Intelligent Intoxication

If you’re in your empty nest stage of life or on the brink of it, it’s crucial that you prioritize identities in addition to being a “parent” or “mother”.  I invite you to consider exploring these new identities… are you a/an: Artist or creator? Explorer or seeker? Caregiver or nurturer? Teacher or sage? Performer or entertainer? Visionary or innovator? Athlete or warrior? Builder or engineer? Hea...

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If you notice that you’re no longer making progress towards your goals or you don’t have the results that you want, you have two options: Rely on trusted tips, strategies, habits, and tools that have worked for you in the past Accept that you might need to increase your self-awareness by trying and learning something new I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to try somethin...

When we say “trust your gut” or “trust your instinct”, we are referring to the ability to: “... the sudden flash of insight from deep within can inspire plenty of faith… trusting these feelings of intuition, often as a way to stay true to yourself… following your instinct can certainly direct you toward the best path for you. And yet, you might wonder whether you should put so much trust in a feel...

According to Psychology Today, “empty nest syndrome” is: “Empty nest syndrome refers to the distress and other complicated emotions that parents often experience when their children leave home.” In order to navigate these uncomfortable emotions and this new stage, here are a few suggestions: Begin to prioritize who you will invest time and energy into in this new phase of life.  Start to declutter...

If you are “performing” for others, you are trying to impress others, or seeking attention from them almost as if they’re your audience.  When we’re deeply connected to others, we are present, interested, and curious about the other person.  Here are a few questions for your consideration: When do you notice talking AT other people, rather than engaging with them? What is your intention for doing...

“Happiness is not a feeling… one of the biggest reasons people don’t get happier is that they’re chasing a feeling… feelings are evidence of happiness… the three parts of happiness are enjoyment, satisfaction and meaning.” Arthur C. Brooks/author Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier. According to Brooks, if you want to get happier, you must develop the skills needed to:...

I’m thrilled to share with you a brilliant resource I just found: Overcoming Overthinking, Ruminating, and Intrusive Thoughts Workbook Licensed Therapist, Suzette Bray, shares her professional insights, tips, and strategies for overcoming these three unhelpful thought patterns.  When we’re overthinking, we’re stuck in thinking about the future in the form of worries, what ifs, and worst-case scena...

A diagnosis for a mental health disorder is not meant to label you or become part of your identity. A diagnosis is intended to provide you with the information you need to work with a professional to create a plan that will allow you to thrive as you curate a life that is sustainably satisfying to you.   Here’s how the Mental Health Management Group (MHMG) explains a diagnosis: “A mental health di...

If you were the main character in a movie of your life, what might the audience be yellling at you to finally do? Finally stop doing? Finally be or create? I invite you to consider these questions: When you think of your own “Just BLANK already”, what is preventing you from doing it? How active is your Inner Critic? Do you need a teacher, mentor, or coach to support your progress? Are you focused...

We don’t build momentum before we get “moving”. First, we get into motion, then we create momentum.  Here are a few strategies to try in order to build momentum: On paper, brainstorm any tasks you’ve been waiting to do until you build momentum or “feel” like it.  Block off time on your calendar to focus.  Practice the Pomodoro productivity technique: Pomodoro Technique Buy a time cube here: Time C...

If you’re feeling stuck, ask yourself: What’s working in my life so far this year? What’s not working in my life? I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to ask for help and support if something isn’t working in your life? What might prevent you from doing so? When something isn’t working, how active or loud is your Inner Critic chatter? If you know you could use some support...

When we don’t “like” someone, it’s often because we aren’t compatible with them or to them. It’s likely that our values, views, habits, passions, or priorities just don’t match.  When you notice that you don’t like someone, try this: “I’m noticing that I don’t like him/her. I wonder if it’s because we aren’t compatible.” I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice not wanting to s...

Dr. Stuart Ablon, creator of Think:Kids, bases his work with “challenging” kids on this six-word philosophy:  “Kids do well if they can.” The implication in these six words is that kids want to do well but don’t have the skills to do so.  Ablon is also the author of the book Change-able: How Collaborative Problem Solving Changes Lives at Home, at School, and at Work: Change-able Here’s a terrific...

A “clean break” is a definitive end or intentional closure. We often avoid “clean breaks” in regard to habits, relationships, companies, or situations, because we are people pleasing or trying to control the thoughts or emotions of others. We mistakenly believe that the discomfort we’ll feel in the moment is not something that we can endure or handle. But, temporary discomfort will pale in compari...

“Why do we do the things we do? Why is it that we measure success and value by attention and status, yet frown upon complacency? What force drives and shapes all of our emotions, actions, quality of life and, ultimately, our destinies? Did you know that the answers to these questions can all be explained by learning about the 6 human needs?” Tony Robbins Our NEEDS are our requirements as human bei...

If you’re willing and/or ready to take down or release the parts of your life that no longer serve you, here’s how I suggest that you begin to do so: tackle the physical clutter start with the smallest spaces (drawers) and with the things you don’t really care about or feel attached to move on to sentimental physical belongings, relationships, acquaintances, or habits that no longer serve you now...

In celebration of the life of my beautiful college friend, Christine Marquise, I’d like to highlight what made her wonderfully brilliant, as there is so much to be learned from her legacy.  Christine, or “Ollie”, as we lovingly called her, was an energizing, rather than depleting or draining friend. Here’s why: She was emotionally mature and willing to be emotionally vulnerable She gave her friend...

In order to start, stop, or create this, what is the system I am going to need in place? A system is a step-by-step checklist that you can follow on auto-pilot in the direction of your desired destination.  I invite you to consider these questions: What do you want to stop doing? What do you want to start doing? What do you want to create? Will saying YES to this energize me?  If you’re ready to c...

Birthing something new in your life will be: Painful Uncertain Confusing Disappointing But feeling these emotions doesn’t mean that you’re on the wrong track. In order to “birth” your own version of different, you must be capable of and willing to feel “negative” emotions.    I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice quitting on your goals or dreams when they feel uncomfortable...

Years ago, my beloved therapist, Meg, gave me a “Personal Bill of Rights”. Admittedly, at that time, I wanted to want to believe everything on the page, but I didn’t… yet. But thanks to years of personal development with the help of therapists and coaches, today I practice and embody every right on the list. You can too, my friend.  If there’s a “right” that you really want to believe, I invite yo...

If we’re not aware of our stress levels, it’s easy to become overloaded or shutdown during the month of December.  Here’s what you might notice if you’re feeling overloaded: Clenched Hot Heart pounding Fighting Anxious Hypervigilant Impulsive angry/frustrated/annoyed irritable Defensive Overwhelmed Shaking Aggressive Revved up Agitated Intense Panic Antsy Wound up Stressed Tight Fidgety Jittery Tr...

When we are trying so hard to be “right”, we often become “righteous” and believe ourselves to be intellectually, morally, emotionally, or mentally superior to others, and we blame those who disagree with us.  When we’re in integrity, we are empowered to align our words and actions to our own core values. While we may challenge (respectfully) beliefs or decisions different from our own, we don’t p...

Healthy, secure friendships must be based on these three beliefs: “I want my friends to have other friends. I don’t get to decide who my friends choose as friends.”  “My friends don’t have to love what I love or value what I value. We aren’t going to be 100% compatible.” “I want to make sure that I give my friends equal air time.”  I invite you to consider these questions: Which of your current fr...

There is a difference between collecting information and applying it. We can know and understand, but if we don’t use the information and understanding in our daily lives, we aren’t really growing or expanding.  I don’t believe that we need more information in order to make sustainable change. We might need a small amount of different information AND a simple and sustainable system for applying th...