Inner Bonding

People who are very different from each other are often attracted to each other. Discover why this can be a very positive thing in your relationship and how to resolve the conflicts that may arise. Our unhealed issues come up in all our relationships - with partners, at work, with friends and family - giving us the opportunity to do our inner healing work. 

The feeling of belonging is an essential part of experiencing a full life, yet many people walk around with the painful feeling of not belonging. Discover how to create a deep sense of both inner and outer belonging.

Learn to practice awareness of your intent so you can move out of your painful feelings and into your inner peace. Discover the power and potency of your intent in creating loving relationships.

Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make? Discover how you can influence people to want to change, rather than trying to control them, which doesn't work at all. Learn about the things you might need to change in yourself in order to have a chance at creating change in your partner and in your relationship. 

Which part of you do you put your trust in to guide your life - your mind or your soul? The spiritual journey is one of moving from ego wounded self being in control to heart and soul guiding your life. This shift is the key to inner peace and joy. 

Relationships offer us a wonderful arena to learn, grow, and become more loving to ourselves and others, but whether or not this happens depends on your intention. 

There is a huge difference between authentically caring for the joy of caring and caring to get something or avoid something. Discover the path to true authentically and connection with yourself and with your family and friends.

You were likely not taught that your feelings are a very powerful source of inner guidance. That you need to listen inside, being aware of your feelings so you can be present for the vital information they are offering you.

Do you have a pattern of attracting narcissists into your life? Discover why! Are you currently in a relationship with a narcissist and need help navigating it? Have you been in love with a narcissist and are now going through pain and confusion as a result of the relationship ending? Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learning process. Learn it now! 

Discover some of the processes and activities you may be using addictively, to avoid your feelings and avoid responsibility for them. You can heal from your addictions!

Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? How often in your life have you felt that magical feeling of deeply connecting with another? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection in your life.

No matter how much time you spend with your children, if you are tense instead of present and peaceful, they will not be getting what they need from you. When you are open to learning with your children and with yourself, you will not need to resort to authoritarian or permissive controlling behaviors. 

I know that there is one choice we can make that will heal the divisions and conflicts and wars that we are current experiencing – one choice that will also heal animal abuse and climate change. Are you ready to make this one choice? 

Is your wounded self in charge of your money? Are negative feelings about taking personal responsibility limiting you? Are conflicts over money causing problems in your relationships? Do you trust yourself to love yourself enough to take personal responsibility for your finances?  Which do you believe comes first - happiness or financial success? You might be surprised at the answer! 

Do you know the difference between real love and infatuation? The answer to whether or not you are really in love depends upon which part of you feels in love and which part of the other person you are in love with. Do you find yourself attracted to the same kind of person over and over and it never works out? Learn why! 

If you are in a verbally or emotionally abusive relationship, awareness of it is the first step. Discover how you might be compliant in this relationship, what there is to learn, and how to know if it’s in your highest good to stay or leave.

Do you and your partner, family, or friends find yourselves in the blame game, blaming each other or blaming yourself? Does conflict resolution between you and another person get stuck in the blame game? Discover how loving it is to yourself to understand the profound difference between blame and personal responsibility. 

The practice of the presence of love is one of the most powerful things we can learn to do, and it take courage to open to this practice. The practice of Inner Bonding and the practice of the presence of love will gradually move you out of fear and resistance and into peace and joy.

Take a lesson from Elvis Presley: Learn to define your own worth, instead of having to ask others, "Who am I?" While many people believe that self-worth comes from outside - from others' love and approval, as well as from financial success - this is not the case at all.

Do you get overwhelmed when too much is coming at you at once? When you feel overwhelmed, do you believe that it is about external circumstances? Do you often feel overwhelmed with demands, tasks, and life in general? Do you ever feel stressed that there will never be enough time to get everything done? Learn how to love yourself in the face of overwhelming and challenging situations. 

Your anger can teach you many things if you choose to learn from it rather than use it as a means of controlling others. Anger at others is often a manifestation of a lack of self-care. Is your inner child angry at you for your lack of self-care and then projecting this onto others? Discover a powerful process for learning from and healing anger rather than dumping it on others or suppressing it. 

If you feel alone, empty, anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, jealous, sad, fearful, guilty, or shamed, you are likely abandoning yourself both physically and emotionally. Learn how having compassion for yourself, rather than ignoring or judging yourself, can totally change your inner and relationship experience. 

When you are acting out in ways that are unloving to you and to others, your wounded self is in charge. Learn how do you stop indulging your wounded self. Do you sometimes wonder if what you are hearing is actually from your guidance? Are you afraid that if you surrender to your spiritual guidance, you will be controlled by your guidance, lose your motivation, be taken advantage of or feel even mo...

Are you stuck being a slave of your wounded self, or do you trust your intuition? It is easy to trust and have faith when good things are happening, but it's harder when bad things happen, or things don't go our way. Life is much less stressful when we trust that we are always being guided in our highest good by the intelligence of love. 

Mass murders, violent teens, school violence, drugs, greed - why? You might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true?  The greed and violence of the wounded self needs research and healing, and I'm offering some ideas regarding what needs to happen to heal.