Sniffies' Cruising Confessions

Finding a doctor is easier said than done. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a gay doctor, so where does an ethical slut get actual good medical advice these days? This episode explores how to find a primary care provider or specialist when it comes to sexual health. How do you overcome the fear of being judged, especially when healthcare options are already limited by insurance and access? We...

We've all got 'em. We've all sent 'em. Some of us, maybe to the wrong person. This episode is about n*des — the currency of the apps — and the surprisingly rich etiquette surrounding intimate photos. We're walking through the psychology of sending (and withholding), the highly subjective Do's and Don'ts of composing them, and the eternal question: What makes a good one? What makes a ca...

What does sexual responsibility look like to you? In the age of PrEP, PEP, testing, and contact tracing, there are more tools than ever to help us protect ourselves and our partners — but as we learned in our Puerto Rico episode, stigma and political barriers can still get in the way. How has sexual responsibility evolved beyond condoms and abstinence? How can community care keep us safer? A...

Beaches, Bad Bunny, a quick gaycation escape — these are things we think of when we think of Puerto Rico, but it's so much more than that. PR is one of the richest queer communities in the world, so Sniffies is on the ground in San Juan with this extra special travel episode. We dive deep into the world's oldest colony: health disparities, political movements, activism, nightlife, and perrea...

Inspired by our Cruising 401 episode, we dig deeper into the history of HIV prevention and how it’s progressed into the age of PrEP and the Undetectable=Untransmittable movement. Whether you’re weighing your prevention options or navigating the world as a person living with HIV, there’s never been a better time to be an ethical slut. Do people living with HIV have an obligation t...

Cruising has changed. We all know this. But how much do we actually know about what it looked like before Sniffies, before the internet — before all of it? This episode takes a historical deep dive into the art of cruising: the highlights, the fun facts, and the turning points — including how HIV/AIDS reshaped everything in the 1980s. What's been gained and what's been lost? Do our anc...

STIs don't discriminate, yet why do we think gay guys are the only ones who get them? This episode digs into why info on HIV prevention isn't always distributed equally. Why are trans men and women often overlooked in HIV prevention? How do race, class, and educational access shape who gets information about PrEP? And what can we do to make sexual-health education more inclusive and less stigmatiz...

Trans women and gay men have been sharing space since the very beginning — and whether you're on Sniffies, at the club, or on Fire Island, the overlap has never been more real. This episode dives deep into an increasingly de-homogenized community: the history of gay and trans spaces, how that's changed today, and what cruising, nightlife, and safe sex look like when our worlds collide. How d...

Why does an STI take a certain amount of time to show up on a test? And why do I have to conduct what feels like investigative reporting to make sense of the timeline? This episode gets into the nitty gritty of seroconversion, contact tracing, PrEP, and PEP. Look no further for your guide to understanding how far back one must go when dealing with a testing scare or risk of exposure. It’s a...

Gay men are perhaps the most aesthetic community out there: gym routines, filler, hair plugs, veneers, BBLs, skincare, holetox, steroids, and even surgery. This episode dives into the “looksmaxing” of it all, and other trends that inform (or infect) our community. Is everyone who gets cosmetic surgery insecure? Are you toxic for having a really strict gym regimen? How do we draw the li...

What are all these swabs for? Haven’t we been swabbed enough! This sweeping episode asks some silly questions about various kinds of STI tests and what those different swabs and samples can actually tell us. In the words of Aquaria, any hole is a goal! As a follow-up to our episode about cum, we’re on the journey of a fluid’s various paths. What are throat and rectal swabs lookin...

It happened. We finally did an entire episode about c*m.  This episode dives into everything about c*m that you could possibly want to know — and perhaps more you didn’t even know you wanted. Gabe and Chris talk about viscosity, taste, nutritional value, the science of semen, the politics of finishing, and something called “c*m math.” This episode is deeply funny about...

Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions returns for season 4! The show about sex, desire, cruising, and queer relationships is back weekly with hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson‑Rosso bringing a new class of esteemed sluts and local sexperts into the studio. This season talks about the commingling of gay men and dolls, the aesthetic pressures of “looksmaxxing,” what retiring from po...

