Orgasmic Enlightenment with Kim Anami

An answer to the age-old question  In this episode:  Bare minimum in Anami Land  Frequency and duration  The Taoist sexual prayer: on your knees, kids  Sex date time minimums  The weekly 3-hour sex date  Is daily sex crazyyyyyy?  How long before couples start to feel the impact of NOT having sex 

Does sex leave you feeling energized, rejuvenated, transformed, ecstatic and like it changed your life?  If not, you’re doing it wrong.  It’s easy to have “tick-the-box” sex. Anyone can do that.  Couples can have sex a few times a week even. 5-15 minute encounters.  He gets off. She gets off—with a clitoral orgasm either through oral or a vibrator.  They high-five and call it a night.  In Anami La...

Is there ever a “right” way to end a relationship?  100% there is.  And many wrong ways.  In this episode:  The best way to leave your lover A story from when I did it badly  A story from when I did it brilliantly  What to do when you know it’s time  Check out our Breakup Cleanse in the Anami Alchemia online shop and our Heartbreak Healer crystal elixir to use your breakup as a breakthrough. 

Masculinity, in its truest form, is:  Beautiful. F**kable.  It inspires reverence. Respect. Admiration.  It makes a woman get on her knees and be compelled to serve.  It protects. It inspires trust.  It’s worthy of deep surrender and submission.  But…masculinity has been disowned.  And in that collective dis-ownership, it’s become distorted.  Beta male energy is the most toxic masculinity of all. ...

Are you fucking life?  Are you bending life over, slamming it into the headboard, and fucking the shit out of it?  If you are, you’ll find that all these elements of your life are performing at the highest level:  Health. Wealth. And erections.  If you aren’t, you’ll see and feel signs that you are LOSING energy in these areas.  All of it comes from the same source: Your sexual energy.  “Did our e...

Our genitals are PERFECT and honest reflections of our inner truth and desire.  I want you. I’m wet. You want ME. You’re hard.  Simple cock and c*nt math.  In this episode:  How to get a vagina wet, wet, wet  How to get her wet BEFORE you’ve even touched her  No lube. No exceptions. Except for the ass: then you can lube it up, kids  Lube is an insult to your masculinity and you ought to take it th...

In today’s conversation on all things porn, I tapped two of our legendary Well-F**ked All Stars, Jeff and Jim, who’ve both been on the podcast several times.   In this episode:  Kim’s top 5 reasons to give up porn  Did every young boy find porn mags in the bushes? Is porn use a form of infidelity? “We have so much sex I don’t need porn. She’s my porn star.” Anytime, anywhere sex Madonna/whore with...

Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual affliction men have.  And, stamina is THE MOST important sexual skill you need to cultivate as a man.  99.9% of men come within minutes. This means 99.9% of women are underf**ked.  In Anami Land, the bare minimum for men is:  Being able to go a full hour—in any position, doing any activity—and stay the course.  In this episode:  7 reasons why you are...

Good dick is a miracle drug.  Learn how to unleash the full power of your magic wand to heal your woman, transforming her into an insatiable cock monster.  In this episode:  What is the definition of “good dick”?  How to wield your cock as a super-healing, enlightened, ecstasy-producing magic wand  The cock pharmacy cure-all  Fuck the demons out of her and the love into her  Top 3 obstacles to coc...

The Anami Guarantee is that every woman can have every type of orgasm.  We also have a rule here in Anami Land:  She comes in threes.  Your woman is ONLY going to be supremely well-f**ked if she’s having anything BUT clitoral orgasms.  And she needs at least a few of them. Every time.  Three is the magic number to transform her from a grumpy shrew into a calm, flowy, blissed-out, well-fucked bombs...

Gods do whatever the fuck they want. They operate outside the bounds of “normal” society. They make their own rules, they follow the beat of their own drum. They think big and they think wild. They shape the worlds around them. They don’t wait for permission or consult a rulebook. They live from their heart-and-cock compass. In this episode: 5 steps to ascend from boy to man to god  Huge hearts an...

In Anami Land, the way we define being well-f**ked is by how you answer this barometric question:  Does sex leave you feeling energized, rejuvenated, transformed, ecstatic and like it changed your life?  If not, then you’re doing it wrong.  If yes, then you are DOING IT right.  Sexual energy is life-force energy. You are either building your world and yourself through using it.  Or you are destroy...

Cervical orgasms: Once you have one, you’ll never go back The first orgasm I ever had was a cervical one. It was ecstatic, transcendent, elevating, self-actualizing, and life-changing. I thought that’s what sex was supposed to be.  Isn’t it?  Like I always say, if sex doesn’t change your life, you’re doing it wrong.    In this episode:   The first orgasm I ever had The most important skill needed...

