Softening, for the Type A girls like me

Doesn't seem like anything is going your way?  Can't crack the code on why what you want so deeply isn't coming to fruition?  What if things aren't coming through because you're focused on the end result instead of the process?  What if you're exactly in the time, place, moment, and struggle you SHOULD be in to get to where your biggest desires really are?  Why can&ap...

We all do it, we all need it, but how intentional and aware are you of your rest and where does your body, your mind, your spirit need more (or less). Tune in to hear Hillary diving into rest as it pertains to softening and returning to your core self and who you were specifically designed to be. Follow along with more of Hillary's work on Instagram @kayloe.co and on Substack @kayloecreative...

We all know that community is important, but if you're anything like me you sometimes take it for granted.  This episode talks about a more specific lense of why community and the people that you choose to do life with are so important: the way that they teach and heal you as you live alongside them. You'll love this episode if you have ever felt lonely and you'll also find new pers...

"Advanced Energetics - what does that even mean?"  This is a question I found myself asking as I felt equally "pulled" and also confused by reading a title.  I knew I WANTED to understand advanced energetics and I also knew I could FEEL what it was...but my brain?  My brain couldn't articulate or put into words or form complete thoughts to make it "make sense". ...

One definition of hypervigilance is "the heightened alertness when a person is constantly on the lookout and scanning for threats, often perceiving danger when none actually exists" Is the fear you are feeling real or imagined?  Old or new?  Keeping a tight reign on yourself, your schedule, your surroundings might not just be a part of your personality (like I thought) and there might be...

It's easy to want to know everything, especially if you're someone who identifies with being Type A, controlling, or people pleasing.  This episode uncovers reasons why knowing the answer to everything actually keeps you stuck in one way of being, and how opening to "I don't know" can serve as one simple gateway to growth and breakthrough. In this episode: In Awe Follow al...

"Sure I knew there was a different way of being, but staying in my rigidity, full of emotional armor and barriers of walls is what I chose because I didn't want to lose my 'edge'.  I didn't want to lose my personality or what truly made me, me." In today's episode Hillary shares the resistance she had to doing inner work and to even healing or feeling "bette...

It's both encouraging and discouraging to learn from people saying "oh yes, I used to feel just like you" because you feel seen, but also why can't YOU just be where THEY are now? Hillary shares real time of a season she is leaving behind and a new one that she is actively stepping in to and the biggest takeaway?  It takes time.  The transformation, the healing, the re-wiring a...

Instead of avoiding discomfort, what if you headed into it straight on?  This episode elaborates on the last, and dives deeper into some real examples of how Hillary has moved through the obstacle being the very way to transformation in her own life. The Obstacle is the Way, by Ryan Holiday Follow along with more of Hillary's work on Instagram @kayloe.co and on Substack @kayloecreative Sign u...

Our society seems to worship protection / comfort / and mastering things with ease.  While ease and following what feels good (see episode "Do What Feels Good") absolutely have their place, this episode dives into what discomfort in our lives may be showing up. What feels sticky?  Impossible?  Like a mountain to climb in your way?  Beneath it may be the very thing that helps you expand i...

A simple framework for taking your thoughts, feelings, projections, and self-limiting beliefs through to start making practical shifts and changes to how you live, what you create, and how your relationships evolve. "The Work" by Katie Byron can simple by distilled into 4 questions: 1. is it true? 2. is it absolutely true? 3. who am I (how do I feel) with that belief? 4. who would I be i...

Reflections on turning 38 and sharing on what is on the horizon for the next year and what parts of healing and self-development are feeling the most alive and energetically charged presently. Follow along with more of Hillary's work on Instagram @kayloe.co and on Substack @kayloecreative Sign up to receive the Kayloe Quarterly Magazine

Believe it or not this was the first episode I EVER recorded of this podcast.  A true testament to the light side of the dark - the polarity of life.  I've been waiting for the right time to start it, and turns out this is it!  Enjoy this raw, honest, real-time processing of anger, frustration, and NOT following my somatic cues. Healing and dealing with "real life" is not glamorous...

