Relationships the Good and the Messy!

Are you trusting God's timing for love, or are you holding on to someone who keeps leaving you waiting? Sometimes we become so attached to someone's potential that we mistake waiting for them to change for having faith in God's plan. In this powerful episode of Relationships: The Good & The Messy! , Sally Kalan explores the difference between trusting God and putting your life on hold for someone...

Are you overthinking your relationship, or is your intuition trying to tell you something? Sometimes our fears come from past heartbreak, betrayal and emotional wounds. But sometimes the anxiety we're experiencing is a response to genuine inconsistency, manipulation or unhealthy behaviour. So how do you tell the difference? In this powerful episode of Relationships: The Good & The Messy , Sally Ka...

Why do we keep missing relationships we once prayed so desperately to escape? Why do we remember the beautiful moments but somehow forget the pain, the anxiety, and everything it cost us to stay? In this powerful episode of Relationships: The Good & The Messy , Sally Kalan takes us into Numbers 11, where the Israelites, having been delivered from slavery in Egypt, began longing for the very place...

How do you know when it's time to end a relationship, especially when you still love the person? Maybe you've been unhappy for months, even years. You've had the same conversations, heard the same promises, and told yourself things will get better. But deep down, you're wondering: How much longer can I keep doing this? In today's episode of Relationships: The Good & The Messy! , relationship coach...

What if love was never supposed to be as difficult as you've experienced it? The overthinking. The waiting for messages. The emotional exhaustion. The constant wondering where you stand. Have you become so accustomed to complicated relationships that you've started believing love is supposed to hurt? In today's episode of Relationships: The Good & The Messy! , Sally Kalan challenges one of the mos...

When did wanting affection, communication and consistency become something you felt guilty about? Have you ever found yourself questioning whether you're too needy, too demanding or expecting too much from someone you love? Maybe you've started apologising for your feelings, asking for less, or making yourself smaller just to keep the peace. But here's the question: Are you really asking for too m...

How many more signs do you need before you believe what somebody's behaviour is already telling you? Have you been praying for God to show you whether someone is right for you, while overlooking what's actually happening in your relationship? Maybe they keep pulling away. Maybe their promises never become actions. Maybe you're holding on to the chemistry, the beautiful moments, or the future you'v...

When did you start believing you had to work so bloody hard just to be loved? Have you ever found yourself chasing someone's affection, trying harder when they pull away, or constantly wondering what else you need to do to make somebody choose you? What if you've become so accustomed to earning love that you wouldn't actually know what to do if somebody simply gave it to you? In today's episode of...

You say you want a healthy relationship. But if real love walked into your life tomorrow, would you actually know how to receive it? We spend so much time searching for the right person, praying for love, and wondering when God is going to bring somebody into our lives. But there's a question we rarely stop to ask. Am I actually ready to receive the healthy love I've been asking for? If you've spe...

What if the person you're praying so hard to be with is the very person God is trying to protect you from? Are you struggling to let go of someone you love? Praying for a relationship to work? Waiting for someone to choose you? Or wondering why, despite everything you've tried, the relationship just isn't moving forward? Sometimes we become so emotionally attached to somebody that we mistake chemi...

Have you ever stopped to think about how beautiful healthy love is actually supposed to feel? Jesus taught us that we recognise people by their fruit. And in Galatians 5:22–23, we discover the beautiful qualities of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. In today's episode of Relationships: The Good & The Messy! , we're looking at love through a...

You can skip straight to the prayer if you need it today. ❤️ There’s just a short introduction first, and then I want you to get comfortable, close your eyes if you can, and simply listen. This episode is for you if you’ve been asking God, Where is my person? Have You forgotten about me? Why hasn’t love happened for me yet? Maybe you’re tired of waiting. Tired of lessons. Tired of watching love ha...

You love God. You’ve built a life. You’ve healed, grown, prayed, dated, deleted the apps, downloaded the bloody apps again — and still you find yourself asking: God, where is my person? Maybe the years you’ve called “waiting” aren’t dead time at all. Maybe you’ve outgrown the old, but you haven’t met the new yet. In this episode, I’m talking about what might actually be happening during those year...

Have you spent months maybe even years trying to work out how someone really feels about you? Maybe it’s time to stop asking whether he chooses you and ask a completely different question: are you actually experiencing being chosen? In this episode, I’m talking about the enormous difference between surviving on emotional crumbs and experiencing someone who simply shows up, participates and moves t...

Can he change? Yes. But that’s not the question. The real question is whether he wants to change — and how much of your life you’re prepared to spend waiting to find out. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between real, lasting change and the temporary version that appears when someone is scared of losing you. Why potential can keep us stuck for years. Why understanding someone’s...

Beautiful people please listen to me .. I do not want you in this perpetual cycle of crazy and trust me when I say that when they reach out whether they do in a week month years even, do not take the bait. If they ever cared an ounce you would not have experienced the extreme heartache pain and abuse that you did. The good parts of them come with so much deception and lies and you are not being lo...

In this episode, Sally reminds listeners that they are not alone in the struggles they face within relationships. Healing from toxic dynamics is a journey, and understanding what happened is often the first step toward reclaiming your strength and self-worth. Sally also shares insights from her book Confessions of a Relationship Junkie: Healing Narcissist Chains, where she openly reflects on how a...

Sometimes the hardest relationship truth isn’t “Do they love me?” It’s “Can I actually breathe inside the way this relationship works?” You can have real love, chemistry, connection and history with someone — and still realise that the relationship requires too much adjusting, carrying, decoding or waiting. In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between being loved and being loved well...

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I work privately with a small number of people who want clarity and a fresh perspective on their relationship or personal situation. If you’d like to work with me one-to-one, message me PRIVATE on Instagram or Facebook and I’ll send you the details HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU’VE FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON? How do you actually know? Because chemistry isn’t enough. Attraction isn’t en...

We don’t always need to be in a high vibe state ! Sharing a quick podcast on accepting that some days we don’t feel good and to honor that and not push it away .It’s ok to do nothing & feel tired and fed up!! just breathe through it as t will pass, we want to feel our feelings but not wallow in them. SHaring a bit of my own feelings on this as i am going through my own big changes atm!! This too s...

Here is a quick guided meditation to help remove stress at the end of the day ! Please message me at salbella3@gmail.com if you would like longer more intimate ones let me know Love feedback ❤️thank you for listening

In this episode, Sally shares a personal reflection on growing up without an emotionally available father and how that experience influenced the choices she made in relationships. Early emotional wounds can shape how we see love, connection, and ourselves, often leading us into patterns we don’t fully understand at the time. Sally speaks openly about how these experiences affected her life and how...

After a narcissistic relationship ends, it can be incredibly easy to stay focused on the other person analyzing their behaviour, trying to understand what happened, and consuming endless information about narcissism and toxic relationships. But eventually, recovery has to become about you. In this episode, I talk about what happens after the relationship ends and why there comes a point when we ne...

Episode starts 2 minutes in .... Hey my loves, this is why you can’t leave a toxic relationship, in todays episode I spell it out clearly The good news is you are not stuck & I'm here to guide you. let me know how you found my podcast today and please contact me if you wish to book a call . You deserve a real love where you are safe loved and supported. ! With love, always here for you, Sally❤️

Welcome my loves🌈iI get asked all the time will I ever find great love? I’ve only had crappy relationships so I wonder if I will ?.. well Today I share with you what the answer is to this question & what you must do🌸Sit back with a note pad and listen up closely ok? This is a must listen if you want to stop the toxic cycles ❤️ ps! Grab your FREE meditation on my Instagram bio at Sallykalan ! You...