Make Your Damn Bed

I realize now, if you’re doing it right, life is just a series of outgrowing yourself. Those choices, behaviors, routines, friends, experiences, and priorities that you used to make time for, out of necessity or desire or fear or boredom, at some point, just don’t appeal to you anymore. And you should be so fucking happy for that.  When you begin to outgrow yourself, whether consciously or&nb...

The world hardened me through experiences, and time and time again I would work to soften myself back up. Eventually, I established a ratio of softness and armor, of love and fear, of precaution and fearlessness. It’s not always foolproof.  I am a mosaic of my past selves, and you are too. What does your mosaic look like? Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed ....

I am starting to believe they want us all to turn into robots. Last time I checked robots we’re free of cellulite, body hair, farts, and emotions. But robots also don’t get to experience. They don’t get to create. They don’t get to love, or to feel, or to feel peace in a body that they’ve been taught to hate.  Being a human being is fucking beautiful. What we have been taught as imperfections...

 A repeated thought becomes a belief. A belief becomes a feeling. Those feelings and beliefs create your reality.  The insecurities that we have about ourselves become a self fulfilling prophecy as they do end up working against us to validate your truth.  When you notice people treating you in a way and you feel hesitant or want to justify their behavior or whatever it may be stopp...

It’s good to be aware of when we’re talking just to talk or if we’re talking out of a place of insecurity or if we’re talking because we really believe it will foster a sense of connection. None of those reasons are inherently bad but we also need to recognize that we really don’t have to work so hard. Sometimes a simple no thank you is plenty of explanation. Sometimes a deep dive into your why is...

Unfortunately, we can’t have everyone we love be with us all the time forever, but we can ensure their legacies live on through our preservation of their memories.  Ask questions, study the people you love, and let yourself enjoy the time you do have, with them. I doubt you will regret knowing too much about someone you love, so don’t be afraid to ask. You never know what magic you may uncove...

I really don’t think there is such thing as closure unless you’re actually ready to close the door yourself. And some doors may never close fully, and thats okay too. Just make sure you’re not reopening them for selfish reasons when you do.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Closure does not really exist, at least how we’ve been taught. It’s more of an internal process than an external one.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A lot of us are working very hard on our lives, on ourselves, and on our development. We don’t even realize how quickly we are growing and changing because from our perspective, it may seem slow and tedious. Growing pains are no joke and if you don’t allow yourself time to adjust to these changes, your body may insist upon it.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed ....

I encourage you to try to respect the fact that our bodies know what is best sometimes better than we do. Because I personally know that my inability to slow down by my own volition makes it difficult for me to respect my body when it is requesting a break, kindly. So on the days it feels like it is forcing me to stay in bed - instead of getting depressed and down on myself and having a pity party...

We cant control anyone else - thank god - but we can have an impact. Wouldn’t you rather impact people to believe in the things they enjoy rather than to feel shame around them? Let people be weirdos - and embrace that shit.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Objectively speaking, you’re an artist if you make art. even if it’s not up to your standards. If you paint, you are a painter, objectively, regardless of if the painting is bad. I am sure we have all been to museums with famous pieces that not only didn’t move us, but they kinda sucked. But would you not call Jackson Pollack an artist just because he got famous for a simple style of throwing pain...

The perk of being selfless, is it’s never fully selfless. You will feel good, the more you do good and the more you see good. And the more we feel the immediate rewards of doing and seeing good, the more likely we are to do and be good in the future. Keep promoting by simply doing, and reap the benefits of the dopamine hits that come from such kind gestures.  Support this show http://supporte...

If you’re feeling stagnant or bored and don’t know what to do to get out of your rut - and want an activity to feel less directionless? Try writing down all of the things you’ve ever wanted to accomplish on flashcards or popsicle sticks or slips of paper or in the randomizer app. Then, when you’re feeling a bit restless, you can pull one of the things and focus your attention towards that accompli...

You can’t change the past - but you can learn from it. Don’t be afraid to sit in your regret for a moment, as long as you’re comfortable recognizing it as a signal of strength, too. You wouldn’t be the person you are today, unless you were bold enough to make the mistakes you made yesterday. Keep being brave enough to make mistakes and feel the regret you need to feel to know you’re becoming a bet...

Growing and living life means you will sometimes make mistakes or bad choices. Making mistakes means you will sometimes have to deal with natural consequences of those mistakes choices. But when we are afraid of being PUNISHED on top of these consequences, we’re less likely to try anything new.  When you focus on retribution - you’ll become inherently fearful of retribution. Instead, realize...

Regardless of where you’re at shouldn’t be any extra shame when dealing with your emotional process. It’s hard enough as is and society really did us all dirty with this shit. So grieve. Be angry about it. And remember that anger and sadness (when released appropriately) are both healthy emotional reactions to fear. And the biggest threat to fear is love. So welcome any unwanted emotions with love...

Are you a person who acts mostly out of fear or acts mostly out of love? Do you show up to your day to day tasks because you feel like you have to and are afraid of the repercussions if you didn’t - or are you someone who shows up to your life because of love for yourself?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-be...

Familiar will typically always be more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Even if that familiar is fairly unhealthy. Many people are miserable and comfortable. Many people can find comfort in sadness. There is no shame in it, because often, we’re so used to the sadness, anger, or shame that we don’t even realize there is another way.  Push yourself to be uncomfortable when it means you may find more...

You’re allowed to take breaks - even from your partners - to reassess, come back, and refocus on what you need, expect, and desire in a relationship - and you can do so without burning bridges. IF you wait too long to address something, it can infect itself and cause bigger problems in the future. Why amputate if you could’ve just cleaned the scrape properly as soon as you noticed it?  Try not to...

I talk about the importance of recognizing nuance in everything all the time - but we still often fall back into black and white, all or nothing thinking patterns that can cause us more harm than good.  Let yourself be intuitive and make decisions from a place that feels good instead of afraid.  It can and often will be both. You will have reasons to stay and reasons to go. You will have reasons t...

I think we get inundated with the knowledge that information, tools, and assistance is limitless - and we don’t often know where to begin. Start with something that feels realistic to your now. What tool can you integrate into your routine today that will help you tomorrow.  Remember that new habits and routines take lots of time to get used to - and feel good doing consistently - but you’re allow...

It’s about doing what works for you - at a pace that feels good for you. It’s about finding your path to success in whatever that means to you. And since this is a new path for you - and you’re a unique individual - there is no right or wrong way through a forest - You just have to start clearing a path that makes sense to you.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Suppor...

Get in the Practice of making and keeping promises to yourself that make your life better in the long run - and not just the now.   Start by setting an intention for the week. You may want to think about a goal you’ve had for a long time - or something you struggle with committing to - or maybe something more specific like writing a screenplay or something big like starting college or a mindful in...

It’s important to allow yourself criticism but it's also just as important to expect other adults to bear constructive, fair, and essential criticism too. If they get defensive and angry - that isn’t necessarily a safe place for growth. If we all want to achieve better - we have to get comfortable taking, offering, and accepting that none of us are perfect.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...