The Sensual Sisterhood Podcast

You said yes. But was it a yes you could feel in your body? Or was it *sure*, because stopping felt awkward, disappointing him felt worse, or you'd already started? Consent gets treated like the paperwork of sex: ask once, get an answer, move on. Barbara and I are talking about the version that stays alive throughout the experience. The version where you can ask for something different, change you...

Women hurt you. You were judged, betrayed, excluded, talked about, or made to feel like you were too much. So you learned to keep other women at arm's length. The hurt was real. But the lesson was reinforced by a culture that benefits when women remain isolated from one another. In this episode, Marta and Barbara examine why so many capable midlife women learned to become lone wolves, what that in...

You keep saying, "I don't know what I want." But what if the confusion comes after the wanting? A clean, inconvenient desire rises in you. Then your highly intelligent, deeply responsible mind puts it on trial. Is it fair? Is it practical? Am I asking too much? Shouldn't I be grateful? What if I'm just bored, hormonal, restless, or having some kind of midlife crisis? By the time the cross-examinat...

You still love each other. You may even still be attracted to each other. Nobody's cheating. Nobody's screaming. Nothing is obviously falling apart. But somewhere between the jobs, the children, the aging parents, the exhaustion, and everything you both keep handling, sex quietly disappeared. The reasons are real. The question is whether they're the whole truth. In this episode, Barbara and I look...

You are the woman who knows what to do. You make decisions. Handle consequences. Hold everything together. Then your erotic imagination hands you a fantasy in which you are not in control at all. Maybe you want to surrender. Be chased. Be watched. Be wanted so completely that someone else takes over. And suddenly the woman who trusts herself everywhere else is interrogating her own desire. * Why d...

You've thought "slower" or "right there" inside your own head mid-sex and never said it out loud. Sometimes you know exactly what you want. Sometimes you only know that what's happening isn't it. Either way, you say nothing. We don't think that's a communication problem. We think it's something else entirely. IN THIS EPISODE: - Why 55% of women don't talk about sex with their partner, even when th...

Most women aren't drawn to surrender because they're weak. They're drawn to it because they're tired of carrying everything. Every decision. Every responsibility. Every person. Every fucking detail. But despite what Fifty Shades of Grey taught the world, real BDSM isn't about one person taking power from another. At its best, it's a carefully negotiated exchange built on explicit consent, deep att...

Everyone tells you passion fades with age. That divorce after 50 means starting over alone. That perimenopause is where your sex life goes to die. None of that happened to me. What actually happened is the reason this episode was hard to record and even harder to decide to publish. Barbara sits down with me and my partner, Keith, as we go into all of it. My marriage. My divorce. What I actually sa...

Nobody told you this was allowed to help. Not your doctor. Not your mother. Not the article that put you on hormone replacement therapy before anyone mentioned this. There's a reason this conversation almost never happens out loud, and it's not because it doesn't matter. We don't think the silence is an accident. It's baked into the word itself. IN THIS EPISODE:  - Why masturbation may ease menopa...

If dating after 40 feels harder than you expected, most people will tell you it's the apps. Or the culture. Or that there just aren't any good ones left. We don't think that's what's actually happening. Because after recording this conversation, we realized something surprising: The biggest thing that changed wasn't dating. It was us. In this episode, Barbara and I go rapid-fire through the dating...

One Google search can convince you your sex life is over. That your vagina is shrinking. That your desire is disappearing. That painful sex, dryness, and numbness are simply the price every woman pays for getting older. But what if that isn't the whole story? In this episode, we're separating fear from fact. We're talking honestly about what actually changes after 40, what doesn't, and why so many...

One of the saddest things we hear women say is: "I thought I was the only one." The only one who doesn't want sex anymore.  The only one who can't orgasm with a partner. The only one whose body has changed. The only one who secretly wonders... "Is something wrong with me?" You're not. In this episode, we're answering the questions thousands of women have whispered to us over the years. The questio...

