Fathering Our Future

The pain passed to you can affect your children—even when you are determined to give them something better. In this episode, I look at the stories of Mephibosheth, Joseph, and the lost coin to explore how unresolved pain moves through families and shapes the way children see themselves. More importantly, I challenge fathers to consider what protecting their children from the past might require of...

Are timeouts bad for kids? Or does the real problem come from how parents use them? Research does not show that every properly used timeout is harmful. But there is a significant difference between a brief, intentional consequence and angrily banishing a child because their behavior has become inconvenient. In this episode, I examine timeouts through the lens of Christian parenting and biblical di...

Children do not automatically become confident communicators as they get older. They learn by watching us, practicing with us, and being given opportunities to speak for themselves. In this episode, I explain why teaching our kids to communicate is part of discipleship—not merely preparation for school or a future career. I also share practical ways dads can help children develop confidence, clari...

For nearly six years, I made pancakes for my children on Saturday mornings. I thought I was simply making breakfast and giving my wife a break. I did not realize how closely my children were watching. Then one Saturday morning, the routine came full circle. In this episode, I share why simple family traditions can carry far more influence than we realize. A small act of consistency can show love,...

Is your family always rushing from one obligation to the next? When dinner, bedtime, church, and leaving the house constantly become last-minute emergencies, our kids feel the pressure. A reel from Scot Anderson got me thinking about Ephesians 6:4 and how easily fathers can frustrate their children without intending to. But the answer goes beyond giving our kids a ten-minute warning. In this episo...

Most parents think they need to find the right words for “the talk.” But if difficult subjects are the only time we deliberately talk with or teach our children, even the perfect script can feel strange. In this episode, I explain what needs to happen before you talk to your kids about sex. We look at why this cannot be a one-time conversation, how children learn whether Dad is safe to talk to, an...

Should your teen get a job while still in high school? After watching a reel from parenting creator Scot Anderson arguing that teens should not work at 16, I found myself agreeing with part of his reasoning and questioning the rest. Responsibility should be taught at home. But does that mean teenagers should be kept from opportunities to practice it? In this episode, I consider what a part-time jo...

Your kids are watching you more closely than you realize. They see how you lead, how you respond, what you believe, and the kind of man you are becoming. And sometimes, they see something in you that you have a hard time seeing in yourself. In this episode, I share a personal moment with my son that reminded me just how much weight our example carries as fathers. The challenge is simple: Strive to...

If you want to become a better dad, personal discipline matters more than you might think. And strangely enough, one of the best lessons I’ve learned about discipline came from watching cucumber plants grow in our garden. As the plant reaches toward the sun, it continually grabs hold of fixed points around it. Those anchors give it support as it grows and help keep one disruption from bringing the...

Most fathers want to be good providers. We work hard to give our children a safe home, good clothes, opportunities, experiences, and the things we believe will help them have a good life. But providing for your children is about more than giving them good things. In this episode, I talk about Jehovah-Jireh and what it actually means. Because the way God provides for us needs to shape the way we th...

No matter where you find yourself as a Christian, whether that be a faithful disciple or a full-time minister, you can never use God as an excuse to be absent from your family. That was never God’s design nor will it ever be His desire. In this episode, I talk about identity and what it really means to put God first. As Christian fathers, our first identity is as disciples of Jesus. But that shoul...

Every dad knows the pressure of a child acting out in public. The restaurant gets loud. The store gets uncomfortable. People start looking. And suddenly, you are not just dealing with your child’s behavior, you are dealing with your own reaction too. In this episode, I talk about one of the most important responsibilities we have as fathers: training our children at home for the real world. Our ho...

Your kids may trust you completely when they are little, but will they still trust you when they grow up? In this episode, I talk about a simple moment with my youngest daughter that hit me hard. She was tired, I picked her up, and she completely relaxed in my arms. In that moment, I realized I was a safe harbor for her. But I do not want to only be that while my kids are young. I want to remain a...

Every dad gets angry. The question is not whether anger will show up, but what we do when it does. In this episode, I talk honestly about anger in fatherhood, why it can rise so quickly, and how Christian dads can respond without damaging their children. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin,” and that verse gives fathers both permission to recognize anger and a warning not to let it contr...

As fathers, we cannot rely on a "been there, done that" mindset. Our children are growing up in a world shaped by smartphones, artificial intelligence, and cultural changes that many of us never experienced. If we want to lead our families well, we must keep learning. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Tim Elmore, author, and leadership and generational expert, for one of the most insi...

If you want to become a better father, one of the most important questions you can ask is this: Does the fruit of the Spirit show up in the way I treat my children? In this episode, I challenge Christian dads to examine whether their parenting reflects the character of God. Too often, we justify impatience, anger, harshness, and control in the name of discipline. But biblical parenting should be m...

Why don’t my kids listen? If you’ve ever asked that question as a dad, you’re not alone. Every father reaches a point where he wonders how to get his kids to listen, obey, and follow direction without constant frustration. In this episode, I break down what actually works when it comes to getting your kids to listen. This is not about yelling louder or repeating yourself more. It is about learning...

A couple of weeks ago I shared the best idea for Mother’s Day, but some moms did not agree. So I found out what the issue was. The problem was not with the moms or with my idea. The problem was with their husbands. This week on the podcast, I am addressing something Christian dads seem to miss when it comes to parenting. We are quick to define ourselves as protectors and providers, but we miss the...

Many fathers want to help their children succeed, but sometimes our help can quietly become control. If we are not careful, we can do so much for our kids that we never teach them how to do things for themselves. In this episode, I talk about why healthy fatherhood includes preparing our children for independence. I share how dads can raise capable, confident kids by giving them responsibility, te...

Most dads think the key to leading their home is having the right answers. But sometimes what we really need is to ask better questions and listen. In this episode, I share a simple conversation I had with my five-year-old daughter (thanks to my digital question cards - link below) that caught me off guard. I asked what she thought was most important to our family. Her answer was not what I expect...

When it comes to being a great husband, there are a few days we need to remember: her birthday, Valentine’s Day, your wedding anniversary, and of course, Mother’s Day. I grew up watching my dad spend lots of money on purses, perfumes, and other luxuries for my mom on Mother’s Day, while simply sharing the credit with me and my sister. That’s what I thought I was supposed to do… until I cracked the...

Some dads think being present means just being around but your kids can feel the difference between being there and being close. In this episode, I talk about something simple that has a massive impact on your relationship with your children. Proximity. Not just physical presence, but intentional closeness. As fathers, we are called to model our lives after our Heavenly Father, and one of the most...

If our kids don’t take our words seriously, it’s not because they’re stubborn. It’s because something is broken in how we communicate as dads. In this episode, I talk about what it really means to be a father of your word. Not just saying the right things, but actually following through in a way that builds trust, respect, and strong relationships with your children. I walk through a real story wi...

Every father has faced it. The meltdown in public. The tears. The frustration. The moment when you feel your patience slipping and you just want the behavior to stop. In this episode, I share a moment I witnessed between a dad and his little daughter at Chick-fil-A that stuck with me. Watching that interaction reminded me how easy it is for fathers to react out of frustration instead of leading wi...

Every dad would say, "I would die for my kid." It sounds powerful. It sounds noble. And in many ways it is true. Most dads would step in front of danger without hesitation. But what about the everyday moments? The challenge is not simply being willing to die for our kids in one dramatic moment. The real challenge is choosing to live for them every single day. In this episode you will lea...