The Kim Anami ultimate cocksucking guide.  For connoisseurs and aspirants. Everything you need to know.  In this episode:  ​​​​​ The #1 secret to advanced cocksucking  4 techniques to give the best blow job ever  The only polyamorous relationship I’ve ever been in  The biggest reason why women fail at blow jobs  How I fell in love with cock The How to Be a Well-F**ked Woman Salon is now open!  In...

Do I think women ought to be obsessed with getting larger breasts? Or stressed about it in any way?  Definitely not.  I actually prefer the look and vibe of smaller, more elegant—at least I see them that way—breasts.  But I still respect you mesmerizing, naturally big-breasted babes! What I DO aim for is getting women of all sizes and shapes to OWN what they’ve got and be able to tap into the META...

I’m multi-orgasmic, can fuck my partner from across the planet, I surf big waves, lift heavy at the gym and weigh what I did in high school.  I’m supa-freaky!  I’ve never taken any kind of hormone medication.  No GLP1s. Never taken peptides.  No plans to.  I’ve been clean and sober for 33 years. No drugs. No alcohol.  I quit drinking coffee when I was 19. And I’m the supa-est freaky freak that you...

How do you think I’ve stayed ahead of the curve—well, let’s not be modest here—I’ve CREATED the entire curve of holistic sex and relationship coaching.  How do I constantly innovate?  How am I fearless in being first?  I’m connected to my cervix. It’s the ultimate GPS.  When your self-actualized pussy is calling the shots, you:  - Make better decisions, guided by your highest self  - Unleash your...

Like a lonely grandma falling for a Nigerian scammer, women who have drank the Kool-Aid and the victim consciousness of “perimenopause” have been swindled.  “Low libido” is a scam.   “Dry vagina” is a scam.  “Hot flashes” are a scam.  “Sleepless nights” are a scam.  The only sleepless nights you ought to be having are ones where you get the shit and the victim mindset fucked out of you.  I can hel...

There wil be signs. At least 10 of them, according to Anami Lore.  In this episode:  10 signs they are "The One” Is there only ONE? Or do we meet several “ones”?  Is there such a thing as “soul mates”?  Are things more mutual when you meet your person?  Chemistry: the greenest of all the green flags. Greenest flag ever.  ***  ANAMI LAND: The Community Want to meet gods and legends?   Our private,...

Dating humans is so passé. Date gods instead. If you want an Anami-style injection into your love—and especially dating life—this episode is for you: 10 rules for dating Anami-style to become a dating god. Stake your claim. Choose. Plant that flag.   The best pickup line I’ve ever heard  Filler and fluffer dating vs. finding “the one”  When to text, call or get on a plane  Meeting people in the wi...

Apparently, there’s a new term for “not giving a shit” as a seduction strategy: Being “nonchalant.” “I don’t care if you like me. Maybe I like you, maybe I don’t. I’m here. Sorta. But…I could be anywhere else, with anyone else, doing anything else.” Wow. What a turn on. Be still, my beating heart. *Woman faints from all the emotions this stirs in her* In this episode: Normalize love bombing The Ne...

It's always their fault.  Everyone’s got a narcissist story these days. IT’S ALWAYS THE FAULT OF THE NARCISSIST!  Someone said to me a few years ago that a narcissist is essentially someone who hasn’t healed their trauma. And they aren’t interested in healing it.  But what if this isn’t about how evil and awful the narcissist is? What if it’s about you and the 8000 red flags and signs you ignored,...

In a conscious, Anami-style relationship, the only acceptable answer to any invitation from your partner is: F*CK YES!!! Would you like to learn how to have better sex? F*ck yes! Do you want life-changing G-Spot, cervical and squirting orgasms? F*ck yes! Would you like to be able to become a multi-orgasmic man, fuck for three hours straight and learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation? F*ck yes!...

In today’s episode we interview a couple who have had the most dramatic—and fastest—turnaround I’ve ever seen.  They were in a *beyond* sexless marriage.  They were intimate 2 or 3 times— a year. In the span of a few hours they did a massive 180 and they’ve been full speed ahead ever since.   It’s never too late. If it’s possible for them, it’s possible for you too. In this episode we’ll talk abou...

As in, our genitals are oracles. When they speak, they reveal our innermost truths.  We can have conversations with our own genitals. What’s even more fun, is having them with our partner’s genitals. In today’s episode I speak with Well-F**ked All Stars and Coming Together Alumni Carla and Pracarsh about their relationships with each other’s cock and pussy: How they grow and shift and change, depe...