Make Your Damn Bed

In my experience there are two types of thinking when it comes to suffering. There are people who think, “I experienced something terrible and I don’t want anyone else to ever experience something like that.” And there are people who think, “I experienced something terrible, and everyone else should have to, too.” Ideally, we’re all in the first camp.  Support this show http://supporter.acast...

Unless something drastic happens, real change is hard to notice until consistent effort has been put in and enough time and has passed to show those results.  If you see an old friend after 20 years, you will be far more likely to notice their signs of aging than if you saw them aging slowly and gradually every single day. Same with gaining or losing weight. You aren’t likely to notice a few...

Being open, honest and kind is a valuable asset in a closed off, dark, and often mean world. That said, being an honest, open, kind and vulnerable person can definitely put a target on your back when it comes to toxic people looking for prey.  “Unspoken boundaries are invisible, and they often sound like “They should’ve known better” or “Common sense would say . . .” Common sen...

When we put good out in the world, we get an automatic target on our backs on how we could be doing more, better, or differently, but in my opinion - that energy should be put towards the people doing active harm. Those people haven’t slowed down and they slide by unnoticed because we’re all fighting with each other on the details. Remember who’s team you’re on - and fight accordingly!  Suppo...

The reason that things resonate with you - is because of you. You see the magic in the world because you have the capacity for that magic.  You are a mirror. The magic you see around you is the magic that lives within you. If you get inspired by my words or anything else you come across during the day - your history, perspective, interpretation, and big beautiful brain brought you here.&...

Set boundaries with the holidays. Don't burn through your savings trying to impress everyone. Focus on experiences and practicality rather than the top of the line junk. Your presence is present enough. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trade in your self deprecation for self aggrandizing and watch your confidence grow! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s not about fitting in with the crowd - it’s about doing the things that feel the best and create the best outcome as a result. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you’re the pioneer of an experience or a look or a choice. If it’s not actively putting anyone else in danger - you should be excited to stand out, you never know who may be watching that needed a bit of encouragement to stand with...

Keeping yourself safe is the priority. And anger and resentment can be important feelings to have to signal if people are taking advantage of us. I encourage you to continue to hold people accountable as much as possible. Ideally, holding your boundaries firmly, without having to stoop to their level and feel disconnected from your authenticity.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/m...

The truth is brutal, but honesty doesn’t have to be.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Showing up can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people, and you will have agency over how you choose to show up - but to me, it’s important to pay attention to your people as individuals, and if you want to create a long lasting relationship that can withstand the test of time, you have to be willing to show up for them when you can.  Support this show http://supporter.aca...

Getting comfortable growing means getting comfortable being wrong. Your thoughts may feel like the truth, but they're not always rooted in reality. Often, in fact, they aren't. Practice questioning your own thoughts, without getting defensive. Take some time and space for your own wellbeing today. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priv...

It's Thanksgiving in the US and instead of dreading the holiday altogether, I now look forward to the idea of having a specific day dedicated to gratitude and connection with family or friends over various starches and pie WHILE simultaneously having passionate conversations about important ideals.  Donate to Native American Rights Fund: https://secure.narf.org/page/64457/donate/1 DECODED : A...

When people misplace their anger onto you - it's not your responsibility to rectify it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People will typically match your energy. Your energy reflects your perceptions. This is why, if you work improve your perception, the reactions of others and your entire reality will follow.   Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The things that resonate for you reflect your past, your experiences, your interpretations, and even more so, your attitude about all of that shit. This is why some people can go through hell and back and have the best mindset and focus on gratitude and love and other people can be insanely privileged and still miserable about everything. Neither one is wrong. Both experiences and feelings are val...

When we put our attention and our full conscious minds behind the things we do, we give them more power than when we simply allow them to happen to us.  It truly sounds like magic because it kind of is. The fact is, our visualizations are just as powerful as our physical experiences. Our imaginations can literally create the same neural pathways in our brain, which can impact our physical bod...

Practice never goes bad. It’s not something that expires when you don’t use it. You can build on that information later. Hone the skill over time when it feels right for you - but recognize that consistent hard work shows results the fastest. 20 minutes of mindful practice will outweigh 2 hours of bullshit practice any day. So be mindful - be all in - and commit what you can when you can wher...

 Learning to love yourself means showing up day after day with compassion, curiosity, and reverence for the person you are in this very moment. It means being kind and patient with yourself as you learn this process but it also means you may benefit from taking some notes. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informa...

Decluttering can feel very empowering and lighten some of the energetic ties you naturally create when residing in a space. It’s hard to feel free when you’re bogged down with shit around you, so let yourself feel a bit of freedom that comes with the occasional deep clean and purge.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for m...

When you do this intentional releasing, I want you to focus on getting the shit out. When you change the oil in your car, you have to drain out the old shit for it to run properly in the future and that draining part is the most time consuming and expensive part of the process. Refilling the shit with the good stuff is very fast and fairly simple. The wait and the disposal of the old, heavy shit i...

Water is insanely cleansing, effective, and a powerful energy resource and it’s not to be underestimated in our own personal healing and wellbeing. There is a reason health professionals and therapists alike are always advocating for your hydration. Drink your damn water, wash your damn face, and remember that you’re a powerful mother fucker made of powerful stuff!  Support this sho...

Aggression is a human emotion. You are allowed to feel aggressive. Anger is a human emotion. You are allowed to feel angry. Sadness, frustration, embarrassment, fear are all human emotions. You are allowed to feel all of them. The problem is, when we blindly react to those feelings out of fear they will last forever, or instinct, or whatever. I have said many times before that we are are resp...

If we create positive associations with movement - we will struggle less with guilt and that feeling of obligation. Build positive mindsets around movemetn. It’s not a punishment, it’s a form of self care, nourishment, and grounding. It’s a free way to connect with yourself in a way that can genuinely improve your longevity and day to day mental and physical health. It doesn’t have to be intense,...

The only thing you can plan for is your behaviors, choices, and reactions. Stop writing the story for everyone's reactions to your choices and just lean in with honesty and kindness. Worrying won't change the outcome. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.