Found at 17

What if you actually know what you want—you just don’t trust yourself enough to choose it? In this episode of Found at 17 , I’m talking about something I didn’t fully recognize until I looked back at the decisions that shaped my life: how much time I spent second-guessing myself and looking for someone else to confirm that what I wanted was okay. I stayed in an unhappy marriage about five and a ha...

In this episode of Found at 17 , we talk about the particular pain of distancing yourself from someone who seems completely oblivious to why you've done it—and how that can make you question your own judgment, your memories, and even your sanity. This can be especially complicated with family estrangement . When you've spent your life hearing that family is family, creating distance can br...

Have you ever known something was wrong but kept talking yourself out of it? You knew the relationship wasn't what you wanted. You knew you were unhappy. You knew you needed help. You knew you were living according to someone else's expectations—but somehow, you kept going. That's self-abandonment. In this episode of Found at 17, Rosanna talks about what happens when you already know t...

Did you grow up with an emotionally unavailable parent and now find yourself choosing emotionally unavailable partners, struggling to ask for what you need, or feeling like you have to handle everything on your own? In this episode of Found at 17, we’re talking about what emotional unavailability actually looks like—and why it can be so difficult to recognize when the parent still loved you, provi...

You keep setting boundaries and they keep getting ignored. That's not a boundary problem — it's an access problem, and almost nobody talks about the difference. This episode breaks down the abandonment wound underneath it and the one shift that actually works. In this episode, Rosanna breaks down why "boundary" stopped meaning anything — and introduces the concept that actually w...

Why can’t you relax without feeling guilty? Why does sitting down, doing nothing, or doing something just for fun somehow feel like you should be doing something more productive? In this episode of Found at 17, we’re talking about why so many of us stopped playing somewhere along the way—and why it may have less to do with getting older and more to do with what we learned growing up. I share the s...

Why is it so hard to ask for help when you are the person everyone else relies on? You get home exhausted. Dinner needs to be made, homework needs to be checked, laundry is waiting, someone has practice in an hour—and there are perfectly capable people around you. But asking for help does not even cross your mind. You just think, It’s faster if I do it myself. And sometimes it is. But what happens...

Your child chose the house with fewer rules. You made the rules, their father made the memories, and somehow you are the one sitting in a quiet house wondering what fifteen years was for. In this episode, Rosanna talks to the divorced mother whose child chose to live with their dad — and to every woman who put her life on hold so her kids could have a stable one, and got no acknowledgment for it....

School counselor Francisco Cepeda sits across from teenagers every day—and hears what many parents and adults never get to hear. In this conversation, Francisco shares what teenagers are quietly carrying, why young men often struggle to express what they need, and how feeling unseen or excluded can shape a boy’s confidence, choices, and mental health. He also shares the personal wound that led him...

Everyone is about to ask a 17-year-old the wrong question. What are you going to do with your life? This is a short letter to a rising senior, from a former teacher. It says the thing nobody says: you don't need the answer this year. What you do need is the skill nobody teaches, which is how to be direct. First with yourself, about what you actually want instead of the safe answer your family is e...

You counted the dinners. You didn't sit down and do it. It landed on you one night at the table, and it hasn't left since. This is empty nest grief, and it starts long before the nest is empty. In this episode Rosanna names the last year with your senior: the math you cannot stop doing, why you keep snapping at a kid you are about to miss, and why nobody will let you call this grief. When...

You call it high standards. You call it being thorough. But if a small decision takes you three days — the lists, the tabs, asking everyone's opinion before you trust your own — that's not careful. That's an abandonment wound running the show. In this episode, I break down why perfectionism, people-pleasing, and chronic overthinking aren't personality traits — they're survival...

Why does being chosen feel so powerful? In Love Is Blind and Perfect Match , you can watch it happen in real time. A woman says she is casual, unbothered, just seeing where things go — and then another woman walks in and suddenly everything changes. Now she is comparing. Watching. Performing. Wondering if she is still the one he wants. That is not just reality TV. It is what happens when the aband...

