In the Quiet With Kenzuri Sandra

You know the pattern. You know what you should do. You know what isn’t good for you. You may even understand why you do it. And yet… you do it again. Why? In this episode, we explore the often frustrating gap between what we know intellectually and what we actually do. Our guest, a Somatic Attachment & Relationship Coach, takes us beyond simply understanding our patterns and into the body expl...

Your 20s are supposed to be some of the best years of your life. So why do so many young men feel lost, lonely, overwhelmed and completely burnt out? In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the pressures young men face while trying to figure out who they are and what they're supposed to become. The pressure to succeed. The fear of falling behind. The loneliness nobody sees. The e...

#LookingForLove #SelfDiscovery #Relationships Sometimes, you don’t realise you’re looking for love in the wrong places until you’ve lost yourself trying to find it. In this episode, Kenzuri and Peggyy talk about grieving relationships that didn’t work out, the people we thought would stay, the memories we still carry, and the versions of ourselves we became along the way. But heartbreak isn’t just...

We don't just carry our wounds, we become them. In this episode, we dig into how the need to be chosen, picked, and wanted shapes the personality we build around it. From people-pleasing to overachieving to constant self-doubt, so many of our "traits" are actually old survival strategies in disguise. We talk about:Where the need to be chosen comes fromHow unhealed wounds quietly turn...

Kenzuri sits down with Nkirote Kimathi and Peggy Pegz for a raw, unfiltered conversation on mental health and the church—and the double standards that keep people silent. From stigma to the pressure to "just pray about it," this episode unpacks what happens when faith and mental health collide and why so many are struggling in silence inside the very spaces meant to hold them. Real talk,...

On this episode of In the Quiet Podcast, Anita Karembo joins host Kenzuri Sandra to talk about something we don't discuss enough—the awkward, heavy silence that follows an argument and how the friendships and communities we build around us help us actually recover from it. We dig into the question: Is community still important in today's fast-paced, individualistic world? How does staying...

Coping vs. Avoiding: How to Actually Deal With Hard EmotionsIn this episode of In The Quiet Place, I sit down with psychologist Diana Amisi to talk about the real difference between coping and avoiding — and why so many of us confuse the two. Diana shares her own story, the moments that shaped her understanding of healthy coping, and practical tools you can start using today to face what you'v...

#Autism #AutismInclusion #SuaadAbdulle "Stop trying to fix your autistic children—let them be."That's the line that anchors this conversation with Suaad Abdulle, and it sets the tone for everything we get into: the real, uncomfortable truths about autism and inclusion that most people avoid. In this episode, we cover:🧩 Why "fixing" is the wrong goal — and what acceptance a...

#MentalHealth #Addiction #Psychology Addiction is one of the most misunderstood struggles—often reduced to "bad choices" or "weak willpower." In this episode, I sit down with psychologist Elsie Kinyanjui to unpack what addiction really is, why it takes hold, and what healthy recovery and support actually look like. A grounded, honest conversation for anyone trying to understand...

🎙️ From Victim to Victor: Mindset & Victim Mentality Ep. Breaking Free with PendaIn this powerful episode, I sit down with Penda—a writer, entrepreneur, and businesswoman who has turned her personal struggles into a story of strength and purpose. Penda opens up about her journey: the challenges she faced, the moment she chose to stop seeing herself as a victim, and how she rebuilt her mindset...

#podcast #DecolonizeYourMind #AfricanPsychology Colonialism didn't just take land — it rewired how we think, speak, love, and see ourselves. In this episode, I sit down with decolonialist psychologist Loving Tula to unpack how colonization still shapes the African mind today and what real psychological freedom actually looks like. We talk about: – What "decolonizing the mind" really...

#MentalHealth #Journaling #WomenSupportingWomen Have you ever felt so overwhelmed by your emotions that you didn't know what to do next? In this video, I'm sharing how journaling has helped me process difficult emotions, find clarity, and create space for healing during challenging seasons of life. You'll also learn simple journaling techniques that can help you manage stress, anxiety, and emotion...

