The Christie Hoffman Show

Ever look at someone else’s life and feel like you should be further along by now?  Let’s talk about comparison, starting over, and the scary decisions we put off because we don’t want to disappoint anyone.  Want to keep these conversations going? Join me on Patreon for live Q&As! https://www.patreon.com/cw/ChristieHoffman Follow me on Instagram and TikTok: @christie.heals I love you!  Send Me...

I had hundreds of thousands of followers, and I was quietly about to lose my house. This week, I’m sharing how divorce, grief, burnout, and rebuilding my life brought me here, and what happened when I finally told you the truth. We’re talking about the shame of needing help, learning to receive love, and the hard conversations that change your life! Here's the video where I finally told the t...

We're talking about what happens when family traditions start feeling more like torture obligations, and why you're allowed to make different choices this year.  (Even if someone accuses you of tearing the family apart - you're not!!!) I'm sharing some of my own holiday horror stories, what it was like finally spending Thanksgiving without all the chaos, and some practical ways...

Does your birth order help explain who you became—or did the role you were assigned in your family shape you even more? Let's break down the common patterns of firstborns, middle children, youngest children, and only children, then layering in the dysfunctional family roles of the golden child, scapegoat, and invisible child.  I also share my own family's story, how those childhood roles...

Forgive me. This episode took FOREVER to upload and I had to unplug my keyboaard to do it. I need a sleep cycle and will add the books and showotes asap tomorrow i PWOMISE  I LOVE YOU  YOU'RE GREAT Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Boundaries are an act of love. You're not being cruel, you're saying what YOU need for the relationship to continue. Don't ever let anyyyyyyone tell you that you're not allowed to send boundaries. You're finding your voice - And you're allowed to use it!! ❤️ Things I Mentioned 👇 (Quiz) Trauma Response Assessment - I built this, send me feedback!  (Book) The Book of B...

Hi Cutie Pie! I love you.  Here's some things I mentioned:  My Eagle Spirit Guide (Soul Contract Video) My favorite Joe Dispenza Meditations Tuning into new potentials Morning / Evening meditations (shorter meditations for every day) Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Why is happiness so hard to find, even when life looks good on paper? Let's explore how our brains are wired to scan for danger and chase the next milestone, causing us to still feel empty. I personally think happiness can't exist unless there's peace, first.  The problem is... peace comes from setting boundaries, leaving unhealthy relationships, and quitting the job you hate. Findi...

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Hey, ya little cutie pie!! Here's some stuff I mentioned:  The Map of Human Consciousness TABLE (not chart. heheh) MOHC Book  Power Vs Force  DON'T YOU DARE LET ANYONE DULL YOUR SHINE. Don't you let anyone make you think you don't have value, you're not loveable, or that you are responsible for their happiness at the cost of YOUR sanity. no. We done wit dat.  I love you, y...

Have you ever needed a nap after an argument? Started shaking because you felt misunderstood? Suddenly become obsessed with fixing everything, keeping everyone happy, or getting the hell out of there?  Congrats, your trauma response was activated. 🥴 In this episode, we’re breaking down fight, flight, freeze, and fawn —what they actually are, why they happen, what they can look like in everyday li...

Hey! It's another week of answering your questions!  You asked some good ones:  - How do you let go of hope that your narcissistic parents will change?  - How do I reach out to my estranged daughter?  - How are my kids after seeing toxic behavior from my extended family?  - When / How do you recognize in your body its time to set boundaries?  - How to deal with angry daughter that keeps grand...

Thanks everyone for your questions, I'll answer more in the next episode!  If you want help with boundaries, resonding to DARVO, and dealing with difficult people, you're going to love the quick course I made you .  It's not your job to change people. Focus all that energy on what you can control, and watch your life completeky transform!  You're doing great, You're very l...

If you feel stuck like you were meant for more, I was too. I was miserable, I felt like I was floundering. Here's exactly how I got unstuck. 1. Follow your whimsy  2. Stop hanging out with losers  3. Envision your future ( free Joe Dispenza meditation ) 4. Meet your Shadow self ( I used this journal )  Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? YESSSSSSSS. Do it for the plot, baby.  You're doing gr...

Ever apologized for something you didn't do? You got DARVO'd by an unhealed goof ball.  DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.  aka: some people are so scared of taking accuntability they'd rather make you feel like the problem than say sorry. That's some victim mentality ish.  ⭐ You're not crazy. Here's a cheat sheet. ⭐ 👉 And here's the M...

Hey, ya litle cutie pie!  Here's the video I mentioned of the mom who wasn't invited to the wedding  YOU'RE DOING GREAT. I LOVE YOU!!!! bye!  @christie.heals  Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

Hey! Sibling betrayal is messy stuff. I've been there, and I want you to know you're not crazy.  Here's some stuff I mentioned...  Make sure I have your email! Stop asking people WHY they did what they did to you  I think there was a 3rd, I have to listen back or send me a DM!  Keep going, I love you! BYE!  @christie.heals 

Hi ya little cutie....How ya healin? Here's some stuff I mentioned: (DM me if the links don't work) FREE manipulation guide + teaser to my course Mother / Daughter Dance off Book Reccomendations Spittin' truth while curling my hair Black Sheep = GOAT We go all oevr the place in this episode, maybe one day I'll have a producer and we cna add chapter markers. Until then.... just...

Hey! Breaking cycles while raising the next generation ain't for the faint of heart!  Here's the two books I mentioned:  How to talk so kids will Listen  Parenting from the inside out   Love you, Bye! 

Oh, HEYY! Here's some things I talked about.  Wig video where toxic mom stomps on my foot  Video on my abusive marriage Trauma bonds are very common for people who experienced an abusive childhood. It's a strong emotional attachment to someone who abuses you sometimes, followed by some good times. It's like you can't quit the stuff. It's addictive. You're not weak if...

Hey friends!  There's nothing wrong with you if choosing yourself turned into a dark void you weren't expecting. Healing is messy. The old version of you has graduated — but you're stuck in this weird in-between where there's nobody. I'll tell you my story of what it was like to heal my nervous system after years of codependent and abusive relationships, and why I'm s...

Are we in a video game? Sure - so how do we win?  DON'T STAY ON LEVEL ONE. Videos I mentioned:  Michio Kaku  A Trip to Infinity (Netflix documentary)  No matter what you're going through, you're doing great! Healing is messy, when the path disappears you're definitlely doing it right. Keep choosing yourself!  I love you, free resources and funny videos on instagram and tiktok. ...

This week we're diving into two of the most foundational wounds that shape who we become as adults — the mother wound and the father wound. If you've ever wondered why you self-sabotage, why you can't stop seeking approval, why certain relationships keep repeating, or why success feels just out of reach no matter how hard you work — this episode is going to give you some real answer...

Hey! Here's the video I mentioned in the opening.  This week I talk about how my brother sent me 2 green balloons and showed me a typo on his headstone - all to prove I was really hearing his voice after he passed. I'll post a photo of all of it on instagram soon.  Angel number meanings: 000 / 0000: Endless possibilities and a fresh start. 111 / 1111: Manifestation, intuition, and new be...