Relationships the Good and the Messy!

Have you spent months maybe even years trying to work out how someone really feels about you? Maybe it’s time to stop asking whether he chooses you and ask a completely different question: are you actually experiencing being chosen? In this episode, I’m talking about the enormous difference between surviving on emotional crumbs and experiencing someone who simply shows up, participates and moves t...

Can he change? Yes. But that’s not the question. The real question is whether he wants to change — and how much of your life you’re prepared to spend waiting to find out. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between real, lasting change and the temporary version that appears when someone is scared of losing you. Why potential can keep us stuck for years. Why understanding someone’s...

Beautiful people please listen to me .. I do not want you in this perpetual cycle of crazy and trust me when I say that when they reach out whether they do in a week month years even, do not take the bait. If they ever cared an ounce you would not have experienced the extreme heartache pain and abuse that you did. The good parts of them come with so much deception and lies and you are not being lo...

In this episode, Sally reminds listeners that they are not alone in the struggles they face within relationships. Healing from toxic dynamics is a journey, and understanding what happened is often the first step toward reclaiming your strength and self-worth. Sally also shares insights from her book Confessions of a Relationship Junkie: Healing Narcissist Chains, where she openly reflects on how a...

Sometimes the hardest relationship truth isn’t “Do they love me?” It’s “Can I actually breathe inside the way this relationship works?” You can have real love, chemistry, connection and history with someone — and still realise that the relationship requires too much adjusting, carrying, decoding or waiting. In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between being loved and being loved well...

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I work privately with a small number of people who want clarity and a fresh perspective on their relationship or personal situation. If you’d like to work with me one-to-one, message me PRIVATE on Instagram or Facebook and I’ll send you the details HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU’VE FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON? How do you actually know? Because chemistry isn’t enough. Attraction isn’t en...

We don’t always need to be in a high vibe state ! Sharing a quick podcast on accepting that some days we don’t feel good and to honor that and not push it away .It’s ok to do nothing & feel tired and fed up!! just breathe through it as t will pass, we want to feel our feelings but not wallow in them. SHaring a bit of my own feelings on this as i am going through my own big changes atm!! This too s...

Here is a quick guided meditation to help remove stress at the end of the day ! Please message me at salbella3@gmail.com if you would like longer more intimate ones let me know Love feedback ❤️thank you for listening

In this episode, Sally shares a personal reflection on growing up without an emotionally available father and how that experience influenced the choices she made in relationships. Early emotional wounds can shape how we see love, connection, and ourselves, often leading us into patterns we don’t fully understand at the time. Sally speaks openly about how these experiences affected her life and how...

After a narcissistic relationship ends, it can be incredibly easy to stay focused on the other person analyzing their behaviour, trying to understand what happened, and consuming endless information about narcissism and toxic relationships. But eventually, recovery has to become about you. In this episode, I talk about what happens after the relationship ends and why there comes a point when we ne...

Episode starts 2 minutes in .... Hey my loves, this is why you can’t leave a toxic relationship, in todays episode I spell it out clearly The good news is you are not stuck & I'm here to guide you. let me know how you found my podcast today and please contact me if you wish to book a call . You deserve a real love where you are safe loved and supported. ! With love, always here for you, Sally❤️

Welcome my loves🌈iI get asked all the time will I ever find great love? I’ve only had crappy relationships so I wonder if I will ?.. well Today I share with you what the answer is to this question & what you must do🌸Sit back with a note pad and listen up closely ok? This is a must listen if you want to stop the toxic cycles ❤️ ps! Grab your FREE meditation on my Instagram bio at Sallykalan ! You...

Sometimes clarity comes from asking ourselves better questions. In this episode, Sally shares five powerful questions that helped her gain perspective in her own relationships and make clearer decisions. These questions can help you reflect, find your own answers, and move forward with greater self-trust. If you’ve been feeling stuck in relationship patterns or unsure about what to do next, this c...

How do you actually know when you’re over a narcissistic relationship? Sometimes you don’t even fully understand what you were living through until you’re finally out of it. And healing doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens as you begin to come out the other side — when the fog starts clearing, you begin seeing the relationship differently, an...

Breakups are never easy, and the way we move through them can make a real difference to how quickly we heal and regain our strength. In this episode, Sally shares three practical suggestions to help you begin moving forward after a relationship ends. While every situation is different, these steps can offer a helpful starting point for rebuilding your sense of stability and self. She also notes th...

Morning lovelies ! I have lived the path and I know how much time I wasted in my life trying to figure things out on my own, that was until I invested in my own healing ‘ with what I know now I want to save you years of your life and give you what you need, to go from unhealthy to healthy love ! Book a FREE call to discuss with me how I can help you on your life journey, booking at my bio on Insta...

Lovelies I'm keeping this short and succinct .. ❤️ here's the thing they often come back, in fact nearly always, and how do you know if it's a Hoover back or a real change? well have a listen and please be aware . I know we want to believe they have changed but rarely they do !!! So let me know if this has happened to you ... ? I'm here for you ... let me know if you have managed to break free and...

What do you do when you’ve prayed for love, you’ve done the healing, you’ve asked God for guidance… and you’re still waiting? In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to trust God when you don’t know the outcome yet especially when it comes to love. Because maybe trusting God isn’t about sitting still and waiting for Him to hand you the answer. Maybe it’s about living your life full...

Listen in to what I know love really is ..... Have you ever wondered whether you genuinely love someone… or whether you’re attached to the connection, the chemistry, the uncertainty, or the future you imagined with them? Because attachment can feel a lot like love. It can be intense, consuming and incredibly difficult to let go of. But I’ve come to believe there’s a difference. Attachment is noisy...

Why can’t I stop missing them… even when I know they’re not right for me? If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone. In this episode, I talk about why it’s so hard to let go after a breakup, why your heart and your mind don’t always heal at the same pace, and why missing someone doesn’t automatically mean they’re meant to be in your life. We explore the difference between the e...

Have you ever found yourself wondering… “Is this really the person God has for me?” In this episode, I share the three questions that have completely changed the way I look at relationships. Instead of focusing on chemistry, potential or mixed signals, I talk about something much deeper… The fruit your relationship is producing. Does it bring peace or anxiety? Freedom or bondage? Is it moving your...

In this episode, I share five things you’ll never get from a dismissive avoidant not to criticise or label anyone, but to help you stop waiting for someone who is consistently showing you what they’re capable of giving. This isn’t about understanding them even more. It’s about understanding you. Because healing doesn’t come from convincing someone to love you differently. It comes from recognising...

Have you ever found yourself wondering where you stand with someone? There’s a huge difference between being genuinely chosen and simply being kept around and understanding that difference can change the way you approach relationships forever. In this episode, I talk about why healthy love brings peace instead of confusion, why we ignore the patterns right in front of us, and the one question that...

We’ve made dating so much more complicated than it needs to be. If you’re constantly wondering where you stand, analysing mixed signals, or trying to convince someone to choose you, this episode is for you. Today, I’m sharing what healthy interest actually looks like—and why real love brings peace, not confusion. You deserve a relationship where you feel chosen, safe and valued. Let’s talk about i...

Getting closure isn’t always about getting one last conversation. In this episode, I share a very personal part of my own healing journey and what God has been teaching me about moving forward when life doesn’t give us the ending we hoped for. We explore why some relationships feel easier to let go of than others, the difference between reality and potential, and how true peace begins when we gent...