Misseducated

Dear Wonderful Reader, Tuesday, March 17th, 2026, marked 4 years since I freed myself from the shackles of my corporate job. Four years is a decent chunk of time. For the same duration as my undergraduate degree, I’ve been frolicking around Mexico City, perfecting my Spanish and waking up every day to the joy of being alive. How have I survived without a regular paycheck? And, more importantly, ha...

Dear Wonderful Reader, The money dwindles in my bank account. My grandma is dying. I have to sell my investment stocks and ETFs to pay for these flights. Hit by a “family emergency” when I have the least wiggle room. I gave up my Soho House membership, which in hindsight seems like an irresponsible and pretentious expense. Today is also my four-year anniversary since I quit my job in New York to p...

A Poetic Invitation to Face Our S**t Marie Ida Sequence: Writing Prompts to Love Our Mothers Hello Wonderful Reader, The mother-daughter bond is just about the last thing I wanted to share about this week. I only wanted to give you a taste of Elsa von Freytag-Loringhoven because next week we’ll be working with another poem by her in a “Fantasy”-themed Intimacy Writing Workshop (which I’m very exci...

Introduction “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” — Irina Dunn, 1970 I heard about the movement of decentering men on TikTok. With zero expectations, I decided to try it out for a month. It was October 2025. I was sick of dating apps and about to publish my second book. I’d been single for three years, but this was something different. I’m here to tell you everything about it...

An Erotic Invitation to the Moon Moonrise: A Poem & Writing Prompts for Secret Anticipation Hello, Wonderful Reader, Today, I’ve chosen a special erotic poem and writing prompts for you to explore secret anticipation. So grab a pen and paper, set aside 20 minutes to journal, and let’s get started. Moonrise By H.D. 1886-1961 Will you glimmer on the sea? Will you fling your spear-head on the shore?...

Hello Wonderful Reader, Today I’ve chosen a special erotic poem and writing prompts for you to explore your too-muchness and wild expansiveness. So grab a pen and paper, and let’s get started. Desert Pools By Sara Teasdale (1884 - 1933) I love too much; I am a river Surging with spring that seeks the sea,I am too generous a giver, Love will not stoop to drink of me. His feet will turn to desert pl...

Hello Wonderful Reader, Today, I’ve chosen a very special unpublished poem and writing prompts for you to explore the power of forbidden love. You’ll discover why the poet never published this work in a second. So grab a pen and paper, and let’s uncover some of your juicy secrets… Evanescence (unpublished, 1920s) By Angelina Weld Grimké (1880 – 1958) You are like a pale purple flower    In the blu...

Hello Wonderful Reader, Today, I’ve chosen a very special unpublished poem and writing prompts for you to explore the power of forbidden love. You’ll discover why the poet never published this work in a second. So grab a pen and paper, and let’s uncover some of your juicy secrets… Evanescence (unpublished, 1920s) By Angelina Weld Grimké (1880 – 1958) You are like a pale purple flower    In the blu...

Send this to your lovely, literary lady friend 🫖 📚 Hello Wonderful Reader, Welcome back to Misseducated! I’m Tash, and today I’ve chosen a very special erotic poem and writing prompts for you to explore nature and your body, and how they interconnect. So grab a pen and paper, and let’s get started. North Wind By Lola Ridge (1873 – 1941) I love you, malcontent Male wind— Shaking the pollen from a...

“I’m not enough,” I think to myself, as I pass a couple in love on the street. “I could never have a relationship like that. I’m not worthy. Even if someone liked me, they’d just get bored eventually and move on.” “I’m not enough,” I think to myself as I hit publish after writing an article all day. “I should have 5,000 subscribers by now. Then maybe my voice would matter.” Discover a more shamele...

Hello Wonderful Readers, I feel excited and quite nervous about sharing this update with you. Since launching The Intimacy Journal , I’ve learned a lot about how I want to provide value to you and live my mission to help the world be shamelessly sexy. TL;DR * All Misseducated Substack content will be 100% free from now on. This weekend I ungated 43 articles in the Archive . If you find a Comments...

Hello Wonderful Readers, I’m writing to you with some equally wonderful news. The Intimacy Journal has just been funded on Kickstarter! We’ve accomplished this in just 12 days. What a glorious day this is. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you for supporting my work. Thank you for encouraging me and indulging me in bringing this beautiful project to life. It has truly been an honor to stewar...

