The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

I've been off the mic for eight months. Here's where I've been — and where we're going. —— After 49 days alone in a pitch-black room in Tuscany last year, I came out a different man. Not better, not worse — different. And I knew I couldn't keep having the same conversations I'd been having for the last five years. In this episode, I'm sharing three ideas that came out o...

Hey folks, here is an early morning guided meditation from you before I take a hiatus from the podcast for a few weeks to reintegrate from my dark retreat. I wanted to share this with you while I still feel I have a foot in the other world. Find a comfy spot, close your eyes, and join me as we drop down into your heart and the depth of your being. We’ll be back late September with more incredible...

Stephen Jenkinson is a treasure, he’s also a three time Uncivilized Podcast guest, now speaking to us from a difficult place. Usually the man sitting with the dying, he’s now sitting with death himself. In this conversation I wanted to ask Stephen all of the no bullshit questions I could, giving him no softballs and going straight into the heart of the matter. As he always does, he took my questio...

Kati Bird is the very first person to teach me about Shibari, the Japanese bondage system. She now travels the world leading workshops, working with couples and individuals and has zero apologies about a life lived way outside the box. We sit down and dive right into how Kati went from being a wilderness guide to becoming one of the most sought after Shibari teachers in the world. How she manages...

Back for his second round on The UNcivilized Podcast, the man who trains Special Forces Operators on how to use chaos to their advantage and tap into their instinct and intuition. Don’t worry, his work is applicable to all — even the school children he teaches his programs to. Angus Fletcher is the author of Primal Intelligence and a friend of ours at UNcivilized. In this conversation we dive into...

Miles rote started his career as United States Marine, then became a Police Officer, then a Private Investigator, then a yoga teacher, and now runs one of the most successful book publishing companies in the world. Like me, he’s also a giant AI dork. His life story is twisty, turny, and incredibly wild. We talk about choosing a path for your life, knowing when to make a hard pivot when your intuit...

Imagine dating in your twenties, getting married, and now in your mid forties or fifties, you’re back in the dating world — and it’s a mess! In this conversation I chat with a woman who has built one of the largest match making and dating coaching businesses in the world. Hell, match.com tried to buy her last business! While we joke and laugh through it all we do get down to what works and what do...

Yep, you read the title correctly. This week I sit down with a young man from Colorado Springs who is planning on running 500 miles with a team of doctors and experts — all the while consuming LSD and psilocybin. Wild to say the least. We jam on what originally created the idea for this project, how it will be managed, and what Dante hopes comes from it. This episode is short and straight to the p...

If you’re a new dad, or know a new dad this episode is for you. Hell, even if you’re not one, this is an honest conversation about the massive initiation that is fatherhood.  In this episode I sit down with my good friend and brother Dr. Long Distance Love Bombs and chat with him about all the ways, both amazing and challenging, that his life has changed since becoming a dad this past year. We tal...

Most people think this is about mental toughness. It's not. This episode covers what I packed, what I wish I hadn't, what saved me, and what almost broke me. But more importantly — it’s about how surrender is the only real survival skill worth having. I share the little rituals and practices that got me through the most intense parts of the experience, and what I'll be doing differently this time...

There's a lot of talk about masculinity out there. Most of it's noise. In the dark, I discovered a version of masculinity that had nothing to prove, nothing to fight, and nothing to perform. Just strength. Stillness. Surrender. This episode is about how darkness stripped me down to the bones--and what I found underneath. I talk about the power of discipline without ego, devotion without force, and...

Pain doesn't leave the body until it's been felt. In this episode, I talk about how darkness forced me to feel the stuff I spent years running from--grief, heartbreak, shame. All of it. No therapist. No journal. Just pitch black silence and a willingness to not run. I open up about what happened when I finally let the pain have a voice, and what healing looked like when there was no one around to...

Ever sat still long enough to hear yourself think? What about long enough to hear yourself scream? This episode is about the three characters that show up when the world goes quiet--fear, boredom, and madness. I met all three of them in the dark. Some of them became friends. Some... not so much. I get into the games your mind plays when there's no one to distract you, and how facing these voices h...

We live in a world built on distraction--dopamine loops, constant noise, nonstop input. But what happens when you take it all away? In this one, I share what it felt like to remove every single thing I usually lean on--no Instagram, no podcasts, no books, no light. Just stillness and space. Spoiler alert: it sucked. Then it got profound. This episode isn't just about silence--it's about withdrawal...

If you've ever wanted to run away from your life for a bit--or just hide in a closet with no phone--you're going to get this one. In this episode, I dive into why I chose to sit in total darkness for 28 days... and why I'm going back in for **49**. No phone. No light. No distractions. Just me, my mind, and whatever monsters show up when there's nothing else to hold onto.  It wasn't just an escape-...

In this episode I’ll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY! We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I’ll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betraya...

If you’re a man who has sex, or know one who does, this episode is for you. Taylor Johnson used to be addicted to porn. Heavily. And like so many men, it destroyed his sex life. It led to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, depression and anxiety. Sounds great doesn’t it? After putting himself through a series of abstinence experiments his whole life began to change — both in the bedroom...

In this episode I’ll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you’re in a breakup or divorce. My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I’ve worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they...

In this episode I speak with renowned author Dr. Douglas Thomas on what makes people tick in the bedroom and beyond it. After reading Dr. Thomas’s book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM & Kink while in Costa Rica, I reached out to Dr. Thomas to see if he’d come on the podcast with me. He agreed and magic was made. We talk archetypes, the power of our sexuality, and at the end dive into the changes...

In this episode I’ll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don’t live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you. If there’s one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it’s being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you. Learning to work thr...

If you’re curious how to build more trust, devotion, and polarity in your relationship, this episode is for you. Ever wonder what really happens in a relationship dynamic where both parties have agreed to a complete Dom/sub relationship? Ever wonder how that dynamic could help you be a better partner in your own relationship, no matter how it’s put together? In this candid conversation with Andrew...

Every time I have a client say their stuck because they’re afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you’re not. You’re afraid of the unknown. The deep unknown. The things you can’t even conceptualize right now. And — you need to start anyway. Anyone and everyone you know who’s done something outside of their comfort zone has had the exact same stuck feeling.  Stick...

Now more than ever, people are craving a deeper experience of their lives. I bet you can relate. In this episode I speak with Boulder Outdoor Survival School graduate, Men’s Work Facilitator, and BJJ enthusiast Evan Meyer on his own path towards living a soul based life, the pain and turmoil he’s had to go through to get where he’s at, and of course, his favorite Jiujitsu submission. If you’re cur...

Myth. Sex. Pleasure. Oh my. In this conversation with author and Depth Psychologist Dr. Alanna Kaivalya we jam on several aspects of relationship and female pleasure. And this podcast isn’t just for our female listeners, guys you will glean much from this episode as well. Dr. Kaivalya has a unique lens on the relationship world as both a psychologist and someone who has a deep understanding of myt...

Today I bring you another Irishman and a fascinating one at that. Pat is a good friend of the Uncivilized world and has been leading a life worthy of the title of Uncivilized since before we were born. In this episode we follow Pat’s career going from fitness success and lack of satisfaction into the world of Breathwork and how that has radically changed his life. Pat’s openness about the truth of...