perimeno-PAUSED

What do you call the nap you take before you go out? Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather start with the disco nap and end up somewhere much deeper. Jessica’s sister is a professional sloth. Rebecca has never once scheduled a nap. Along the way: why sleeping in public feels so exposed, who gets to decide you’re capable, and what it costs to grow up fast. And because this is a perimenopause podcast, a rem...

This week Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather dig into the strange, sometimes spooky world of their dreams: REM cycles, why some dreams stick and others vanish by breakfast, and the time one of us dreamed she had to murder her own CFO husband (relax, it wasn't personal). We detour through a dog's allergic reaction scare, GLP-1s and Big Pharma's incentives, and a little existential wobble abo...

Rebecca, Heather, and Jessica reunite to catch up on everything: air conditioning bills, the good old days, and why nobody should have to fight their doctor to be taken seriously about their hormone levels. This episode gets honest about testosterone therapy, anxiety medication, and what it actually takes to feel like yourself again in your forties and fifties. Expect laughter, a little bit of TMI...

Reaching midlife unfortunately means losing icons. Rebecca and Jessica pause the usual chaos this week to celebrate two icons who lived unapologetically as themselves: Dolly Parton and Tim Curry. Between celebrity trivia, full moon energy, and one seriously inconvenient hormone appointment, they dig into what it actually means to have the audacity to become more yourself as you age. Grab your wigs...

This week, Rebecca, Heather, and Jessica tackle the universal struggle of procrastination balanced with the relief of finally getting something uncomfortable over with, and then wanting to savor the moments that make it all worth it. The conversation wanders, as per usual, through high school reunion stories, a debate on what actually makes a good rom-com kiss, and dreaming into launching a home b...

Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather kick off this episode exploring the power of imagination and the mental blocks that keep us stuck. From tracing a winding journey of self-discovery to reading the astrological timing behind personal growth, the conversation moves through embracing life's natural seasons, celebrating small wins, and finding gratitude even in chaos. They close things out with reflection...

Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather wrestle with self-doubt while building work from scratch, talk about why savings (or the lack of them) hits different in your 40s, and make the guilt-free case for taking a break. They open up about a friend's grandmother nearing the end of her life, lean on meditation to sit with hard feelings instead of running from them, and check in on each other when someone&...

Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather play a round of bucket list confessions. What they'd love to do without judgment (smoking freely, living like a European), and what no amount of money could get them to try again (skydiving, shark diving, Mount Everest, a face tattoo). The conversation opens up into aging and family life, a friend's IVF pregnancy at 52, the chaos of traveling with kids through...

What is your time, energy, happiness, and peace actually worth? In this episode, the hosts talk about valuing themselves across work, money, relationships, recovery, and major life transitions. From setting firm boundaries with clients and building businesses to leaving corporate life, choosing fulfilling work, dating with higher standards, and practicing compassionate detachment, they explore the...

In this candid episode, the hosts talk openly about addiction from multiple perspectives: as family members, partners, and people with lived experience of recovery. They explore boundaries, enabling, honesty, emotional labor, and what it means to support someone without losing yourself in the process. Along the way, they also celebrate new opportunities, finding joy during difficult seasons, and o...

This one is Heather's episode, and she comes with a topic. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather get into neurodiversity, what it actually means to live with ADHD, autism, or any combination of the above, and why so many women in midlife are only just now getting the vocabulary to describe what their whole life has felt like. They talk about masking, morning routines, medication decisions, the exhaustion...

Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather are back, freshly returned from their respective summer adventures and in the mood to get into it. This one covers the quiet shift that happens somewhere after 45, when the scarcity mindset starts to lose its grip, hustle gives way to something that actually looks like wisdom, and you realize that not having all the answers might be the whole point. They talk about pa...

Episode 20: Is It in the Cards? What starts with a random knock at Rebecca’s door from a young man warning that a fire is starting in her yard somehow turns into a conversation about tarot, intuition, divine nudges, and whether the universe is constantly trying to get our attention (spoiler: we think maybe yes). We talk about why tarot gets such a weird rap, where some of that fear-based religious...

Episode 19: Catching Up and Getting Woo We’re back together and doing what we do best: catching up on life, big feelings, and mildly unhinged spiritual tangents. Rebecca is fresh off a deeply meaningful retreat in Australia, Heather has closed another chapter in corporate life, and Jessica is in the very real “oh wow, I really did this” phase of startup while still striving toward that steady payc...

In this special extended episode, we sit down with narcissist-proof coach Dorothy Livio Vaughan for an honest, tender, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about what narcissism actually looks like up close, and why it can be so hard to see clearly while you're still inside it. Dorothy walks us through how these patterns show up, why we instinctively know the truth long before our minds catch...

This one started as a bad day. Mars entered Aries, a business partner was being a lot, and somebody was eating Easter candy at a genuinely alarming rate. So Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather did what you do when you need to recover: they got together and talked about everything. Which TV characters they secretly are (Beth Dutton, Hermione Granger, Samantha Jones on testosterone pellets, among others)....

Friendship changes as we do, and this episode gets into all of it. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about the friendships that deepen, the ones that drift, and what connection, loyalty, and mutual effort look like in midlife. It’s warm, thoughtful, and for anyone who has ever treasured a soul-friend, grieved a friendship, or realized they no longer have energy for one-sided relationships. About...

In this episode, we talk about the work nobody sees but that somehow always gets done. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather unpack the mental load, emotional load, and constant behind-the-scenes labor so many women carry at home, at work, and in relationships. It’s honest, validating, and for anyone who has ever felt exhausted by everything they’re holding that no one else seems to notice. About the host...

At what point does something stop being a luxury and start becoming a necessity? In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about all the things they do to hold themselves together in midlife: workouts, supplements, hormones, skincare, beauty treatments, better bedding, nervous system support, and the creature comforts that make life feel more livable. We get into what is vanity, what is...

What would you say to the young woman you used to be if she would actually listen? In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather look back at their younger selves with honesty, tenderness, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from living a little more life. They talk about what they wish they had known about self-trust, shame, boundaries, rest, relationships, and the fact that your brain is not...

Peace sounds simple until you try to keep it. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to find and protect our peace in midlife when life is full, loud, and constantly asking something of us. From family dynamics and relationships to work stress, overthinking, and expectations, we unpack the ways our peace gets disrupted and why it can feel so hard to hold onto it. We get honest about b...

Spring is here, the astrology is astrology-ing, and we are talking about renewal, fresh starts, and what wants to bloom in this season of life. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather explore the energy of spring, the pull to begin again, and the difference between reinventing yourself and returning to yourself. We talk about what we are releasing, what we are calling in, and how midlife gi...

In this episode, we talk about crying at work, almost crying at work, crying in the bathroom at work, and the very blurry line between being professional and being an actual human being. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather unpack the moments that push us over the edge in midlife: overwhelm, criticism, hormones, burnout, being asked for one more thing when we are already hanging on by a thread. Funny, ho...

Have you ever walked into a room with purpose and then immediately forgotten why? Same. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about brain fog, missing words, lost phones, misplaced glasses, and the very specific midlife experience of feeling like your brain has 47 tabs open at all times. We get into stress, sleep, hormones, perimenopause, and the strange mix of humor and fear that ca...

Hosted by Rebecca, Jessica & Heather Why do our brains jump straight to the worst possible outcome… even when nothing bad has actually happened? In this episode of PerimenoPAUSED , Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather dive into the fine art of catastrophizing: that familiar midlife mental spiral where a neutral situation somehow turns into a full-blown disaster movie in your head. About the hosts: Re...