Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

On Drag Race , Nicole guest judged one of the most iconic outfits in franchise history - LaLa Ri's gift bag dress .  Today, Nicole finally sits down with the queen to express her thoughts that never made it to air. LaLa introduces Nicole to BLK, a Black version of Tinder, and shares the crazy sexual requests she gets from fans on Grindr. Nicole goes to the LA Auto Show for some dick.  Write to Nic...

Actor Quentin Plair ( Welcome to Chippendales ) chats with Nicole about the fetishization faced with being the first Black Chippendales dancer, the empowering nature of stripping,  and whether playing football or dancing attracts more women. Want to write to Nicole? Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-ai...

Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace, why she avoids posting relationships on social media,  and how she's learning to trust again after her boyfriend slept with her best friend.  Plus, is it ever okay to hack into your partner's phone? Keke teaches us, in great detail, exactly how to do it.  Crazy dating story? Looking...

Multi-award winning actor and comedian Larry Owens ( A Strange Loop, Abbott Elementary ) chats with Nicole about his experience attending a bear festival, being the fixer-upper in a relationship, and the dangers of Googling someone after a first date. Plus, Larry teaches Nicole some complex new vocabulary. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your s...

Comedian Cole Escola (Difficult People, Tuca & Bertie) helps Nicole craft the perfect answer for dating app small talk, shares the secret to their successful 3 year open relationship, and the terrible time they had taking a Tinder date to Paris. Plus, Nicole learns about the new dating app "The League", which costs $99 a WEEK!  Black Lives Matter.   Click here for an updated list of over 100 d...

Comedian Julie Klausner ( Billy on the Street, Difficult People ) chats with Nicole about the corny messages she gotten from dating apps, why Nicole was kicked off Hinge, and whether or not Nicole would've met the love of her life at Heidi Klum's Halloween party. Plus, they discuss their favorite New York restaurants.  Black Lives Matter.   Click here for an updated list of over 100 different thin...

Actress Aimee Carrero ( She-Ra, Elena of Avalor ) joins Nicole to discuss hookup hygiene standards, marrying the man she was set up with, and running into her ex on his honeymoon. Also, Nicole snatches a baby. We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at bit.ly/PCAVOTE2022. Black Lives Matter.   Click here for an updated list...

Comedian Caleb Hearon ( Human Resources ) joins Nicole to discuss self-sabotaging relationships, dating while still in the closet, and an awful date he went on at a Chipotle. Meanwhile, Nicole plans to fly to Houston for some dick. We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at votepca.com/pop-culture/the-pop-podcast-of-2022.  ...

Writer Rose Dommu (Out Magazine, Like a Virgin podcast) joins Nicole to chat about the story behind her transition, the dangers of dating a trans chaser, writing fan fiction, and her experience appearing as an extra on the set of a Cock Destroyers porno. Plus, they answer a listener's question about how to respond to someone when they say call themselves fat. Got a dirty message, question, or comm...

Actor and heartthrob John Stamos ( Full House, You, Big Shot ) is here to figure out the core of Nicole's dating issues. Stamos tells the story of how he met his wife while acting together on Law & Order: SVU, shares his favorite memories of Bob Saget, and rewrites Nicole's dating app bio.  Plus, Nicole continues to match with some wackos on Tinder.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an upda...

Iconic drag queen Jujubee ( Drag Race S2, All-Stars 1 and 5 ) joins Nicole to reminisces over her many seasons of drag competitions, her sobriety, playing a matchmaker, and having a praise kink. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify:  bit.ly/wwydmdrag  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial ju...

Comedian Guy Branum ( Billy On The Street, Bros ) chats with Nicole about establishing sex contracts before a hookup, being a dom/sub in the bedroom, and the perfect sized bed for sleeping with your partner.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch:...

Actor and writer Brandon Kyle Goodman (Netflix's Big Mouth, Human Resources ) chats with Nicole about the time he was chased by the KKK, the struggles of doing a long distance relationship, and the adorable first date story with his husband, and saving money by getting married at the courthouse. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support r...

Comedian and writer Nori Reed ( Raven's Home ) chats with Nicole about getting her breast augmentation, how she soft-launched her transition process, and what it's like being a comedy dominatrix. Plus, Nicole continues to beef with Magic Mike Live . Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @...

Friend and comedian   Mary Holland ( Corked podcast) chats with Nicole about having a spooky Halloween themed wedding under a blue moon, managing her codependency in a relationship, and her time working as a wench at Medieval Times. Plus, Nicole shares her first time trip to Disneyland.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial ju...

Actor and co-star Justin Cunningham ( Grand Crew ) chats with Nicole about recognizing toxic relationships, finding a partner who has a mutual respect for your baggage, and how his selective erectile dysfunction has become a indicator of true compatibility with a mate.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Ni...

Conan's assistant, Sona Movsesian (author: The World’s Worst Assistant ) is here! Sona shares how she met her husband at Comic-Con, the art of online stalking a date, giving your number to your waiter, and dating guys who just wanted to get close with Conan. Plus, Nicole pitches her new business idea: Rent-A-Baby .  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things yo...

Comedian Mae Martin ( Feel Good ) chats with Nicole about being in a throuple relationship, their experience addicted to drugs, and starting a fresh life in new country.  Plus, they share their changing theory on love and relationships, and why they were kicked off Hinge. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow...

Comedian Nikki Glaser ( FBoy Island, Good Clean Filth ) chats with Nicole about being in a 9 year on-and-off again relationship, how to deal with an FBoy, why men struggle to express their feelings, and offers tips on how to attract a partner.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicol...

Writer/director Amy Aniobi ( Silicon Valley, 2 Dope Queens ) joins Nicole to discuss her experience dating with the help of a professional matchmaker, what it was like being raised by parents of an arranged marriage, and making the mistake of posting your significant other on Instagram. Nicole has injured herself singing karaoke.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 diff...

Comedian Lil Rel Howery ( Get Out , Keepin' It Rel with Young Wayne  podcast) chats with Nicole about dating a single mom of 4, getting thrown off a horse on a date, matching with Lizzo on Raya, and shares his tips on how to hit on women at bars.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:...

Reigning drag queen Willow Pill (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S14 ) is here! She chats with Nicole about selling mushrooms as a pandemic side hustle, her thoughts on the iconic catchphrase RuPaul gave her on the show, and partying with fans while tripping on Molly. Plus they celebrate her iconic win being the first disabled person to win Drag Race, and Willow discusses the toxicity of hustle cultu...

Comedian Benton Ray is a kissless virgin. He chats with Nicole about the circumstances of this choice, they learn new terms for different sexual orientations, and what it means to go "basket shopping" for a partner.  Plus, Benton matches with straight guys on Tinder? There's a lot to unpack here.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support...

Oh my god, he's here. Penn Badgley (You, Gossip Girl, host of Podcrushed ) joins Nicole to discuss why people are infatuated by his serial killing character, why love is not depicted accurately in media, bringing down your walls to connect with people, and the existential insecurities he had when dating. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to...

Comedian Ketra Long joins Nicole to tell the story about how she got caught cheating twice in her relationship. She also shares the time she convinced Ne-Yo to come see her stand-up show, which she proceeded to absolutely bomb . Ketra teaches Nicole how she manages to get flown out of the country for expensive dates, plus talks about her first kiss and first fingering.  This is a wild episode, fol...