Every Man’s Battle Podcast

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟓 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Part 2 of the Key Elements of Transformation series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes draw on Gabor Maté’s insight that the real question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?” They show how sexual acting out is a flawed attempt to soothe unaddressed childhood wounds, and they model a compassionate, curious way of revisiti...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟒 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Part 1 of a two‑episode series on the key elements of transformation, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes unpack why sexual integrity is about far more than “not looking at porn” or “trying harder.” They distinguish behavior modification from grace‑centered heart change, emphasizing that without surrender, story work, and community, m...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟑 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn this Season 3 “meet the facilitators” episode, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes interview Joe Elliott, an Every Man’s Battle breakout‑group and Sustained Victory facilitator whose story spans childhood exposure to sexualized media, decades of acting out across nearly all sexual boundaries, and a powerful turn toward freedom and ser...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟐 Show NotesFrom Dallas during an Every Man’s Battle Intensive, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their “Finding What Matters” series—shifting from what to look for in a woman to the deeper question, “What kind of man am I becoming?” They unpack why character, emotional health, and humility matter more than perfection or chemistry, and sh...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟏 Show NotesRecording on the road in Dallas before an Every Man’s Battle Intensive, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes explore something that shapes both sexual integrity and relationships: mentoring. This episode looks at why so many younger men lack mentors, how that leaves them confused about relationships and values, and why older men often und...

Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes equip men for one of the most critical moments in recovery: answering a crisis call from a struggling brother. They show how to respond with a no‑shame posture, deep listening, and practical support instead of panic, lectures, or quick‑fix advice.​You’ll learn:Why your first words should be, “Thank you for calling—you are loved and still part of the herd...

Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes get super practical in this episode, teaching men how to do 5‑minute check‑in calls that actually support sexual integrity instead of turning into 30‑minute gripe sessions or sports talk. They walk through a simple template—feelings, boundaries, triggers, helpful tools, upcoming risks, and a final honesty question—and demonstrate the difference between a...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣'𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟖 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off a Season 3 mini‑series introducing Every Man's Battle facilitators by sitting down with Eric Thomas, LMFT. Eric shares his powerful story: early exposure to his father's porn stash, NFL dreams shattered by a shooting at 20, years of shame over his scarred body, transactional relationships, and...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Recording from the Intimacy in Marriage Workshop, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their conversation on acting in, the quieter counterpart to acting out. In Part 2, they move from definition to application—exploring why acting in matters even if a man has stopped acting out, how it often grows out of childhood trauma re...

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟔 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes unpack acting in—the often‑ignored twin of acting out. Instead of running to porn or affairs, many men manage shame and fear by withdrawing, shutting down, stonewalling, or overworking to avoid real connection. This episode helps you recognize those patterns and see how acting in and acting out are two...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE panelist and author of Understanding Your Attachment Style, for part two of their deep dive on attachment styles and sexual propensities. In this episode, they unpack the Vacillator and Chaotic/Disorganized (Controller...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE co‑host and author of Understanding Your Attachment Style, for a powerful episode on how attachment styles shape sexual behavior and acting out.​In this first of a two‑part conversation, they focus on the Avoider and P...

START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their deep dive into the role of empathy in sexual integrity recovery. Building on last week’s episode, they explore how empathy creates safe spaces, how to practice self‑empathy, and how to sit with a betrayed spouse in her pain without becoming defensive or shutting down.​In this honest co...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed Marriage Family Therapist JJ West and Licensed Professional Counselor Doug Barnes continue Season 3 with a crucial conversation on the role of empathy in sexual integrity recovery.​In this episode, they explore why empathy is not “soft” or optional, but central to healing—from how God empathizes with us, to how we learn to extend e...

📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off Season 3 with a powerful conversation on what really works in sexual integrity recovery—ancient paths, clear boundaries, daily structure, brotherhood, and the “gift of getting caught.”​In this episode, they:Unpack Jeremiah 6:16 and why recovery is a path, not a quick fix. Share real-life...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West and Doug Barnes reflect on what they have learned through recovery and wish they could share with younger versions of themselves to spare themselves fr...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss how childhood sexual abuse impacts adult behavior, emphasizing the importance of therapy and the book "The Wounded Heart" by Da...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West and Doug Barnes continue discussing neurobiology and neurochemistry as it relates to sexual addiction. The explain the neurochemical processes in porno...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the impact neurobiology and neurochemistry have on sexual addiction, emphasizing the need to balance understanding of these pro...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss maintaining hope and progress in recovery when their partner feels stuck. They emphasize the importance of internalizing recove...

Too many men suffer alone. The battle you fight is real, and the solution must be honest. Season 3 launches January, 2026. JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest voices bring real stories, expert counsel, and the truth that sets men free. Whether you're battling addiction, shame, relational breakdown, or simply seeking perseverance. This podcast is your next step. Explore the Everyman's Battle podcast no...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss why one's best thinking and efforts are not enough to overcome addiction, sharing that believing this lie can lead to isolation...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis continue their conversation about talking to your kids about your sexual addiction. They share guidelines for d...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis share a framework for talking to your kids about your sexual addiction. Have a topic you would like to hear? Em...

Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again. JJ West and Doug Barnes offer insight to help clergy be well-informed and equipped to support couples navigating the betrayal and recovery process, including w...