Living Out Podcast

Hannah tells us about her favourite episode from our back catalogue.  Ed and Jo are joined by Jez Field to talk about intimacy with others. What are the catalysts for this kind of intimacy? What are some of the barriers to it? And do women need intimate friendships more than men do?  Resources mentioned and related  The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw Jez’s review of The Intimacy Deficit   Billy No-Ma...

Andrew tells us about his favourite episode from our back catalogue. This episode from our first Meet The Authors series features thirteen guests giving their answers to five quickfire questions. We'll hear what advice our guests would give to their younger selves, what resources they recommend, how churches have been particularly helpful, what's been good about being same-sex attracted...

Ed tells us about his favourite episode from our back catalogue.  So far in this series we’ve talked about why we need friendships and the difference Jesus makes to them, but what does that look like in reality? Adam and Ashleigh each sit down with a friend to talk about how their friendship has brought them closer to God and taught them more about him, and share their reflections on what has help...

When you begin to tell people about your experiences of same-sex attraction or your decision to obey what God says about sexuality, you’re likely to receive questions.  Andy is joined by our old friend Anne and our new friend Laurence to talk about their experiences here. What’s it like for us as same-sex attracted Christians when people ask us those questions? How might we begin to answer them? ...

Ashleigh is joined by our old friend Nat and our new friend Angela to talk about what leaving a same-sex relationship was like for them.  Whether you’re considering leaving a same-sex relationship in order to follow Jesus, or you’re wanting to support someone in that situation, this conversation has something for you.  Resources recommended and related   Nat and Matt: Mixed-Orientation Marriage (D...

Ed and Adam are joined by our new friend Tom to talk about the times when their experiences of same-sex attraction make them want to give up on their faith. What keeps them going in these times?  Resources mentioned and related Psalms 63 and 73 (Bible Encouragements #3) , Living Out Podcast  The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw  Exploring the Intimacy Deficit , Living Out Podcast 

Andy is joined by Jeanette and Simon to talk about whether we should expect a change in our same-sex attractions as followers of Jesus. They share ways they’ve sought change in the past, how they view it now, and how others have helped them.  Resources mentioned and related   Living Faith   Simon: Reconciling Sexuality, Faith and Ministry (Different Stories #1) , Living Out Podcast  Shouldn't...

Andrew is joined by Jeanette and Jon to share their stories of same-sex attraction and faith. They’re honest about their experiences of loneliness, talk about how singleness and childlessness can come with grief as well as joys, and consider what we can do about loneliness.  Resources mentioned and related   Jeanette’s story and writing   Kaleidoscope   Friendship and Intimacy (Friendship #3) , Li...

Andrew is joined by our old friend Dan and our new friend Ruth as they share their stories of same-sex attraction and talk all about the realities of sexual temptation.   What helps us to avoid temptation? What about when we give in to it? And what can we learn from how Jesus faced temptation?  Resources mentioned & related  Meet the Authors #21 - Dan Reid  I Used to Identify As a Sinner. Now...

Coming out (sharing with someone about your experience of sexuality) is not always easy, whether you're the person sharing or the one hearing about it. Laura and Paul join Ashleigh to talk about what coming out was like for them. We hear about the first people they told, the things that have been helpful for them in these conversations, and what it's like to share so publicly about such...

As Christians who experience same-sex attraction, how can we flourish? In this series we'll talk about coming out, answering people's questions, feeling alone, and more.  Whether you experience same-sex attraction yourself or you want to support someone who does, this series will have something to comfort, challenge and encourage you.

This episode contains discussion of childhood sexual abuse, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Jo tells us about her favourite episode from our back catalogue - one that shows how God sometimes breaks into our lives in the most unlikely circumstances. Robert was sexually abused by a teacher at school, forced into becoming a Christian, and went on to marry a woman and lead a church – all while bein...

Andy tells us about his favourite episode from our back catalogue. For many people, same-sex attraction can feel very isolating. Ed, Andy and Anne discuss how, over time, they felt less alone and were able to get support from friends and church.  We share some advice for those just becoming aware of their sexualities and wanting support, and we look at helpful things churches can do.  And we also...

