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In just 6 months, you feel like such a baddie. Showing up to a holiday party rocking the cutest Winter sweater and boots with a homemade appetizer in hand and your adorable kiddos trailing you behind? Your aunt asks, “your husband working again? Wish he could take a day off for you!” That snarky comment rolls right over your shoulders. You don’t even acknowledge it with a verbal response. You smil...

He’s there for you. He’s unloaded the dishwasher during the day after he slept after night shift. He picked up the kids from school. He got called to overtime when he was supposed to pick you up from the airport, but he arranged for your bestie to pick you up. He works hard so you and your kids are provided for. You see it, celebrate it, and just love him deeper than ever. This is who you become i...

Feeling disconnected, resentful or frustrated? Like you’re two ships passing in the night? Imagine just 3 months from now, your husband says “I didn’t realize just how much you loved me.” He surprises you with flowers and chocolates out of the blue. You feel deeply connected and secure in your relationship. Resources from this episode

Feeling disconnected from your boyfriend or husband as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife or military wife? Resources from this episode

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A deputy wife came to me struggling with a hypervigilant and overstimulated deputy K9 husband who had seen far too many dead bodies to count as one of the other search and rescue sheriffs in their small town. She felt like he was a ticking time bomb. She felt uncomfortable in her own home. But after 5 months of coaching, their lives transformed. She stopped after to guess if he had a bad day, beca...

My client inside my Empowered Partner course transformed from lonely and resentful to so empowered as a police wife, military wife and new mom with a husband deployed that she has begun helping others locally. I know her story will inspire you. Resources from this episode

My Resilient Ride Along client’s boyfriend told her, “I want to see you more.” Is there anything better than this as a first responder or military spouse? Deputy wife, you know what I’m talking about. Time with your partner is precious and sometimes hard to come by in this life. Here’s how to get more time with your partner. Resources from this episode

I’m responding to a couple questions I’ve received about being a strong woman and being married to a police officer. This one got me on a gratitude rant, but also I wanted to show you how I am a working mom with a police husband who supports me and my dreams too. You can have it all. Cheers to being “already there” with me. You’ll understand more after you listen. Resources from this episode

In this episode, I take you through a typical day in the life of a metro police officer to gain empathy for why your routines and communication need to look differently than a traditional 9-5 marriage. This episode shouldn’t be listened to with children present. Resources in this episode

You’re “shoulding” on your marriage or relationship as a police wife, deputy wife, fire wife, or veteran wife and it’s hurting your marriage. Open your eyes to a redefined relationship where you see yourself holding a special role in society. This is where a strong, safe relationship lies. Resources from this episode

So you hear that police are arrogant? I’m so excited to share this episode with you. It’s a mic drop situation and I know it’ll shift your perspective about police. Resources from this episode

You’ve been told marriage advice like “don’t go to bed angry,” but as a first responder or military wife, that would mean not going to sleep til 3am after your police husband gets home from night shift or never sleeping while your firefighter spouse or military spouse is deployed. Or, it might mean that you text your husband your deepest, darkest angry feelings while he’s on duty at a dead body ca...

This is one of the hardest moment to deal with. It’s one thing for us to work through our own emotions as a police wife, firefighter wife, or military wife, but it’s another to console your child who misses their Dad. I share three practical takeaways you can apply in those moments in this episode. Resources from this episode

I share two stories that will inspire you as a police wife, firefighter wife, or military wife or girlfriend. One is all about how use curiosity instead of assumption to get to know your partner and become the person your partner can trust. The second is a relatable, funny story you’re going to love. Resources from this episode

You think that your resentment is because you feel like your partner is never home or you can’t seem to find time together. In reality, what I’ve seen in coaching over 50 police wives, deputy wives, firefighter wives, and/or military wives this year alone, is that there is a root to uncover that is causing your resentment. Once you address the root cause, the resentment drifts away. I’m so excited...

We just got back from a two week vacation to Cape Charles, Virginia. Early on in our police marriage, never did I imagine my husband would ever take this much time off. How did we get here and how can you use these two strategies to have more time with your partner as a police wife, firefighter wife, deputy wife, paramedic wife, or military wife or girlfriend? I got you. Resources from this episod...

As a police wife, firefighter wife, or military wife, being the default parent and solo parenting is often a major part of your role. After listening to this episode, I hope you feel empowered to advocate for your own self care and protect your peace. Resources from this episode

I share my police wife client’s story where she went from feeling like she had one foot in and one foot out of this life. I share what she did to fully embrace this life and feel like she and her husband could face whatever comes their way. Resources from this episode

This is what’s keeping you lonely- isolated and distant from your police, firefighter, military husband or boyfriend. And, I provide a clear way to improve your connection to your partner. Resources from this episode

My deputy K9 wife client went from feeling like time together with her husband was nearly impossible, especially because he was accepting optional overtime without talking to her first. If you’re a police wife, firefighter wife, military wife or girlfriend, this episode is for you. This is how she flipped their relationship upside down and got back to back dates with her husband. Resources from th...

Ever feel like your partner’s workouts just take more time away from the family? I felt this way in the beginning of our marriage too as a police wife. I share how I overcame it and you can too. Women have said that they began supporting their husband’s workouts and improved their own self care after reading my book and completing my Empowered Partner course. Resources from this episode

Feel like you’re butting heads with your police, firefighter, or military husband or boyfriend? You’re not on the same page about anything lately. You’re not sure he wants to be around you and your family. Work seems to be prioritized more than you and/or your family. This episode is for you to switch from a solo sport to playing on the same team again with your partner as a police wife, firefight...

An Instagram follower asked me, “How does your family dinner look?” She didn’t know just how passionate I am about the family dinner along with my police husband. But, our police family dinner looks different than others and so can yours. I provide ideas on the importance of family meals and how you can navigate them differently based on your partner’s shift as a police wife. Our family has dealt...

Ever feel like your partner is distant, but he won’t open up to you? You push him to talk, but instead of pulling him closer, you push him away. This skill my client learned she says always has him opening up to her when she uses it. Resources from this episode