Over This Should

That moment when you say “Of course, count me in” and your stomach drops later isn’t a personality quirk. It’s a pattern and it can burn you out so slowly you stop noticing the heat. We start with a raw story from Pamela Meadows: standing in a shower with the water turned all the way up, unable to feel that it’s scalding her skin. It becomes a clear metaphor for what happens when you live on appro...

You know that email. “Hey, just checking in!” followed by three paragraphs of cushioning around the thing you actually mean: “This was due Tuesday.” Ma’am. That’s a hostage negotiation. In this episode of Over This Should , we’re talking about why capable women soften their expectations, apologize for reasonable requests, and quietly take work back rather than risk being labeled “difficult.” We un...

You can be smart, capable, and deeply committed to your goals and still find yourself avoiding the exact actions that would move your life forward. When that happens, we tend to call it laziness, inconsistency, or self-sabotage. We go somewhere different. With nervous system coach Heather Lillico, we dig into why procrastination, perfectionism, people pleasing, and overworking can be protective st...

You finally delegate dinner and then catch yourself checking the fridge, watching the clock, and thawing the chicken anyway. That awkward moment is the real story, not the handoff itself. When we let go of a responsibility we’ve carried for a long time, the discomfort can feel so loud that we step right back in, even when someone else agreed to own it and nothing has actually gone wrong.  We dig i...

Ever find yourself brushing your teeth thinking, “Don’t forget that email,” sitting in a meeting mentally rehearsing tomorrow’s conversation, or trying to fall asleep when your brain suddenly screams, “DOG FOOD”? Welcome to the mental load. In this solo episode of Over This Should , Pamela Meadows introduces The Glass Audit , a simple way to stop using your brain as a 24/7 reminder system. Buildin...

You get to the end of the day completely wiped out. Somebody asks what you did, and you genuinely cannot answer. You noticed the milk was gone. You moved the three o'clock because it was going to run into the three fifteen. You caught the mistake in the document before it went out the door. You remembered the permission slip. Nothing you can point to, and you are wrecked. There is a name for...

Entrepreneurship gets sold as a highlight reel, but the real work happens in the messy middle: the quiet nights, the spirals of doubt, the launches that don’t land, and the constant decision-making no one sees. We’re naming that part out loud and talking about what actually helps women entrepreneurs keep going when motivation fades and imposter syndrome gets loud. We’re joined by Chloe Sullivan, f...

You’re told “it’s not that deep.” But what if it is? In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela Meadows explores what happens when someone dismisses your experience—and why that voice often sounds familiar. After a stranger critiques a personal reflection on motherhood and identity, Pamela unpacks a deeper pattern many high-functioning women know well: tying self-worth to being needed. This episo...

What happens when two women get tired of shallow networking, waiting to feel ready, and pretending business can be separated from real life? Christina Kimbrough and Brandi Zenzel are the founders of Women in Business HR, a Hampton Roads community for women building what’s next. In this conversation, they share how one very long coffee meeting grew into a movement rooted in collaboration, honesty,...

Send us Fan Mail What if you’re not bad at boundaries, business, rest, or decision-making? What if you’ve just spent years trying to succeed inside systems that were never built for your actual energy? In this episode of Over This Should , Pamela sits down with Sarah Larsen, a Business Frequency Architect who blends Human Design, energetic strategy, Reiki, and real-world business systems to help e...

Send us Fan Mail Halfway through the year can feel like an uninvited performance review. Suddenly, there is pressure to account for every goal, habit, dollar, decision, and unfinished to-do list. And for high-performing women who already carry a lot, a “mid-year reset” can become just one more place to feel behind. Not today. In this solo episode, Pamela shares a gentler, more honest way to reset...

Send us Fan Mail Why is it so hard to say what you mean, hit publish, set a boundary, or take up space in the room, even when you are deeply capable? In this episode of Over This Should , Pamela Meadows talks with visibility and leadership expansion coach Caroline Brown about what sits underneath people-pleasing, perfectionism, over-explaining, and the fear of being seen. Caroline shares how women...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you pour your time, money, and heart into something, and nobody says yes? In this deeply personal episode, Pamela shares what happened when her RESET program launched to beautiful feedback but zero enrollments, all during the same week her daughter graduated from high school. This is a conversation about disappointment, fear, and the stories we tell ourselves whe...