At Sniffies, there’s only one thing that gets us harder than the promise of anonymous sex: nostalgia. So for our very special 2025 Year-End Special, Gabe and Chris welcome the riotously funny Macy Rodman and Theda Hammel of the hilarious Nymphowars podcast to look back at their favorite queer cultural moments of 2025, most of which revolve around Lady Gaga. Then, in act two, the gang digs th...

For the final episode of season three, Gabe and Chris explore just what makes locker rooms such exciting spaces to cruise, with the help of the very fit and very funny comedian Jay Jurden. Like many queer people, Jay recalls being attracted to other guys while changing in his high school locker room. But it wasn’t until he became an in-demand trainer at New York’s cruisiest gym that Ja...

Gay culture is constantly sending us messages that big dicks are the most desirable thing a person could have, but activist Phil Miner says there are lots of people who are turned on by small or average-sized penises, and even more people who could develop confidence about their own size with Phil’s new six-week “Package Acceptance Program”. In this episode Gabe, Chris and Phil t...

Sammy Sins’ mom developed Parkinson’s Disease when they were still very young. But the lessons Sammy learned taking care of her were crucial to their job as a sex worker and content creator years later. In this episode, Chris and Gabe sit down with Sammy to talk about some of these unique discoveries, and the links between sex work, caregiving, and authenticity. Plus, how Sammy feels a...

The first time Alex Espinoza got cruised, he felt as if a “mutant power” had been awakened inside him. This new internal radar helped him find secret sex spaces where he uncovered another hidden strength: his dick gave him power over men who might have otherwise rejected a queer Latino man with a disability. Using his special gifts, Alex was able to build his self-confidence and dispel...

In 2019, Rhyheim Shabazz was just another horny LA slut having orgies on the regular. But when he started filming those orgies, the expressions on his bottoms’ faces were unlike anything he’d seen in porn. Rhyheim channelled that realization into a wildly successful career as an actor and director in the gay porn industry, and launched his own hit studio VOYR in 2023. In this episode,...

Comedian James Tom spent years identifying as a lesbian enby, but it took a Fire Island orgy and a twink in a Versace speedo to help him realize he was actually a gay guy. James has been mining his experiences for hilarious stand-up material ever since. In this episode, James stops by to tell Gabe and Chris side-splitting stories of sexual aha moments and misadventures alike. He also offers tons o...

Fisting used to be a niche fetish practiced by kinksters in dungeons, but today “Fisting is the It Girl” according to writer and expert fister Alexander Cheves. In this deep dive, Alex explains how the availability of fisting content on Twitter has led to a surge of interest from younger queer folks in recent years. But there’s a lot that first time fist fuckers need to know abou...

You’re not supposed to get horny or talk about sex in church, but Brandon Kyle Goodman is not your normal pastor. In their new off-Broadway show HEAUX CHURCH, the host of iHeart’s hit podcast “Tell Me Something Messy” reimagines church as a place for queer people to shed their religious trauma, sexual shame, and become happier, more fulfilled lovers. In this episode, Chris...

Cruising has resurged over the past decade, thanks in part to PrEP and Sniffies. But its future might look like something out of a dystopian sci-fi movie, according to journalist Leo Herrera, who followed up his hit book Analog Cruising (featured in our S1 episode “Cruising 101”) with a series of articles about how rapid advancements in AI technology may impact queer sex, cruising, and...

Hungry for more Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions? Our third season is BULGING with hot and hilarious conversations with cruisers, comedians, sex scholars and porn gods. Hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson-Rosso dive deep into everything from sex robots to double fisting for a season that’s intimate, arousing and raw -- just the way you like it. Premiering October 23rd! Follow Sniffie...

This week our hosts suit up in spandex for a wild Q&A with content creator Denzel Dixon, a prominent player in NYC’s gay wrestling fetish scene. Growing up, Denzel liked imitating WWE moves with his friends, until he realized he liked it a little too much. It wasn’t until Denzel grew up and found the website MeetFighters.com that he turned his lifelong obsession into hot, sweaty, l...