Getting Out From Under

In this episode, I share the turning point that reshaped my marriage and my sense of safety. What began as yet another financial deception escalated into a late-night confrontation in Tokyo—an event that revealed the depth of my husband’s lies and the extent of the trouble he had pulled our family into. From that moment, fear became a constant presence in my life. Instead of feeling supported by m...

In this episode, I tell the story of the very first time I felt truly betrayed by my husband and the circumstances of our life at the time that prevented me from leaving. Please feel free to leave me comments here or send me an email at gettingoutbrenda@gmail.com.

In Part Two of this episode I discuss the first time my boundaries were really tested with my ex-husband, before he was my husband, and how that may have set the course for our entire relationship and marriage. Trigger warning for mentions of suicide and some adult language. Please feel free to leave your comments and questions here or e-mail me at gettingoutbrenda@gmail.com

In Part One of Episode 3, I begin to tell the story of how we met, and how I started to put aside my own needs and wants. The love bombing from my love interest, who I eventually married, seemed like the key to fulfilling my dream of getting married and settling down before I was "too old" and passed some arbitrary past due date that I had set for myself. Trigger warning for mentions of...

Thank you for joining me again as I tell my story of how I got out of an abusive relationship with a man, who I believe is a narcissist, in a country that is not my own. In this episode, I tell a little bit about my upbringing, and how I became a people pleaser believing that was the only way to be loved. I truly believed, and to some degree I probably still believe, that no one could simply love...

Hello and welcome to Getting Out From Under! I'm so happy to have you here! This episode explains why I started this podcast and what I hope to achieve by publishing a podcast. I am an American woman, who has been living in Japan nearly 30 years. I had a successful career and satisfying social life when I met the man I would marry nearly 20 years ago. I quit my job and moved across the country to...