Legally Clueless

For years, Annkia knew that something wasn't right. She had spent most of her life living with pain, navigating hospital visits, procedures, medication, and conflicting diagnoses. But despite everything she was experiencing, the answers never seemed to come. In Part 2 of her story, Annkia shares what happened when she finally met a doctor who listened. What followed was a series of tests that reve...

Pleasure, Freedom & The Myth Of The Good Woman | Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah What does it mean to be a "good woman"? And who benefits when women spend their lives trying to fit into that role? In the first episode of this special season of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with writer, activist and author Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah for a deeply liberating conversation about pleasure, freedom...

This week on Mid Week Tease, we're talking about generational cycles! Not just the obvious ones, but the invisible family rules, coping mechanisms, beliefs and survival strategies that quietly shape our lives. Many of us inherit ways of thinking, loving, communicating and surviving long before we're old enough to question them. We grow up believing they're simply part of who we are. But what happe...

For years, Annkia knew something wasn't right. At just 9 years old, she was living with constant pain, countless trips to the bathroom, and long periods away from school. As doctors searched for answers, she found herself navigating a childhood marked by hospital visits, procedures, medication, and the loneliness of being misunderstood. In Part 1 of her story, Annkia shares what it was like growin...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores one of the most confusing relationship dynamics: loving someone who is deeply attached to being the victim. Not everyone who has experienced pain is stuck in victimhood. Many people carry trauma, grief and heartbreak while still taking accountability for their actions. But what happens when someone's wounds become their identity? When every ex was t...

As a child, Jeanette Soi was repeatedly made to feel like she wasn't smart enough. In part two of her story, she shares how years of favoritism, public humiliation, and discouraging comments from teachers followed her into high school, shaping how she saw herself and her future. By Form Two, the pressure had become so overwhelming that she began questioning whether life was worth living. But throu...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores a question many of us rarely ask ourselves: Who are you beyond your wounds? As women, we're often praised for how much we can endure. We celebrate resilience, sacrifice, and survival. But what happens when pain becomes the primary way we understand ourselves? In this episode, Adelle unpacks why so many women build identities around struggle, why suf...

When Jeanette Soi was growing up, school became a place where she slowly began to question her worth. In this deeply relatable episode, Jeanette shares memories of being publicly shamed for her grades, experiencing favoritism from teachers, and carrying the painful belief that her academic performance determined her future. As teachers and classmates repeatedly reinforced the idea that she wasn't...

What if the things women have been taught to “just endure” are actually signs that something is wrong? In this season finale of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango is joined by Consultant Obstetrician & Gynecologist Dr Claire Kinuthia for one of the most important conversations we’ve had on the show. Together, they unpack menstrual cycles, PMS, PMDD, PCOS, fibroids, endometriosis, perimenopau...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks the different kinds of rest and why sleep alone may not be fixing your exhaustion. So many of us are burnt out in ways we haven’t learned to name. We sleep, take breaks, scroll online, binge shows and still feel tired. Why? Because not all exhaustion is physical. In this episode, Adelle explores the 7 different types of rest, from emotional r...

In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, Annitah Rae shares the second part of her deeply personal story. She opens up about surviving domestic violence in her marriage, becoming a young mother, struggling with alcoholism, navigating fame and media success while battling depression and suicidal thoughts privately, and the long journey toward healing, accountability, and self-awareness. Ann...

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with activist, civic creator and political commentator Tatiana Gicheru for a powerful conversation about courage, womanhood, activism and choosing yourself unapologetically. Tatiana opens up about: Standing up to authority from a young age Finding her voice through blogging & storytelling Pleasure, shame & reclaiming ownership of...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks emotional abuse in romantic relationships what it is, how it manifests, why it’s often difficult to identify, and the long-term impact it can have on your nervous system, self-worth and sense of reality. Many people only recognize abuse when it becomes physical. But emotional abuse can be quieter, subtler and deeply destabilizing. It can look like ga...

In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, media personality, mental health advocate and GBV activist Annitah Rae shares the first part of her deeply personal story. She opens up about growing up feeling deeply loved by her father but struggling through a painful relationship with her mother, becoming rebellious as a teenager, substance use, running away from home, surviving life on the stre...

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with lawyer and entrepreneur Bev Munga, founder of Gspot Kenya and popularly known as “The Vibrating Lawyer.” In this bold and honest conversation, Bev opens up about: Building one of Kenya’s most talked-about pleasure brands The backlash she faced for centering women’s pleasure Choosing a child-free life Solo travel as self-care Fulfillm...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the emotional discomfort that can come with finally standing up for yourself after years of people pleasing, weak boundaries, over-giving and self-abandonment. From romantic relationships to friendships, this episode explores what happens when you stop shrinking yourself to keep other people comfortable. Why does setting boundaries feel guilty? Why d...

In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. After spending years learning to silence her voice, Kui shares what happened when she slowly began reconnecting with herself again. From moving abroad at a young age, to navigating academia, leadership, activism, workplace politics, burnout, and eventually choosing to step away from the working worl...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mama Olive for a deeply honest conversation about motherhood, identity, friendship shifts, community, and choosing yourself. Mama Olive opens up about the realities of single motherhood, navigating postpartum rage, losing herself in relationships, and the emotional exhaustion that comes with raising children, especially without enough...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks self-sabotage, what it really is, where it comes from, and how it quietly shows up in your daily life. If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, inconsistent, or undisciplined, this episode invites you to look deeper. Self-sabotage isn’t random. It’s patterned, protective, and often rooted in early beliefs about who you are and what you deserve. I...

In this episode of the Legally Clueless podcast, we begin Part 1 of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story. Kui takes us through her childhood growing up between Nairobi and Mombasa, being raised by multiple mother figures, and the powerful lineage of women who shaped her storytelling voice. She shares what it was like to grow up as a “different” child outspoken, curious, and deeply aware of injustice and how tho...

This week on For Mannerless Women, we sit down with Ciku Cheru, author, journalist, storyteller, and explorer, for a conversation that will challenge everything you’ve been taught about womanhood. From her grandmother who refused marriage and still built a full, thriving life, to her own journey of solo travel across 60+ countries, this episode is a powerful reminder that there is no one way to li...

Have you ever had one small thing happen and within minutes your mind convinced you your whole life was about to fall apart? A delayed text becomes rejection. A difficult conversation becomes disaster. A money challenge becomes total collapse. This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks catastrophizing, the mental habit of assuming the worst-case scenario, and why so many of us confuse fear wi...

What messages did you receive about yourself as a child and how have they shaped the way you love, trust and show up in the world today? In part one of this deeply moving two-part story, Wanjirah Kimani takes us back to her childhood in Murang’a, being raised by her grandmother, navigating parental absence, experiencing shame at home, and growing up believing love had to be earned through performa...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Temina Semo for a deeply honest conversation on self-love, identity, and the journey back to yourself. Temina shares what it was like growing up confident and expressive only to find herself shrinking in environments that tried to silence her. From strict school systems to societal expectations, we explore how many women slowly disconn...

Setting boundaries will change your relationships. Not because you’re doing something wrong, but because you’re no longer showing up in ways that require you to abandon yourself. In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks why boundaries feel so difficult, why people react when you start setting them, and how to begin choosing yourself, without guilt. If you’ve ever struggled wit...