Intelligent Intoxication

Jamie Gruber, an entrepreneur and host of the Tribe of Millionaires podcast, shared (and I paraphrase) that in order to grow into a new, expanded version of yourself, you must know the difference between “Remember When” people/relationships vs. “Imagine When/If” relationships… the former will keep you stuck in a comfort zone doing what you’ve always done, while the latter will inspire you to expan...

“Resentment is the feeling of frustration, judgment, anger, “better than,” and/or hidden envy related to perceived unfairness or injustice. It’s an emotion that we often experience when we fail to set boundaries or ask for what we need, or when expectations let us down because they were based on things we can’t control, like what other people think, what they feel, or how they’re going to react.”...

Authenticity has two parts: Part 1: Knowing who you are, what you value, what you want  and don’t want AND having the courage to live that way.  Part 2: Paying attention to what your body needs in order to feel safe.  My brilliant colleague, Sally Hardie offered these powerful lessons (and I paraphrase): “You can’t think your way over the top of your emotions.” “Authenticity is paying attention to...

Authenticity has two parts: Part 1: Knowing who you are, what you value, what you want  and don’t want AND having the courage to live that way.  Part 2: Paying attention to what your body needs in order to feel safe.  I invite you to consider these questions: Who are you really? What do you like? What do you love? What do I intentionally want? What don’t I? What are my gifts? What are my talents?...

Having healthy boundaries will both COST and BENEFIT you.  Having healthy boundaries will COST you: the ability to people-please or approval-seek the luxury expecting others to make assumptions about your needs or wants the ability to run away from “big girl” or “big boy” conversations the ability to play the Martyr or Victim in your relationships unhealthy or immature relationships These are BENE...

Tonight we’re diving into all things boundaries - specifically: what boundaries are NOT what boundaries ARE the emotion that lets you  know that you need to create or communicate a boundary.  Boundaries are NOT: using words or actions to control, manipulate, threaten or punish others.  righteous rules rigid standards Boundaries ARE a combination of: REQUESTS: based on your values, you need somethi...

If you are a CAREGIVER, you are likely responding to the needs of someone who is not fully independent, such as a child or an individual with an illness, disability, or disorder. You are providing necessary support to someone who cannot care for themselves.  But, if you are not also taking care of and supporting yourself, you will begin to “flail” or “drown”.  If you’re beginning to “flail”, you m...

If you’re struggling to make progress toward results and outcomes you really are committed to achieving, I invite you to consider this question: “Am I at peace with BLANK?” For example - “Am I at peace with: … my body and/or weight?” … my food and/or drink?” … my relationships?” … my career or job?” … my parenting or children?” … my finances?” … something else?” If you answer NO, it’s likely becau...

We all make the mistake of trying to “help” those we care about by: swooping in rescuing them solving their problems giving them advice teaching them cheering them on attempting to distract them But what really helps, is discerning the role they need or want us to play in the moment.  Ask them: “Do you want me to show up for you as a LISTENER, COACH, TEACHER, or CONSULTANT? If they need a LISTENER...

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life.  “We have activities we engage in and people we interact with. Some of those activities and relationships energize us and we feel lit up, alive and inspired while doing them or when we’re with them. Others drain and deplete our energy and we feel exhausted, tapped out, saturated.” (Inspired/Paraphrased by Feroshia Knight.)...

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life.    “My favorite way to think about soul power is the quality of being radically FREE, because one is neither trying to escape something, nor chase something.” Simone Grace Seol   When we are in the habit of CHASING “something more”, we are likely: stuck in comparisonitis feeling envious or jealous believing that “there” wi...

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life.    I’ve noticed a considerable difference between men and women who thrive in the second half of life and those who don’t. I offer my observations for your consideration. People who thrive: don’t try to rewind to the past by focusing on how much better it was and wanting to go back in time. They invest their time and energ...

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life.    You’re either lit up, alive, inspired, and fulfilled in your personal and professional life, or you’re not. Yet. If you’re not, it’s likely because you’re not: challenging yourself and making continuous progress utilizing your inherent gifts to make the contribution only you can make to others prioritizing the pursuit o...

Welcome to Season 2 of Intelligent Intoxication: Crafting A Top-Shelf Life.    You’re either lit up, alive, inspired, and fulfilled in your personal and professional life, or you’re not. Yet. If you’re not, it’s likely because you’re not: challenging yourself and making continuous progress utilizing your inherent gifts to make the contribution only you can make to others prioritizing the pursuit o...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here After 670 daily episodes, it’s officially time to wrap up the first season of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast. In fact, this is the final episode of Season One.    Consider this...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   After 670 daily episodes, it’s officially time to wrap up the first season of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast.    Here are some of the changes coming your way: the daily podcas...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   After 670 daily episodes, it’s officially time to wrap up the first season of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast. This is the perfect opportunity to reflect on what I’ve learned:...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   There are times when we all reach out for “help” from others when what we are really seeking is the permission to trust ourselves and do what we need to do to have our own back.   ...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   In my not-so-humble opinion, we are here to offer meaningful, impactful contributions to others. However, if you need attention or an audience for your contributions, you may be tip...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   If you’re in the habit of saying YES even when you mean NO or NOT YET, changing this habit requires smalls shifts: identify how YES or NO shows up in your body tell yourself the tru...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   “Overwhelmed means an extreme level of stress, an emotional and/or cognitive intensity to the point of feeling unable to function… overwhelmed is about our narrative of emotional an...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.    I invite you to consider these questions: Do you feel guilty for...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.    I invite you to consider these questions: Do you indulge in too m...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.    I invite you to consider these questions: Do you feel like you ha...

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   If you are feeling overwhelmed, it’s likely that you feel that you have too much to do but have too little time.    I invite you to consider these questions: Do you have too many ch...