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DISCUSSION GROUP Love is not enough. You have heard that before. But most people who say it are treating love as just affection — and leaving everything else out of the definition. In the Season 1 finale, SB Crux reframes the entire conversation. Love is not insufficient. It is an umbrella — and commitment and accountability are what make it whole. Drawing on Gottman’s research, Ted Huston’s longi...

DISCUSSION GROUP My body, my choice. Four words, enormous weight. Most people have heard this phrase in conversations about gender rights and sexuality. But what does it actually mean inside a committed relationship — where two people have made promises to each other, where needs exist on both sides, and where the same phrase can be a genuine assertion of dignity or a weapon depending on who is us...

DISCUSSION GROUP Good people are in toxic relationships right now. Not because they are weak. Not because they should have known better. Because the psychology of what keeps people in harmful relationships is more complex than most of us understand. In this episode, SB Crux explains the neuroscience behind why leaving a toxic relationship is rarely a single, clean decision. From the cortisol-dopam...

DISCUSSION GROUP You did not just marry your partner. You married their family. And sometimes — not always, but sometimes — that is the actual problem sitting underneath the arguments you keep having about something else entirely. In this episode, SB Crux examines one of the most consistently cited sources of marital conflict in Nigerian relationships through the lens of family systems theory. He...

DISCUSSION GROUP SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux replaces vague relationship ideals with a concrete, psychology-backed picture of what emotional health in a relationship actually looks like. The episode covers: Why growing up watching relationships that "looked functional" gave most of us a dangerously incomplete picture of what health means — and why social media made it worse Gottman's longi...

You've had this argument before. Different words, different day — but underneath, it's the same fight. She feels he's emotionally distant. He feels he already shows he cares and can't understand why that's not enough. And here is the uncomfortable truth: neither of them is lying. Both of them are right. In this episode, SB Crux explains why this keeps happening — not as a compatibility problem, bu...

SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux makes the case that the most damaging third party in many Nigerian relationships is not an ex, not a family member, not a friend — it is an unexamined childhood. The episode covers: Disproportionate response — why your reaction to what your partner does is often bigger than the event itself, and what that gap is telling you How the brain stores emotional memory...

DISCUSSION GROUP:  https://chat.whatsapp.com/IIoCb4LbhI26FXGbOnAwp7?s=cl&p=i&ilr=0 SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux takes on one of the most misused and misunderstood words in modern relationships — emotional manipulation — and gives it a precise, honest, and uncomfortable examination. The episode covers: Why emotional manipulation is so hard to spot — because it often presents as love,...

DISCUSSION GROUP:  https://chat.whatsapp.com/IIoCb4LbhI26FXGbOnAwp7?s=cl&p=i&ilr=0 SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux addresses one of the most exhausting experiences in relationships — giving everything and still feeling like it is never enough — and explains the psychology behind why this happens. The episode covers: What emotional unavailability actually means — and why it is one of th...

DISCUSSION GROUP: https://chat.whatsapp.com/IIoCb4LbhI26FXGbOnAwp7?s=cl&p=i&ilr=0 Everyone around you has relationship advice. Your aunties, your friends, the influencer with 32k followers and a blue tick. The problem is not that people are giving advice — it is that advice spreads based on how confidently it is said, not on how true it is. In this episode, SB Crux breaks down the most com...

DISCUSSION GROUP: https://chat.whatsapp.com/IIoCb4LbhI26FXGbOnAwp7?s=cl&p=i&ilr=0 Personal growth should bring a relationship forward. But in many Nigerian relationships, one person's growth quietly gets treated as a betrayal. This episode examines what actually happens when one partner starts therapy, earns more, sets boundaries, and stops shrinking — and the other person calls it a probl...

DISCUSSION GROUP: https://chat.whatsapp.com/IIoCb4LbhI26FXGbOnAwp7?s=cl&p=i&ilr=0   You got out. You healed. You promised yourself never again.  Six months later, you are sitting across from the same person in a different body — and it feels right.  In this episode, SB Crux breaks down the real reason we keep choosing the wrong people: attachment styles formed before age 10, familiarity mi...

If your relationship is tilting to one side. you need to leave.

Some parents tend to find themselves reporting their partner to their kids, and that's a dangerous cycle.

So many times I've heard this statement, the girl child was raised right, the boy wasn't. finally I have decided to give my 2 cents.

Intense, push-pull and unpredictable, in my opinion it'it's possibly the most dangerous one of them all..

People who are distant, unemotional, and always avoiding closeness suffer from this style.

Check out this trait : Clingy , Highly Emotional, or Seekling reassurance to know if this is the attachment style you exhibit.

Confidence self-worth accepts support... If you find yourself truthfultruthfully displaying these three and more then this is your TRIBE

A person's action speaks more than words, but most times, we forget that, in the bid to hear them say it to our face.

In the coming days or weeks, we'll break down each attachment style, and we'll have conversations that will enlighten us.

Everyone wants to experience true love, though alot of us do not believe in it.

Love makes you do crazy things, Yes. Well how about you check first and be sure, these crazy isn't stage one of madness, be sure it's all a Love induced crazy...

Everyone now is in multiple talking stages.