woman called a bitch. Add a layer if you are a woman of color. We are going there. We are also going into the armor, the heart underneath it, and the misunderstanding that follows this type around...

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Sevens. Not the fun, free-spirited, party-loving version. We are going into the strategy underneath the lightness, what Sevens are actually running from, and the depth that most people never see because the system is so good at keeping it hidden. In this episode: The clearest way to tell Seven apart from Three, Two, and Eight Where the snap back to lightness...

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Nines. Not the chill, easygoing, peaceful version that most resources stop at. We are going into the slow, quiet form of disappearing , the stubbornness that catches everyone off guard, and the version of a Nine that comes out when they finally stop making themselves small. In this episode: The clearest way to tell Nine apart from Two, Four, and Five Why nar...

This is the deep dive on Enneagram Type Twos. Not the warm and giving version you already know about yourself. We are going into the part underneath that. The part that is a little harder to look at. In this episode: The clearest way to tell Two apart from Nine and Three, the two types Twos most often get confused with Where the radar to read other people's needs actually comes from What is re...

Your Enneagram arrows/lines are your psyche doing something pretty intelligent under pressure and once you understand what is happening, everything changes. This episode covers all nine types in one place. In this episode: Why your stress line shows up the way it does, and what it is actually trying to do for you What each type looks like in stress and what each type looks like in security The dif...

The Enneagram Harmonic Triads place you into one of three groups based on how you respond to conflict, disappointment, and things not going your way. And those things are happening multiple times a day, which means whatever strategy you reach for is running constantly, probably without you ever noticing it. When you learn which group you are in, it tends to be one of those aha moments where you fi...

Core motivations are the deepest layer of the Enneagram. The fear underneath what you do. The desire driving every decision you make. The thing that got wired in so early that you mistake it for personality. Two people can do the exact same thing for completely different reasons. That is why behavior alone will never tell you your type. The why will. In this episode: A childhood scene for each typ...

Let's talk about anger. Not stress, not frustration. Actual anger. Every type has a relationship with rage they're pretending doesn't exist. In this episode, we're connecting your anger to your core fear and uncovering what it's desperately trying to tell you. Whether you lead with it, swallow it, or cover it with optimism... this one's going to call you out. Your anger isn...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 9s who have made themselves small to keep the peace. This meditation offers you permission to take up space. To speak up. To be seen without apologizing for it. You'll be guided through a body scan that brings you back into your body and grounds you in your presence, followed by a practice in loving awareness that reminds you: you matter. Your voice deser...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 8s who are exhausted from carrying everything alone. This meditation offers you permission to be soft. To need people. To let your guard down without losing your power. You'll be guided through a body scan that releases the armor you hold in your jaw, shoulders, and chest, followed by a practice in loving awareness that reminds you: softness is not weakne...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 7s who are exhausted from running toward the next thing. This meditation offers you permission to be still. To feel the hard things. To stay present even when it's uncomfortable. You'll be guided through a body scan that invites your restless body to settle, followed by a practice in loving awareness that reminds you: you are not missing out by being...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 6s who are exhausted from preparing for everything that could go wrong. This meditation offers you permission to not know. To trust yourself. To release the constant scanning for danger and be present in this moment. You'll be guided through a body scan that releases the anxiety you hold in your forehead, jaw, shoulders, and belly, followed by a practice...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 5s who are exhausted from figuring everything out alone. This meditation offers you permission to need people. To be seen without being consumed. To stay connected without losing yourself. You'll be guided through a body scan that brings you out of your head and into your body, followed by a practice in loving awareness that reminds you: you are not a bur...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 4s who carry the belief that they're too much for people. This meditation offers you permission to feel deeply. To take up space with all your intensity. To know that you're not broken or missing a piece. You'll be guided through a body scan that acknowledges the heaviness you carry in your chest and heart space, followed by a practice in loving a...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 3s who are exhausted from constantly achieving. This meditation offers you permission to just be. To rest without producing. To be seen and loved for who you are beneath the image and accomplishments. You'll be guided through a body scan that releases the tension you hold in your chest, shoulders, and solar plexus, followed by a practice in loving awarene...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 2s who are exhausted from taking care of everyone else. This meditation offers you permission to stop performing for love. To matter without the giving. To turn your attention inward without guilt or shame. You'll be guided through a body scan that releases the weight you carry in your chest and throat, followed by a practice in loving awareness that remi...

A guided meditation for Enneagram Type 1s who are exhausted from trying to get everything right. This meditation offers you permission to be imperfect. To rest without earning it. To release the constant criticism and remember your inherent goodness. You'll be guided through a body scan that releases the tension you hold in your jaw, shoulders, and neck, followed by a practice in loving awareness...

Unf*ck Your Type is LIVE and open for enrollment! Click HERE to get started. In this deeply personal episode, I sit down with Jenna Teague - psychotherapist, coach, and yes, MY actual therapist for the past 4 years. As fellow Type 2s, we dive into her experience as a beta tester for my Unf*ck Your Type course and get real about the messy, uncomfortable, beautiful work of confronting your shadows....

Unf*ck Your Type is LIVE and open for enrollment! Click ⁠ HERE ⁠ to get started. In this episode, I sit down with Eric Rutledge, an Enneagram Type 8, who recently completed my Unf*ck Your Type Enneagram course. We dive deep into his experience working through defense mechanisms, blind spots, and the journey from vice to virtue. What We Cover: Eric's "holy shit" moment recognizing whe...