Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Comedian Ms. Pat joins Nicole to reveal the true secret to surviving a 33-year marriage, shares the brutal realities of menopause nobody talks about, and interrogates Nicole and the nice man in her life about why they aren't married yet. Plus, they dive into why a casual courthouse wedding beats a pricey party, the difference between taking care of people and being taken advantage of, and learning...

We’ve all heard the persistent dating mandate that the ideal man needs to be over 6ft tall. But what happens when you’re a 6"2 woman facing a dating pool of tall men who have coasted by on their height alone? According to comedian Marcella Arguello , it's time to abandon the tall man propaganda - and finally give short kings the respect they deserve. Marcella returns to the podcast to break down t...

Drag queen icon BenDeLaCreme (Drag Race 6, All-Stars 3) joins Nicole to spill some major breaking news: they've been secretly separated from her partner of 8 years. They talk about the effort it takes to try to stay friends with an ex, the confusing reality of jumping back into the LA dating pool in your mid-40s, and why it's impossible to tell if a guy wants to date you or just wants exclusive Dr...

Why Won't You Date Me is taking a quick break this week while Nicole is out of town filming, but we'd never leave you high and dry! Instead, Nicole is sharing one of her all-time favorite episodes of her other podcast, Best Friends . Best Friends Nicole and Sasheer are joined by two very special guests and hosts of the podcast Sloppy Seconds, Big Dipper and Meatball ! Consider this a wild mastercl...

YouTuber Jarvis Johnson (Host of Sad Boyz ) joins Nicole to discuss the dystopian reality of how AI has changed the dating landscape, from people now dating their AI and the trend of men using ChatGPT to automatically swipe and chat with women for them. Jarvis opens up about his regret about having a public relationship and why he now chooses to keep his life private after a very public internet b...

Drag queen superstar Onya Nurve (Winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S17) joins Nicole to talk about the time she was catfished on a dating app by a high school creep! Onya also sets the record straight on her true dynamic with the Season 17 girls, revealing why she felt like an outsider navigating the cast's social circle. She shares how her current girlfriend started out as her college bestie, the fric...

Nicole's photographer, Kim Newmoney (VOGUE, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE) chats with her about the logistics and managing a harem of 7 hot men. They talk about men who claim they want casual relationships but get territorial when another guy whose interest, and Kim shares what it took to walk away from a 7 year relationship with mismatched life goals. As a professional photographer, Kim drops her advice on...

Comedian Bresha Webb (Run the World, Hacks) joins Nicole to share her terrible experience accientally dating a Hollywood scammer. Bresha also shares the story of a guy who paid for their dinner using a coin purse full of laundry quarters, what happens when you livestream a terrible first date on Instagram so your followers can roast the man, and the incredibly romantic 30-day Zoom courtship that l...

Comedian and writer Eliot Glazer (Broad City, New Girl) returns to the podcast! He shares how a group blind date quickly turned into a one-on-one nightmare with a horrible, drunk Jubilee "celebrity." Plus, Elliot and Nicole talk about what it's like to date an NPC, ask what happened to the whimsy in men's fashion, and discuss learning to be a better gay. Check out Eliot's new book, The Terrible, H...

Comedian Devon Walker (SNL, Big Mouth) returns to the podcast to join Nicole for a chat about "goblintimacy", the new dating trend where you skip putting your best foot forward. Nicole shares the details of her terrifyingly chaotic NYC taxi ride, the wild energy of the city after the Knicks championship win, and addresses those recent internet comments about her hair. Plus, they conduct a very imp...

Drag queen Lydia B Kollins (Drag Race S17, All Stars S10) joins Nicole to spill the behind-the-scenes tea on her iconic Drag Race showmance with Kori King. Find out just how strict production really is when it comes to off-screen flirting, what it was like having their first kiss during a lip sync for your life, plus the reason why she fully ghosted Kori after filming wrapped. Plus, Lydia opens up...

Drag queen icon Willam (Drag Race S4, host of Race Chasers ) returns! She joins Nicole to break down the mathematical formula for the optimal orgy, the proper etiquette for passing good trade around to your drag sisters, and what really goes down inside LA's underground sex dungeons. Willam also reveals her pro tips for scheduling multiple hookups in one night and confesses the absolute kinkiest t...