You've probably been taught that pleasure is something you earn. Something you get after you've finished the work. After you've taken care of everyone else. After you've been productive enough. But what if that's the very belief keeping so many women exhausted, disconnected, and wondering where they went? What if pleasure was never meant to be optional? In this conversation, we explore: • Why so m...

Your life looks good on paper. So why doesn't it feel as alive as you thought it would? Maybe you've found yourself wondering why you feel disconnected from a life you worked so hard to build. Or you've looked at another woman who seems deeply alive and thought... What is she experiencing that I'm not? If so, this episode is for you. Because there's one piece of the puzzle almost nobody talks abou...

What if the things you've been taught to fear about midlife... aren't losses at all? What if they're actually the source of your power? Most women enter this season carrying the same story. That they're becoming less desirable. Less relevant. Less beautiful. Less important. That the things that made them valuable are slowly disappearing. But what if that story was wrong from the beginning? In this...

Most of us were taught the same story: That women become less desirable as they age. Less sexual. Less relevant. Less powerful. And if we're being honest, most of us believed it. But the older we get, the harder it is to ignore what we're actually seeing. Women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond having more confidence. More freedom. More pleasure. Better sex. And a much stronger sense of who they...

What if some of the most powerful things about being women... are the very things we've been taught to dismiss? Our intuition. Our desire. Our creativity. Our sensuality. Our emotional intelligence. Our ability to create life, connection, beauty, meaning, and transformation. For generations, we've inherited a definition of power built around achievement, productivity, status, control, and output....

What if the reason you feel less alive than you used to... has nothing to do with your age? In this episode, we explore something that affects virtually every woman, yet rarely gets named. Not because it's rare. Because it's normal. So normal, in fact, that most of us never think to question it. It's woven into the way we're taught to love, relate, work, care for others, move through the world, an...

What if the reason sex feels disconnected, pressured, or flat… has nothing to do with hormones, aging, or "low libido"? What if the real problem is that you never learned how to stop monitoring yourself long enough to actually feel? In this episode, we unpack one of the biggest hidden blocks to female pleasure: self-monitoring. The constant internal surveillance so many women live inside: • How do...

You didn't notice it happening at first. You just became… more responsible. More self-conscious. More careful. More needed. And somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling fully alive. Not just sexually. In this episode, we unpack the hidden conditioning that disconnects women from sensation, pleasure, desire, and themselves long before they ever realize it's happening. If you've ever wondered: "...

Your desire didn't disappear. Your body is simply responding to the conditions it's living in. And if you've been trying harder to feel turned on… pushing yourself to want sex… wondering why your body isn't responding the way it used to… this episode will completely change how you understand female desire. Because most women were never taught how arousal actually works. You were taught rules. How...

You know what you don't like. But do you actually know what creates your pleasure? Most women don't. Not because something is wrong with them— but because no one ever taught them how it works. You were taught how to perform. How to be desirable. How to make someone else feel good. But not how to feel. Not how to receive. Not how to stay in your body long enough for something real to happen. In thi...

You love him. So why don't you want him? If you've ever found yourself thinking, "I love my partner… I just don't want sex," this episode is going to change how you understand desire. Because the truth is, desire and love are not the same thing. You can deeply love someone and still feel completely disconnected in your body. Not because something is wrong with you. But because the conditions you'r...

If you're the one who always shows up… always gives… always holds everything together… but still feel unseen, disconnected, or quietly exhausted— this episode is for you. Because what looks like "I give too much" isn't actually about giving at all. It's about what happens in your body when something comes back to you. A lot of women think they need better boundaries, more self-care, or to stop ove...

Your life looks good. You're functioning. Performing. Holding it all together. So why does it feel so flat inside? This is not just about libido. It's about what happens when a woman becomes so good at responsibility, self-control, and doing life "right" that she slowly loses access to her own turn-on. It's like living in black and white when you know, somewhere in your body, life used to be in co...