When you read the title how do you relate/what does it bring up?  Does it conjur negative feelings, or register as things that should be avoided?  Listen in on Hillary discussing how burnout, jealousy, and resentment went from triggers for despair, into supportive friends of hers that help her towards where she really wants to go. Quote about resentment at the end of the episode credited to Brooke...

You may have heard that "the body keeps the score", but have you tried slowing down, tuning in, and listening to what that pain may be saying?  This week's episode is a bit more practical and heady, Hillary taking us through locations of the body and the themes that pain in that area could be pointing towards needing attention.  The chart referenced in this episode can be viewed her...

Softening into the permission to feel good.  Why does work have to be hard?  What if you approached life with ease?  Hillary walks us through some of her realizations and exercises to allowing herself, and her life, to feel good. Follow along with more of Hillary's work on Instagram @kayloe.co and on Substack @kayloecreative Sign up to receive the Kayloe Quarterly Magazine

Breathwork is an endless road with many fascinating and winding roads, so we start the conversation with at least tackling what it is and some of Hillary's experiences with the types of Breath she has experienced and how 1:1 vs. group sessions work and feel. Start looking into Breathwork for yourself: Untwist Coaching (Becca who I started with!) Breathwave Somsana Breath  Breathe with Sandy (...

Looking at one small slice of astrology and a way that Hillary has played with her "Big 3" in astrology, layered with the elemental characteristics of her signs to help deepen and open new avenues for her softening.   FIRE: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius WATER: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces AIR: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius EARTH: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn Have never looked at your astrological chart?  Sta...

Yes, you read that right, we're diving into an entire episode all about crying.  How it pertains to have softening, how Hillary transformed from a girl who didn't cry into one that let's energy move through when and how it needs and experiences the in-body benefits that tears were designed for.   Follow along with more of Hillary's work on Instagram @kayloe.co and on Substack @...

Hillary presents and explores the idea of "returning to SELF" and why it has been such a big theme of her healing, growing, and deepening of spirituality journey.  Hear her explain, explain, and pose intriguing questions as she works up to the  "S.E.L.F. framework" that can help you work through the same journey as you return to your own inner guidance and voice: S - say it E -...

Being Type A isn't all hard knocks, burdens, or something to be fixed!  Being type A is a beautiful thing and this episode Hillary dives into all of the AMAZING parts of being hard-wired for wanting, and demanding excellence. Follow along with more of Hillary's work on Instagram @kayloe.co and on Substack @kayloecreative Sign up to receive the Kayloe Quarterly Magazine

This episode dives into one personality type in the Enneagram personality Index: Enneagram 1 "the critic" or "the reformer".  Discussing what Enneagram 1s are motivated by, why there may be a pretty close correlation to being type A if you're also a 1, and how this plays out in day-to-day life for Hillary (and maybe you, too). If you want to find out your own Enneagram typ...

IFS, or "Internal Family Systems" has been gaining traction in the self help, self development, wellness and therapy spaces and has been found to be super impactful in softening into self-acceptance, healing, and fullness of SELF.  Hillary goes through an overview of what IFS is, her experience with it thus far, and a brief introduction on how you can start diving into your own IFS parts...

That feeling of being in a room full of people - of having a close, tight knit circle of family and friends - but still feeling totally alone.  Hillary shares and explores through the aloneness she has felt through her life (and especially motherhood) that no one quite understands the weight that she caries trying to do everything....and also everything perfectly.  How has softening into allowing...

Moving from "does everyone hate me?" to "how do I feel about my life / myself".  Hillary reflects living through the lense of others for a lot of her life, and how she softened into embodying and believing some of the following statements: - "I am not who I think I am, I am not who you think I am, I am who I THINK you think I am" - "What people think of me is non...