Drag queen June Jambalaya (Drag Race S14) joins Nicole to discuss hiding her drag career from her dates, being engaged twice, and leaving her fiancé to compete on Drag Race. Plus, Nicole and June discuss the best city to be depressed in, reveal the wildest things they've done to impress a man, and June shares her amazing date after being set up by Kerri Colby. Watch this episode on our YouTube cha...

Comedian and friend Liza Treyger ( Night Owl , host of That's Messed Up ) returns to the podcast! She shares her sobering experience hiring a Zoom stripper for a bachelorette party, how Heated Rivalry changed her life, and the struggle of making friends easily while her dating life remains in the dumps. Liza tells the story about how she got scammed by a stylist while making her Netflix special, h...

Drag queen icon Bosco (Drag Race S14, All Stars S10) makes her return to toss even more shade. She shares why the secret to polished drag is having mean friends, how to filter out dumb men in your dating life, and trades stories with Nicole about their most questionable fashion eras. They also discuss facial feminization surgery (and the boy queens getting it) and why we all need some more razzle...

Comedian Sabrina Jalees (Mating Season) returns to the podcast! Sabrina talks about how she and her wife made a family, including picking out a sperm donor and performing a home insemination using a dog catheter. They break down the recent news about websites hosting non-consensual "sleep content" and the terrible networks of men coaching each other on how to assault their partners. Sabrina shares...

You ready for some good juju? This week, iconic drag queen Jujubee (Drag Race, Stop! That! Train!) joins Nicole to talk about the power of self-love and why she’s officially stopped looking for a relationship. Nicole pays tribute to her first dog, Charlie, and the two discuss why the true soulmates are actually the animals in our life. Jujubee shares her philosophy on why love never dies, and open...

Drag queen Trixie Mattel (Drag Race S7, All Stars 3) returns to the podcast! After experiencing how exhausting it is to navigate a private breakup while smiling through a press tour, Trixie opens up about why she is now fiercely protective of her new relationship. Nicole explains why Drag Race S7 is her all-time favorite season, and the girls discuss wild dating reality TV shows like 90 Day Fiancé...

Tracie Thoms (RENT, The Devil Wears Prada 2) joins Nicole to discuss her 8-year journey to join the iconic cast of RENT, the wild logic men use to avoid commitment, and why some of them want all the benefits of a girlfriend with zero of the responsibility. Tracie also breaks down the nightmare of having dated someone who tried dictate her career, and reveals why living apart from her partner has a...

World famous relationship therapist Esther Perel has been studying relationships for over 40 years. She joins Nicole to share the most common problems couples seek therapy for, the 3 types of conflicts we fight over, and how to productively resolve them. Esther discusses how to get over "icks" while dating, and challenges us to ask ourselves: what "icks" would people find in you? They also explore...

Author Rachel Reid (Heated Rivalry) joins Nicole to chat about the wild, viral success of her steamy queer romance novels and the hit HBO adaptation. She shares how she met her husband while performing a smelly, hockey-themed burlesque act, and the dynamic that keeps their 20-year one sided open marriage working for them. She discusses the creative process behind writing explicit romance between m...

Comedian and actor Beck Bennett (SNL, What's Our Podcast? ) joins Nicole to talk about meeting his wife on a sketch shoot and how his wallet-less first date turned into a romantic, fart-filled sleepover. Beck opens up about surviving long-distance dating while shooting SNL, why he believes "love is trust," and the Joshua Tree engagement trip that ended with them sleeping in separate twin beds. He...

Voice actress Sarah Natochenny (Pokémon) joins Nicole for a chat about how voicing Ash Ketchum inspired her to become the adventurous protagonist of her own life. Sarah shares her method for vetting a first date, why she has absolutely zero tolerance for men who neg her, and why animal companions (like her cat, Pikachu) will always be better than a boyfriend. Plus, the gals discuss Cher's wild 40-...

Fashion icon Tan France (Queer Eye, Honorable Gays ) joins Nicole for a chat about how a planned "slut tour" accidentally resulted in an 18-year marriage, his secret past designing clothes for Mormon women, and why he really, really didn't want to be on Queer Eye. Tan gets real about the intense racism he faced dating in the UK - including the multiple times guys forced him to keep their dates a s...

Artist and actress Makhyli (Boys World) joins Nicole to chat about her experience dating while in a pop girl group. Makhyli shares how she literally created a "Build-A-Boy" slideshow presentation to manifest her current boyfriend - and it actually worked! The girls swap their worst car-date horror stories, from a guy so cheap he forced Makhyli to share a single McDonald's french fry, to a man who...