#TraumaAndRelationships #HealthyBoundaries #AuthenticLiving Trauma and Relationships: Communication, Boundaries, and Being Unapologetically YouHow does past trauma impact the way we show up in our relationships today? In this episode of the podcast, host Kenzuri sits down with guest Nkirote Kimathi to unpack the deeply connected relationship between healing, self-expression, and human connection....

#MentalHealth #SelfAwareness #HealingJourney Our families are the first places we ever learn love, conflict, and communication—and sometimes even pain. In this powerful episode, “Our Families Are Our First Classrooms,” we dive deep into how family dynamics shape our mental health, relationships, and sense of self. Joined by psychologist Osano Brain, we unpack the hidden patterns we inherit from ou...

#HealingJourney #FamilyDynamics #EmotionalHealing Healing isn’t about fighting a person—it’s about understanding the patterns that shaped the pain. In this episode, we explore how family dynamics influence our emotions, behaviors, and relationships. Instead of placing blame on individuals, true healing begins when we recognize generational patterns, unspoken expectations, and emotional roles withi...

Welcome to the beginning of a powerful new series. In this opening episode, we introduce the concept of family dynamics and the invisible scripts that quietly shape our lives. Long before we made conscious choices, we were already learning roles, expectations, and patterns within our families—many of which still influence how we think, feel, and relate to others today. This episode sets the founda...

#Friendship #SandraKenzuri #Relationships In this heartfelt episode, Kenzuri Sandra sits down with Lynn Maina to unpack the beauty, challenges, and evolution of friendships. From navigating adult friendships and setting boundaries to dealing with betrayal, growth, and communication, this conversation dives deep into what it truly means to build and maintain meaningful connections. Whether you’re h...

"Healing isn't always a dramatic breakthrough; often, it’s a series of quiet, steady shifts in the way you breathe, react, and exist in the world." Have you ever wondered if the work you’re doing on yourself is actually 'working'? In this podcast, we move past the buzzwords to explore the subtle, real-world indicators that you are finally coming back to yourself. Kenzuri and...

In this episode, we unpack a modern paradox: working harder than ever, yet constantly feeling like it’s still not enough. Why do we feel unproductive even when we’re exhausted? From hustle culture and invisible labor to burnout, comparison, and shifting expectations, we explore how productivity has been redefined—and why our bodies and minds are paying the price. This conversation dives into the e...

In this episode, we unpack how influencers and content creators have turned vulnerability into a brand. Has “authenticity” become just another marketing strategy? We explore the blurred line between genuine self-expression and performative openness crafted for clicks, likes, and sponsorship deals. The whole episode is just personal perspectives from a content creator and myself

We hera the word Narcissism everywhere these days, but what does it really mean? In this first episode of the narcissism series, Kenzuri Sandra gently unpacks the psychology behind narcissism, taking us into the human story beneath the labels. This episodes explores how narcissism develops, what it feels like to be around narcissistic individuals and the wounds they mask. Join Kenzuri In the Quiet...

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In this episode, we dive deep on one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) . Often surrounded by stigma and misconceptions, BPD affects millions of people worldwide, yet many still struggle in silence due to fear of judgment or lack of understanding. We break down what BPD really is, challenge common myths, and explore the emotional complexity beh...

In this episode we explores the powerful link between how we push ourselves and how we care for ourselves. Each week, we unpack the myths, mindset shifts, and everyday habits that shape our motivation—from burnout and boundaries to rest and resilience. Whether you're chasing goals or just trying to get out of bed, we ask the real questions: Can ambition coexist with balance? Is rest productive...

In this episode of In The Quiet, I and Anita Karembo A psychologist dive into some unpopular opinions that challenge the way we usually think in about life, culture, and choices. These are the thoughts peoople often shy away from saying out loud but sometimes the unpopular view is the one. that sparks the deepest reflection. Tune in for candid, thought provoking conversation that just might shift...