Send us Fan Mail What if the reason you can’t rest has nothing to do with your to-do list? In this episode of Over This Should , Pamela Meadows takes on the question that hits like a stomach punch and a heart check: Who am I when I’m not being useful to everyone else? Through a very real story about lasting only about 90 seconds on the couch before her nervous system staged a tiny corporate takeov...

Send us Fan Mail In April, a poll claiming 47% of young women would rather be a "tradwife" than a "girlboss" got held up on national TV as proof the career woman is over. The internet promptly turned women into opposing teams. Almost nobody stopped to ask the only question that matters: who handed us this menu, and why does our whole identity have to fit on it? Girlboss or trad...

Send us Fan Mail That moment when you pull into the driveway, turn the car off, and just sit there? You’re not crying. You’re not falling apart. You’re not even sure what you’re feeling. You just know something about the life you’ve built doesn’t feel like it fits the way it used to. In this episode of Over This Should , Pamela Meadows explores the identity crisis nobody warns ambitious women abou...

Send us Fan Mail The reliable one is tired. She remembers the appointments, tracks the deadlines, manages the emotional temperature of the room, and somehow knows when the upstairs bathroom needs more toilet paper. She is capable, trusted, praised, and quietly exhausted. In this episode of Over This Should , Pamela Meadows unpacks the hidden cost of being the dependable one everyone counts on. Fro...

Send us Fan Mail There are moments in life where your brain becomes fully convinced your career is over. Not because you failed. Not because you weren’t prepared. But because you had one deeply human moment in front of other people. In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela shares the hilarious and horrifying story of accidentally pulling a tampon out of her work bag during a leadership meeting…...

Send us Fan Mail How many times have you said “yes” before you even checked your calendar… your energy… or your actual desire to do the thing? In this episode of Over This Should, Pamela dives into the hidden conditioning behind people-pleasing, overcommitting, and being “the reliable one.” From the nervous-system response that makes women automatically say yes, to the research showing most people...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever looked around a room and thought: “Everyone here knows what they’re doing… except me.” Even though you’re qualified.  Even though you’ve earned your seat.  Even though people trust your leadership. That quiet voice saying “they’re going to find out” has a name: imposter syndrome . And if you’ve felt it, you are far from alone. Research suggests up to 70% of high-achi...

Send us Fan Mail There is a moment most high-achieving women can’t name. It doesn’t look dramatic.  It doesn’t look reckless.  It looks responsible. In this episode, Pamela explores the subtle, invisible pattern that quietly erodes confidence, fuels resentment, and leaves capable women feeling exhausted while still appearing wildly competent. We’re talking about self-abandonment. Not quitting your...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Pamela Meadows discusses her personal experiences with sexual assault, the impact of societal narratives on victims, and the importance of empowering survivors. She addresses current media coverage, systemic issues in the justice system, and the pervasive culture of victim blaming. The conversation highlights the importance of accountability, support for survivors...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, I'm getting real about something I've been wrestling with: how do you raise your voice for what’s right without alienating the people you want to reach? This episode is not a perfectly polished TED Talk. It's messy. It's real. It’s the tug-of-war between anger and hope. Between truth and fear. And if you’ve ever felt like your passion m...

Send us Fan Mail In today’s powerful solo episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the invisible forces shaping our world—and not in a good way. Inspired by the bestselling book Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez (plus a whole lot of mind-blowing research), we’re talking about the gender data gap and how it creates real-life consequences for women—from car crashes to medical misdiagnoses t...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt the sting of being called “too much,” “too confident,” or “too ambitious”? Sis, you’re not imagining it—that’s Tall Poppy Syndrome at work, and this episode is here to slice it at the root. In this episode of Over This Should , we’re diving into why women are often criticized for their success—and how we can fight back with fierce self-awareness, mindset shifts,...