You did the work. You felt better. And then it came back — the same old ache, the same trigger, the same pattern you thought you'd healed. So you ask yourself: did any of it even count? This episode is for the woman who thinks getting triggered again means she failed. It doesn't. Healing is not a straight line and it's not a destination — it's a spiral. Every time the abandonment w...

Your nervous system remembers everything your mind tried to forget. Registered Nurse and certified NET and NIS practitioner Elizabeth Craft explains exactly what Neuroemotional Technique and the Neurological Integration System do — in plain language without clinical jargon. She even works with animals — which tells you something powerful about how these modalities actually work. If you have been t...

She lived the adoptee experience first, then spent her career helping others heal it. Dr. Gina Marie Dattilo joins the show to talk about adoption trauma, the wound of being relinquished, and what it means to feel like you belong everywhere and nowhere at once. If you were adopted — or you love someone who was — this is the language you have been looking for. You were not too sensitive. You were c...

You can talk about your pain for years and still feel it living in your body. In this episode, Dr. Noah Cali explains how Neuro Emotional Technique (NET), chiropractic care, and acupuncture work with the nervous system to release what talk alone cannot reach. If you have ever felt stuck in your healing — like your mind understands but your body never got the message — this conversation is for you....

You have talked about it. You understand it. So why does it still feel like it is living in your body? In this episode Rosanna sits down with Kelley Smith — therapist, EMDR specialist, and nervous system nerd — to talk about the three modalities that go where talk therapy alone cannot: EMDR, Safe and Sound Protocol, and biofeedback. If you have ever felt stuck despite doing all the right things —...

You have done the work. You have sat in the therapy chair. And something still won't let go. That is not failure — that is your nervous system holding a charge your mind never got to release. Dr. Kendall Ahrens is a Doctor of Chiropractic, certified Neuroemotional Technique provider, and intuitive healer with over a decade of experience helping people heal what talk therapy could not reach. Sh...

You thought you had healed it. And then one ordinary moment — a text, a song, a single word — and you are right back in it. You are not broken. You are not starting over. You just found another layer. This bonus episode opens the Beyond Talk Series — a deep dive into why healing requires more than understanding. Today: triggers, the onion, and the wound beneath the wound. 🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https:...

I did not forgive my ex-husband intentionally. I just woke up one day and the charge was gone. And the woman he had the affair with? I ran into her unexpectedly. And what came out of that conversation was not what I planned. This episode is about what forgiveness actually looks like. Not the version we were taught. The real one — messy, unplanned, and entirely for your peace. 🎙️ Apple Podcasts: ht...

Nobody checked on you. Nobody brought flowers. Because the person you are grieving is still breathing. This episode names the grief the world has no ceremony for — and finally gives you permission to feel it. 🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/found-at-17/id1893791096 🎙️ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4eBLOSxvR2AUF3jPrN8CDw 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/unfinishedre...

Something has been running your life. Your relationships. Your patterns. The way you love and leave. It has a name. And once you can see it — everything changes. In this bonus episode, we break down the abandonment wound — what it actually is, the six ways it shows up, and why most people are carrying more than one without knowing it. This is the root of everything. 🎙️ Apple Podcasts: https://podc...

This episode is a letter. Not to the teenager standing at graduation — but to the adult who was once 17 and stepped into the world still holding something nobody helped them name. I am proud of you. Not for what you accomplished. For who you are. For how hard you tried. For still being here. Topics: graduation, healing letter, abandonment wound, self worth, emotional healing, late discovery adopte...

I did not know May was National Foster Care and Adoption Awareness Month until I walked into a Wendy's and saw it. And I smiled — because God always has perfect timing. This episode is an honest conversation about what this month actually means to a late discovery adoptee who spent decades unable to say those words out loud. For the adoptee who never needed a month to know their story. And for the...