Ashleigh tells us about her favourite episode from our back catalogue. In the last of our series going through the missteps identified in The Plausibility Problem by Ed Shaw, we discussed whether suffering can and should be avoided. We shared our own painful experiences and examined why some argue that the suffering of celibate same-sex attracted Christians is a reason to abandon traditional bibli...

It can be so painful when we disagree with those we love about this. What do we do when a friend changes their mind on faith and sexuality, or when our church changes its position on same-sex marriage? Does 1 Corinthians 5 contain any wisdom that we can apply here? Ashleigh, Ed and Andrew talk it through. Resources mentioned and related Healthy Spirituality | Holiness and Church Discipline | James...

Can sexuality change? Should we seek to change it? Andrew, Ashleigh and Adam talk it through. Adam also shares his journey towards openness to dating a woman, despite his enduring experience of same-sex attraction. Resources mentioned and related Research relating to sexual fluidity:  What Does Heterosexuality Mean? Same-Sex Attraction, Behaviors, and Discomfort Among Self-identified Heterosexual...

Ashleigh, Adam and Andy explore what real love is, and consider how we can align ourselves to Scripture’s truth in a world that preaches something different.  We also think about the question, 'My friend is so much happier now that they’re in a same-sex relationship – isn't that a good thing?' Resources mentioned and related   Does the Bible Affirm Same-Sex Relationships?: Examining...

Is the Bible’s teaching unjust or unfair to same-sex attracted Christians like us? Andrew, Ed and Andy talk through the intellectual and the emotional sides of this, considering how this objection has looked for us personally as well as how we might respond to it. Resources mentioned and related Dominion: The Making of the Western Mind by Tom Holland  The Air We Breathe: How We All Came to Believe...

How has this view harmed us, or people around us? Has it done us any good? And does it do the ultimate harm of keeping people from coming to know Jesus?  Andy, Ashleigh and Adam explore the harm and the good of the traditional Christian sexual ethic. Resources mentioned and related  Isn’t the Christian Sexual Ethic Harmful and Repressive? (Explore Questions #2), Living Out Podcast  Does Christian...

In this special episode, featuring the occasional serious answer and several shameless plugs, the Living Out team reflect on 2025 and look ahead to 2026. We hope you enjoy seeing in the new year with us! The questions  What’s one moment in 2025 that you’re grateful for? What habit or practice have you found helpful in the last year? Who has inspired you this year? What book, film, or song has shap...

Does the Bible actually prohibit same-sex sexual relationships? And if it does, are those prohibitions binding on us today?  Ashleigh, Andy and Andrew talk through some of the arguments here, the things we can agree or empathise with in those arguments, and why ultimately we believe in the historic Christian sexual ethic. Resources mentioned and related Did Jesus Affirm Same-Sex Sexual Relationshi...

Why is it important to engage with objections and disagreement? Can we actually do that while still loving people? Andrew is joined by Preston Sprinkle ( Centre for Faith, Sexuality and Gender ) and Katherine Brown ( Evangelical Alliance ) to chat about these questions. In the second half of the episode, they talk through some principles for having fruitful conversations from Preston’s book Does t...

When people hear that Living Out - a group of same-sex attracted Christians - believe that sex is reserved for the marriage of a man and a woman, they tend to have questions...

How does our intimacy (or lack of intimacy) with creation impact our intimacy with God, ourselves and others? Will the sea be warmer in the new creation? And when's the Intimacy Deficit merch dropping? Ed and Andy are joined by Anne to answer all the important questions. Resources mentioned and related  The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw God of All Things: Rediscovering the Sacred in an Everyday...

Ed and Jo are joined by Jez Field to talk about intimacy with others. What are the catalysts for this kind of intimacy? What are some of the barriers to it? And do women need intimate friendships more than men do?  Resources mentioned and related  The Intimacy Deficit by Ed Shaw Jez’s review of The Intimacy Deficit   Billy No-Mates: How I Realised Men Have a Friendship Problem by Max Dickins More...