Dear Wonderful Readers, It’s the moment many of you have been patiently waiting for: The Intimacy Journal is officially live on Kickstarter! 🚀 And we are already 25% funded! Thank you so much to everyone who has already supported us. If you’d like to join us, you can back the project to get your own Intimacy Journal, gift a journal to a friend, join our workshops, or book a one-on-one writing ses...

Hello, wonderful readers. I am taking a break from Misseducated in the coming weeks as I focus on The Intimacy Journal, which will be launching on Kickstarter very soon. I can’t wait for you to get your hands on a copy! 💌 ✍️ Introduction 🎬 “I’ve been faking it for years!” — My grandmother. The other day, I had four pretty sensational orgasms with a male partner. Yet for many years, I found sex b...

As a single, childless 30-year-old woman, I don't have all the answers. Still, I've found my role in the village: being a supportive auntie to young women navigating topics they’d rather not discuss with their parents. This all started when I worked with teenage girls one summer a couple of years ago. I realized that while I’d been stumbling through my twenties, trying to hold down my jobs and avo...

For me, mastering the art of no-strings-attached sex was a total accident. Since I first wrote about dating Mexican men , I’ve been looking for a boyfriend on Bumble (i.e., a long-term, monogamish relationship). While my profile says I’m looking for “a fun, serious relationship with someone who lives in Mexico City,” that endeavor has proven to be very difficult. So I’ve been making casual pit sto...

Dear Wonderful Readers, We did it! The first draft of The Sex Journal is done, and headed to the printers today! It’s 140 pages long, so my estimate of 70 sheets at the printers was bang on. As I write this, I realize I’m probably going to regret not having any reader feedback before printing the first draft. Still, I look forward to learning that lesson the hard way when I return in August to exa...

José I am sitting on the cracked, faux black leather couch in a white beam of LED light. Underneath the sparkling sheath of my green-blue dress is my matching tangerine orange underwear set. José is crouched on his knees on the floor in front of me. I notice the way he sees me. His drunken eyes double-take as I open my legs. I look down over the lip of my dress and back up into his brown eyes, tea...

TL;DR Better out than in. Be bold. Tell people you love them while you still can. No regrets. 💌 ✍️ Dear Wonderful Readers, My grandmother is not getting out of bed. I can't help but think of what she's leaving behind: the things, the people, and the world outside her room. She spent all of COVID alone in her apartment on the second floor of a crumbling stucco building in Koreatown, Los Angeles. S...

Dear Wonderful Readers, This morning, I woke up grumpy and exhausted, scrolling depressively for thirty minutes, debating whether to even get up. My self-criticism has been flaring up again, making life almost unlivable. “Come to this self-portrait event at Soho House!” my friend coaxed me via WhatsApp. I frowned. Most of me wanted to stay at home, hiding. But after a short self-compassion practic...

Abstract (TL;DR) ⏰ After 64 attempts and zero orgasms, I finally understood why 81.6% of women can’t reach orgasm from intercourse alone. Here, I uncover the reasons why. I was in a one-year relationship. We were in our teens, and although we had lots of fun penetrative sex in different places, neither of us understood the importance of the female’s pleasure in a heterosexual relationship. I cite...

Dear Wonderful Readers, The following vignette is what we call a “raw write.” I wrote it in 40 minutes in my writing class called UnMute , led by my incredible writing teacher, ANN RANDOLPH . I've been attending Ann's classes for the last three and a half years, and working with her has been a huge part of my creative journey. She'll be starting up UnMute again in the fall for any of you who have...

Dear wonderful readers, Today, we have the ultimate treat for you all! This week, two shameless sex writers on Substack sat down to share our personal experiences of what it's really like to publish the details of our intimate lives on the internet. Share the steam with a spicy-minded friend 🔥 Abigail A Mlinar Burns , the married sex writer behind Happy Endings , and Tash Doherty , the single sex...

What you see on social media can stand in your way of being shamelessly sexy . Here’s what to do about it. Short Answer ⏰ Comparing yourself to others on social media creates a shame spiral that traps you in four ways: expectation, comparison, striving, and validation. To counteract this, change your media diet (follow fewer accounts that make you feel terrible, and more accounts that make you fe...

On a warm afternoon in May 2011, I was walking down Tottenham Court Road in London. I had passed through the wide, open grassy squares of Bloomsbury and Holborn, filled with corporate people enjoying the late spring sun. Now, I was surrounded by the streets of fried chicken joints and tourist souvenir shops packed with people as I headed to catch a double-decker bus home. At 16 years old, navigati...